What Excites Us!

Join us as we welcome Aubri Lancaster, an AASECT certified sexuality educator, to explore the nuanced and often misunderstood realms of asexuality and aromanticism. Aubrey shares her personal journey from conducting adult toy parties to discovering her own asexual and gray romantic identities. We unravel the definitions of asexuality and aromanticism, shedding light on the spectrum of these experiences, including terms like gray romantic. Aubrey's insights challenge societal expectations of romantic relationships and emphasize the importance of understanding and respecting diverse orientations.

Listen in as we unpack the complexity of asexuality and aromanticism, highlighting the diversity within these identities through the lens of the Asexual Community Survey. We discuss how self-identification empowers individuals and the need to create space for all experiences on the spectrum. Aubrey also touches on the societal pressures to make asexuality more palatable and advocates for nuanced understanding and open dialogue about personal experiences, moving beyond mere myth-busting.

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Please visit Aubri Lancaster at:
Her Website - AceSexEducator.com
On Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/acesexeducation/ 
On Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/AubriLancasterSE
On Threads - https://www.threads.net/@acesexeducation

People she mentions:

Miranda Fricker - Epistemic Injustice: Power and the Ethics of Knowing
https://amzn.to/4glOryB

Lisa Orlando - Author of the Asexual Manifesto
https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2019/08/01/lisa-orlando-author-of-the-asexual-manifesto-1972/

Myra T. Johnson
https://acearchive.lgbt/artifacts/johnson-asexual-and-autoerotic-women/

Boston Marriages: Romantic but Asexual Relationships Among Contemporary Lesbians Paperback – November 17, 1993, by Esther D. Rothblum (Editor), Kathleen A. Brehony (Editor)
https://amzn.to/3z7vQFT

Bella DePaulo - Single at Heart - https://amzn.to/3XotpXs 

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In this episode of 'What Excites Us,' Francis Bollwage shares his mission to foster deep human connections in a world often dominated by digital disconnection. 

He recounts his near-death experience and how it shifted his consciousness, leading him to explore spirituality, sensuality, and community dynamics, specifically through finding the BDSM community.

Francis delves into the therapeutic and spiritual benefits of Shibari, and other types of rope bondage, his workshops designed to foster connection, and the integration of aromatherapy using essential oils to enhance the experience. 

Throughout the conversation, he emphasizes the importance of forming connections beyond physical intimacy, embracing spirituality, and the profound impact of aroma on memory and experience.

You can find Francis on:

Instagram: @snarfox.wild.wellness/

Website: wildenergyessentials.com
Facebook: Franciscus D. Peragranator & Wild Energy Essentials
Fetlife: SnarFox 

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Rope Kit - https://amzn.to/3MOZBOW
Foundations of Rope Bondage: A Fun and Friendly Introduction to Rope Fundamentals - https://amzn.to/3XrHCD0

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How can exploring your deepest desires transform your life?
Jay House joins us to unravel her fascinating journey from Monogamy to ENM to a celibacy practice. Please join us as we celebrate the joy of human connections, the power of words, and the importance of staying true to one's core values in the journey of personal growth.

We discuss Jay's journey from Mama Gena’s program as the beginning of identifying her true desires, beyond just sexuality, leading to a significant breakup and a redefined understanding of relationships. She shares her shift from being a straight, monogamous woman to embracing identities like polyamorous, ethically non-monogamous, and kinky, revealing the profound changes and personal growth that followed.

Venturing further, we explore the realm of non-romantic, intimate spiritual partnerships, diving into the challenges of defining and understanding these unique connections. Jay discusses her bold six-month celibacy experiment aimed at achieving emotional and nervous system sobriety. She details the journey’s constraints, including avoiding sexual play and genital contact while still engaging in certain kink scenes.

Together, we examine the potential benefits of this personal experiment, emphasizing self-exploration and the importance of setting boundaries for a focused and introspective path.

Finally, we shift our focus to the critical aspect of integration and self-awareness in personal development. Reflecting on various courses and teachings, such as BDSM practices, shamanic kink, and urban tantra, we highlight the value of integrating this knowledge into one’s life. The discussion touches on understanding different parts of oneself and how this awareness fosters better communication and healthier relationships.

To connect with Jay on Substack - https://futuristphilospher.substack.com/
Or on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jaylamarhouse

We talked about these Programs:
-Mama Gena - https://mamagenas.com/
-Kasia Urbaniak - https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/
-Shamanic Kink - https://www.shamanickink.com/
-Jay was talking about the Professionals Training program that Barbara Carrellas, the author of
-Urban Tantra runs - https://barbaracarrellas.com/
-Om Rupani - https://www.omrupani.com/
-The Five Personality Types by Stephen Kessler - https://the5personalitypatterns.com/

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What does it truly mean to feel alive and embrace who you are right now? Join us as we embark on a powerful conversation with Dr. Fanny, the incredible host of "Your Sexyfied Life."

In this episode, Dr. Fanny challenges the relentless societal pressure for self-improvement, advocating instead for finding joy and contentment in our present selves. Drawing from her rich experience in gynecology and the positive feedback on her soothing voice, Dr. Fanny shares her inspiring journey of launching her podcast to help others step out of survival mode and thrive. We also dive into the nuanced process of self-discovery and healing.

Dr. Fanny discusses the importance of individualized wellness over trend-chasing, the courage to embrace our emotional messiness, and the subjective nature of pain. The conversation reaches a poignant climax as we explore the deep connection between sexual energy and life's essence. Dr. Fanny beautifully illustrates how reclaiming this suppressed energy can unlock our creative potential and deepen our connection to life's vibrancy. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of what it means to live fully and authentically, despite life's inevitable challenges.

Please visit Dr. Fanny at https://www.fannyleboulanger.com/ And find Your Sexyfied Life wherever you listen to podcasts

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Ever wondered how your attachment style shapes your relationships or why certain emotional blockages manifest as physical pain?

This episode promises to reveal the transformative journey of intimacy through the expert guidance of Shelby Avann, an intimacy coach and healer. With a foundation in attachment theory, sexuality, kink, Tantra, and energy healing, Shelby's approach is multifaceted and deeply insightful.

Learn how Reiki can uncover hidden emotional obstacles and understand the profound connection between your root and sacral chakras and your overall well-being. Shelby Avann’s expertise shines as we explore the complexities of attachment styles and their profound impact on our relationships.

Discover the four primary attachment styles—secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant—and gain insights into how these patterns are formed and how they can evolve over time. Shelby shares practical tools for identifying core wounds, setting healthy boundaries, and moving towards a more secure attachment style, fostering not just improved relationships but also personal growth and emotional resilience.

Our conversation doesn't stop there. We dive into Shelby's specialized three-month coaching program tailored for the queer, kink, and polyamory communities, highlighting the benefits of one-on-one versus group coaching. Learn about the importance of self-consent, body awareness, and how understanding Jaya's Erotic Blueprints can revolutionize your sexual experiences. Shelby's vision for accessible online programs underscores the potential for significant, positive change, creating ripples of transformation within our communities.

Join us for an episode brimming with insights and practical tips for fostering intimacy and healing.

Learn more about Shelby and her offerings at:
https://www.shelbyavann.ca
And follow her on IG:
https://www.instagram.com/shelby.avann

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Unlock your inner strength and build confidence by embracing kink in both intimate settings and daily life!

Join me, Gwyn Isaacs, as I share personal updates and engage in an enlightening conversation with Amy Rowan, the Suburban Sexologist. Discover how kink can dismantle societal stigma and enhance personal empowerment, leading to profound changes not just in the bedroom but throughout your life.

Navigate your intimate relationships with newfound clarity by exploring boundaries and preferences through practical tools like the "yes, no, maybe" list. Learn how effective communication and respect for each other's limits can deepen intimacy and trust. We also share innovative strategies, such as using Google Docs for feedback and making small daily requests, to empower you to confidently express your desires.

These techniques can positively influence your life outside the bedroom as well. Delve into the nuanced dance between pain and pleasure in kink, emphasizing the crucial aspects of consent, safety, and aftercare. Understand the power dynamics between tops and bottoms, the importance of safe words, and how regular check-ins can ensure a pleasurable experience for all.

Lastly, I extend my heartfelt gratitude to Amy Rowan for her valuable insights and leave you with a warm note of appreciation for your continued support on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

You can find Amy at TheSuburbanSexologist.com

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Episode Summary:
In this episode, Gwyn Isaacs interviews Julia Sheldon, also known as Auntie Julia or Ask Auntie Julia, about the healthy relating camp for teens that she is creating. They discuss the importance of healthy relationships and how the camp aims to set teenagers up for success in all areas of their lives. Julia shares details about the camp, including the activities, sleeping arrangements, and the focus on experiential learning. They also touch on Julia's work with adults and how she helps them navigate their relationships. This episode provides valuable insights for both teenagers and adults on how to relate better with others and foster healthier relationships.

About the Guest(s):
Julia Sheldon, also known as Auntie Julia or Ask Auntie Julia, is a sex and relationship educator for teens. She has been working with teenagers for 25 years and has a degree in sexuality, marriage, and family studies from St. Jerome's University. Julia is the founder and director of Connection Camp, a healthy relating camp for teens. She is passionate about empowering teenagers to have healthy relationships and providing a safe space for them to be themselves.

Key Takeaways:
Connection Camp is a healthy relating camp for teens that aims to set teenagers up to have the kinds of relationships they want in their lives.
The camp provides a safe and inclusive environment where teenagers can openly discuss, learn about, and understand the dynamics of healthy relationships.
The camp focuses on experiential learning, using activities, games, and workshops to teach teenagers about consent, boundaries, emotional regulation, and more.
Julia and her team of staff members, who come from diverse backgrounds, are committed to modeling healthy relationships and providing a supportive and non-judgmental space for teenagers.
The camp offers opportunities for personal growth, self-discovery, and building strong friendships, and aims to empower teenagers to be accountable for their physical, emotional, and mental well-being.

Connection Camp website: connectioncamp.org
Auntie Julia's website: askauntiejulia.com
Auntie Julia on Instagram: @askauntiejulia
The Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Lisa Damour: book

https://thesuburbansexologist.com/gwyn-isaacs
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In this episode, Gwyn interviews Jennifer Rahner, a certified body sex facilitator and sex educator. Jenn shares her journey from working in IT to pursuing her passion for sexual education. She explains the Body Sex experience, as founded by Betty Dodson, which involves a group of vulva owners coming together to explore their bodies, share their experiences, and learn techniques for achieving orgasm.

They discuss the power of body sex in creating a sense of sisterhood and acceptance, and how it can be a transformative experience. She also talks about her plans to expand body sex to include all genders and the importance of inclusive sexual education, as well as facilitating Body Sex online.

About the Guest(s):
Jennifer Rahner is a certified body sex facilitator and sex educator. She offers virtual and in-person classes focused on anatomy, pleasure, and body acceptance. A professional writer for more than two decades, she is passionate about helping people experience more pleasure in their lives - sexual and otherwise. You can learn more at JenniferRahner.com or find her as @geekysexlove

Notable Quotes:
"When somebody gets up the nerve to come and learn from me, it's a wonderful thing. That first step is the hardest one." - Jennifer Rahner

"Body sex feels like getting back to our roots and sharing information that is our birthright." - Jennifer Rahner

"Education is the key to reducing unwanted pregnancies, STI transmission, and sexual assault. We need to normalize conversations about sexuality and provide comprehensive sexual education." - Jennifer Rahner

Resources:
JenniferRahner.com
Bodysex.com

More about Soft Cock Week and Michelle Renee
https://earthlydesire.com/podcast/episode-45-michelle-renee-intimacy-guide/

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This tell-all episode is with my friend Blue.

We have a fantastic conversation where Blue discusses his sexual journey and preferences, including his experience as a serial monogamist and his exploration of exhibitionism. He talks about the importance of communication in his relationship and how his own sexual practices have positively impacted his connection with his partner. Blue also shares his interest in watching real people in pornography and his desire to be desired. He reflects on his changing body and attraction to his partner over time.

**About The Guest:**
Blue is a middle-aged man who identifies as heterosexual and has been in a long-term relationship with his partner for 13 years. He describes himself as a serial monogamist and is interested in exploring exhibitionism and other aspects of his sexuality.

​ **Key Takeaways:** 
- Blue is a heterosexual man who identifies as a serial monogamist.
- He has been in a long-term relationship with his partner for 13 years and finds their sexual connection to be loving and reaffirming.
- Blue enjoys watching real people in pornography and has explored exhibitionism through sharing pictures and videos with his partner.
- He desires to be desired and finds attraction to be a complex and multi-faceted experience. ​

**Great Quotes:**
- "Sex now, 13 years into our relationship, is better than it's ever been."
- "My desire is to be desired."
- "I find my wife sexier now than I did in the beginning."

If you enjoy listening to my Gen Xness, it really shines in this one, I literally say to the max!

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Jeana Jorgensen is a folklorist and gender studies scholar.
She holds a Ph.D. in Folklore and Gender Studies from Indiana University and has taught at various universities. Jeanna has published numerous academic articles and book chapters on gender and sexuality in folklore, literature, and pop culture. Her current research focuses on ethical non-monogamies and the history of sex education.

Summary: In this episode, Gwyn interviews Jeana Jorgensen, a folklorist and gender studies scholar, about the intersection of folklore and sex education. Jeana discusses how folklore influences our understanding of sex and sexuality, and how it shapes our beliefs and attitudes. She also explores the history of sex education and the role of folklore in shaping cultural norms and values. Jeanna emphasizes the importance of understanding folklore in order to challenge and change harmful narratives around sex and sexuality.

Key Takeaways:
Folklore is informally transmitted traditional culture that shapes our beliefs, attitudes, and stereotypes around sex and sexuality. Moral panics and conspiracy theories often target marginalized groups as scapegoats for societal issues.

Sex education has a long history of moral panics and censorship, influenced by figures like Anthony Comstock and the Comstock laws. Fairy tales have been used to perpetuate gender roles and heteronormative ideals, but they can also be reimagined to challenge and subvert these norms.

Folklore and sex education are intertwined, and understanding folklore can help us challenge harmful narratives and promote inclusive and accurate sex education.

Pick up a copy of Sex Education 101 at:
www.folklore101.com
or by visiting her website:
JeanaJorgensen.com
You can follow Jeana on X and other Social Media Platforms using the handle
FoxyFolklorist

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