What Excites Us!

If you listened to the previous episode, some of this will be familiar. This is the whole raw conversation with Mollena Lee Williams-Haas where we talk about her project The Kink Doula, and also a bunch of other random Gen X stuff, growing up in the city, etc.

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Mollena Lee Williams-Haas is a writer, actor, singer, and distinguished member of the Kink Community. She was International Ms. Leather in 2010, hosts a fantastic podcast of her own, All That and Mo’, has written two very useful books of her own, and has several essays published in other’s books. She is married to her beloved owner and spousemiester Georg Frederich Haas, together they are the subjects of a delightful documentary called The Artist and The Pervert.

This conversation is mostly about Her Kink Doula project and how she is helping folks by offering individualized coaching. We also talked about why saying a class is for everybody when it’s not if you aren’t addressing how different bodies and different skin types react to various stimuli, particularly kinky stimuli. There was also lots of just chatting about random things including travel, packing, and her best come back ever.

Next week I will be posting the raw conversation as a bonus episode, where there is even more laughter and rambling, and it’s so fun.

Her Podcast: All That and Mo’

Her Books: Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams
The Toybag Guide to Playing With Taboo (Toybag Guides)

She shouts out Substantia Jones of The Adipositivity Project: https://theadipositivityproject.zenfolio.com/

I talk with Jamie Cawelti of Sex Positive World in this conversation. We learn about their mission, their methods and get lots of tidbits along the way of how to enjoy healthier happier sex lives for ourselves along the way. As well as touching on Jamie's personal story and more.

Sex Positive World is an umbrella organization that encourages and supports worldwide sex positive communities. We are an entirely volunteer-run non-profit committed to changing societal ideas and values around sexuality through education and empowerment.
This organization was founded in 2009 as a single chapter in Portland, Oregon, and we have since expanded to more than 5000 members and 10 chapters in cities across the US and Europe.

Thier umbrella covers all aspects of human sexuality including gender and orientation (LGBTQIA), relationship styles (monogamy-polyamory), and sexual expressions (kink, tantra, lifestyle). We focus on consent and boundaries, how to have a sexy safer sex talk, body-positivity, healthy touch, sexual health, reproductive freedom, trans rights, anti-racism (yes, this is a sex positive issue!), sex-positive parenting, and more.

To learn more about what was mentioned please follow these links:
Sexpositiveworld.com
Jamie Cawelti - @ExploringJamie on all the socials

Maketimeforthetalk.com
Marla Renee Stewart https://www.marlareneestewart.com
Andrea Allen Andrea Allan (@andreacomedy69)

Books:
Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin A. Patterson
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, & Other Adventures by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good (Emergent Strategy) Part of: Emergent Strategy (8 books) - by Adrienne Maree Brown and AK Press
Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out - by Jessica Graham

Master Arch is my guest for this episode. He is an OG findom and lifetime sex worker who identifies as an emotional sadist and slut. He’s constantly pushing the envelope in content creation and in how he shows up in his fetish work.

This conversation is not for the faint at heart or timid sexual explorer.

We dive into some extreme play talk and views on being a dom, living life to the fullest, and exploration of mining trauma for play. Arch describes himself as an arrogant master financial dom who knows what he wants and has clients who provide it for him. I ask that if you choose to listen you do so with an open mind. You don’t have to agree with everything he says, but to be able to understand you do need to truly hear.

To learn more about Master Arch he can be found on
Twitter at @AllForArch
He is MasterArch on FetLife
Or his website is www.AllForMasterArch.com

We met online as a part of a Facebook group for sex professionals who have been to Sex Geek Summer Camp, a wonderful place to learn how to better promote your sexuality business, and network.
Find out more at sexgeeksummercamp.com

Tonya Holliday of the Swipe Left (or Right) podcast joins me on this episode to talk about her podcast, how it came to be and some of her stories similar to what you would hear when listening to Swipe Left or Right.
We also cover lots of thoughts and ideas when it comes to online dating including: tips around creating your profile, meeting people in person for the first time or what she calls first contact, dating in general, boundaries, safety, why coffee is the best first date, and more. You can subscribe to Swipe Left (or Right) wherever you are listening now, and all other fine podcast players.

When you do that, please take a moment to rate or review What Excites UIs! It helps so much, and is truly appreciated! (And of course subscribe, if you aren’t already)

THANK YOU!

Please Visit whatexcitesus.com to buy amazing lube and other personal products, listen to past episodes, join the Patreon where we have raw and no ad versions of most of the conversations, learn more about Gwyn, and so much more.

This episode I’m chatting with Lucia Gabriela who is bringing three workshops to Long Island this July. Links for tickets below Our conversation starts by learning a little bit about Lucia and her journey including how healing from cancer as a teenager eventually brought her to leading these workshops and creating the Sarasota Dark Temple.

We talk about the importance of energetics and how resentments affect relationships. Lucia discussed how important intentions are as well as giving consideration to all aspects of sensations involved in a scene. She tells us a little bit about her system of bringing Tantra and Kink together called Tantrikink. Over the course of the chat we glean lots of tidbits that we can begin putting to use right away in our intimate lives.

Lucia Gabriela helps individuals and couples to master their life, relationships, and intimacy with themselves and others.

As a Trauma-Informed Relationship and Intimacy Coach, Lucia Gabriela creates a sacred and safe space for individuals and couples to heal, transform, and uplevel their relationships. As a result, clients learn how to develop conscious and meaningful intimacy.

As a Trauma-Informed Somatic Therapist and Tantra Facilitator, Lucia Gabriela specializes in and works with individuals whose journey is to liberate themselves from emotional and sexual traumas. She helps them reclaim their creative power, body, voice, sensuality, and sexuality and welcomes pleasure into their lives, creations, and relationships. Lucia Gabriela offers her coaching and somatic services at Nuna Holistic Retreat Center.

As a Trauma-Informed Therapeutic Kink Practitioner and TantriKink® Creator, Lucia Gabriela fuses the power of Tantra and Kink/BDSM to help clients connect with their body wisdom, discover their erotic archetypes, and master their erotic energy.

As a Trauma-Informed Event Producer, Lucia Gabriela founded Sacred Love Temple (Tantric Shamanic Community & Events), Sarasota Dark Temple (Conscious Kink/BDSM Community & Events), and Sol y Luna Tantric Shamanic Retreat-Festival and Intimacy and Desire 2.0 Conference. Lucia Gabriela is also the co-producer of Turn On Miami™ and eXplore Tantra Festival™.

As a Trauma-Informed Intimacy Expert, Lucia Gabriela is the Tantric Shamanic Somatic Healing, TSSH™ Certification Trainings co-teacher.

If you are near New York in July, consider going to her events:
Kink ßDSM Workshop: Dark Eros Initiation (Long Island, NY) - https://rb.gy/ws871
Sensual Embodiment: A Tantric Journey for Women (Long Island, NY) - https://rb.gy/rzbn4
The Art of Ecstatic Intimacy - A Tantric Date for Couples (Long Island, NY) https://rb.gy/hto7y

And if you are near Sarasota Florida anytime look into the offerings she hosts at
https://sacredlovetemple.com/
and https://floridakinkbdsm.com/

Over in the Patreon there is bonus content where we go into some of the myths involved in kink and Tantra.
You can find that at:
www.patreon.com/whatexcitesus
And please visit whatexcitesus.com
for links to great lube, past episodes and more

Gwyn goes raw and unscripted with this one. After receiving several questions in quick succession she decided to talk about this topic that doesn’t come up much. As a lifelong feminist, she is a little surprised that this topic felt so important. But, the fact is that when people are suffering they do more harm to others, so it seems valuable to discuss.

After the initial rant, she discusses how to use and craft an affirmation to help anyone heal, and then goes into a couple of the questions that prompted the talk in the first place. Even off handed comments can strike deeply, so please let’s stop talking about other people’s bodies!

To talk about coaching with Gwyn please visit earthlydesire.com
or send her an email at [email protected]
WhatExitesUs.com has all the other pertinent links

Join my guest Sam Leeson and I as we discuss the importance of fertility awareness whether you want or don’t want to conceive. How being knowledgeable in how your body works plays a part in that, and how to teach children to be comfortable with their bodies and what their bodies may do.

Sam’s expertise in family planning with and as a member of the 2SLGBTQIA+ community, leads to some great conversation around hormones and how they affect all of us, and how to potentially handle some of what comes up for trans folks, among other things. Sam Leeson has dedicated herself to supporting individuals and couples for over two decades, providing education, coaching, and guidance to those looking to start or expand their families.

As the founder of babyREADY (including babyREADYlgbtq), she has helped hundreds of people navigate the journey of parenthood.

Visit www.babyREADY.info for more information about Sam and her organization.

And don't forget to visit whatexcitesus.com

When I was in Vegas I got to see the Burlesque Hall of Fame, And, I was lucky enough that the director Dustin M. Wax agreed to sit down and talk to me. We talked about how the museum came to exist, why it’s important, a little bit about some of these amazing performers, how gender plays out in the neo-burlesque movement and the previous incarnations, as well as some advice for aspiring performers and so much more.

When you are in Las Vegas, you should plan on a visit, it’s right in the Downtown Arts District, easy to get to and well worth the time. To learn more visit https://www.burlesquehall.com

We mentioned so many great performers and teased you with little bits about a bunch of fun history, I thought I’d help you get a headstart with some links. And please be sure to visit whatexcitesus.com too.

Lydia Thompson and her contribution to 19th century American Theater: https://editions.covecollective.org/chronologies/lydia-thompsons-contribution-19th-century-burlesque-theater-america

Tempest Storm comes up a few times: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tempest_Storm https://www.burlesquehall.com/tempest-storm/

Sally Rand: https://www.kqed.org/arts/13902628/the-burlesque-pioneer-who-fought-censorship-and-multiple-arrests

Every Rocky Horror’s Fan Favorite, Lili St. Cyr: https://www.burlesquehall.com/museumathome-burlesque-legends-lili-st-cyr/

A little bit about the Riot Grrl Movement: https://www.nme.com/blogs/nme-blogs/brief-history-riot-grrrl-space-reclaiming-90s-punk-movement-2542166

The Something Weird Video Channel https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingWeirdDotCom/featured

An Interview with a couple of Burlesque Legends, including Jennifer Fox: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTxj2Vi94sM

A little bit about Hedy Jo Star: https://zagria.blogspot.com/2012/01/hedy-jo-star-1920-1999-showgirl.html

The post mentioned about Marinka: https://www.burlesquehall.com/transgender-day-of-visibility-honoring-marinka/

Aida Overton Walker’s Wiki page https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aida_Overton_Walker

Tony Midnite’s Wiki Page https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tony_Midnite

About Jennie Lee: http://redhotsburlesque.com/2013/legend-jennie-lee/

About Sherry Britton: https://burlexe.com/burlesque/burlesque-icons/sherry-britton-burlesque-history/

Luna Pearl is my guest on this episode about lingerie. She is a Sex Coach in training at Sex Coach U, a Meditation Coach, owner of Pink Pearl Lingerie, and Lingerie Talk Magazine. The purpose behind everything she does is to empower women to get sexy for themselves first! And using Lingerie as a tool to unblock and heighten sensuality can help us feel connected to our bodies, be more grounded, and comfortable in your own skin.
We discuss a variety of topics including:
Why Lingerie is Luna’s Superpower and how it can be yours.
Why comfort is the most important aspect of lingerie. How to approach picking out lingerie for the first time, and some tips and strategies for doing that, both online and in person.
And the myth of women not liking each other

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