What Excites Us!

This is a conversation with two women who tell a powerful and unique story of how the two of them came to know each other through the magic of science, genetics, and the internet. Marion was an egg donor while completing a master's degree, and Zoe is the result of one of her gifts to parents to be.

Cover photo of Zoe and Marion by Raquel Reis, web site is http://raquelreis.com

Music notes: Opening Theme - The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628

Coaching Ad - Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962

Patreon Ad - Let me talk, Carol (instrumental) by Josh Woodward - Found on FMA The Free Music Archive

End Music - Mo’ Baby by ETRNLproducer from Pixabay

Kathleen Ashford owns and operates the InnThrall B&B, a luxury kinky destination in Pennsylvania. She is a retired professional Dominatrix from the Seattle area, where the first incarnation of InnThrall was located. She moved east right before the pandemic started and has had plenty of time to build it to the perfect covid safe haven getaway, for people who are lifestyle players, those who would like to try out some toys, or even folks who just want an extremely private B&B with an indoor pool under the stars! Visit innthrall.com to book your vacation!

This episode is a very edited version of the conversation Erik House and I had. In the episode we discuss transpersonal psychology and how Erik uses it for coaching, as well as spiritual bypassing, ethics, healing and so much more. Erik House (he/they), is a life and relationship coach, along with being a spiritual guide and healer. He holds a MA in Transpersonal Psychology from Sofia University and works closely with people in the polyamorous, consensual non-monogamy.
As a coach, he helps individuals, polycules, and moresomes in digging down to find what their unmet needs are so that they can create the lives and relationships they’ve always wanted. In addition to coaching, he offers tarot and oracle card readings and energy healing His training includes, Usui Reiki Master/Teacher, IET Advanced, Magical Awakening Level 8.

Erik’s contact info:
Polyamory and CNM Word Search (subscribepage.com)
[email protected]
Lovemultipliescoaching.com

The two Wikipedia articles I mentioned at the beginning of the episode: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychosynthesis https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transpersonal

We also Mentioned: Sword of Truth Comic - https://swordscomic.com/comic/LXXV/
John Welwood - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Welwood
Lara Bates who wrote The Men Who Hate Women
Bell Hooks - An amazing feminist writer

This is a wonderful conversation with Angela Locashio aka Mama Pistachio about her intersectional coaching that helps folks achieve their goals in all areas of their lives and business. We focus mainly on the sexual areas as she talks about the 8 senses (!), and how some techniques or folks with sensory differences can manage this crazy world. We talk about what BDSM is and some reasons people are attracted to it and ways to approach it, especially for those of us who may be neurodivergent. And we discuss some general sexual wellness thoughts and ideas.

Ways to find Angela and other websites discussed:
Mamapistachio.com
Discord.mamapistachio.com
The 8 Senses: https://www.mamapistachio.com/blog/the-8-senses
Autism and sexuality: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11195-020-09624-5
Sexuality & Work: https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/impact-lgbt-supportive-workplaces/
Mobility wall link with a 10% off code: mobilitywall.com/mamapistachio

Emily Nagoski’s book Come as you Are is a wonderful resource and a new version is coming out soon, you can learn more about her at https://www.emilynagoski.com/

This episode is the second in our tell-all series. It is conversation with Wanda, who identifies as trans-feminine and kinky, but is living with their family who are unaware of their interests. We talk about growing up queer in New England, what they like and a variety of sex and sexuality theories. This one is no holds barred as we get into some of the nitty gritty of Wanda’s life and desires. 

If you are interested in being my guest for this type of episode please let me know by sending an email to [email protected]

When I said the last thing in the interview I had two very specific things in mind, this poster which hung in my kitchen at the vintage store I owned, (a picture of the Buddha, saying “chill homie, you need to let that shit go”)

https://fakebuddhaquotes.com/chill-homie-you-need-to-let-that-shit-go/

And this meditation that helped me a lot during the same time period

F*ck That: An Honest Meditation- https://youtu.be/92i5m3tV5XY 

You can learn more about me, or become my coaching client at earthlydesire.com

Please answer the question of the week, or send me a question, comment or story at whatexcites.com

Metamorphosis by TopSecretMusicNetwork found on Pixabay

The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 

This is an amazing episode where I chat with Nanette Minley about sexual healing, including how it benefits your whole life, and why you should use sex to heal! Nannette Minley is an erotic healer who guides visionary creators & magical folks through reclaiming their relationship with their body and sexual expression. She is on a mission to eradicate shame from sexual wellness and create a deeper understanding of the energetics of intimacy. Her website is thickmilfbaddie.com

If you listen within a day or so of this coming out, check out Nannette’s program, Owning your Orgasm at https://square.link/u/fR7LTg1R

Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/

The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode

Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 

I Think I Started A Trend (Instrumental Mix) by artemisstrong (c) copyright 2007 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/artemisstrong/12517 

In this episode, I talk about the human clitoris. I talk about anatomy, dispel a myth or two, talk about what they like, ways to treat them better, and why I call it the glorious Clitardis. 

Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/

References:
Someone cut out a significant part of me: A woman on what it's like living with female genital mutilation - Found on Firstpost 

https://www.firstpost.com/living/someone-cut-out-a-significant-part-of-me-a-woman-on-what-its-like-living-with-female-genital-mutilation-2049655.html 

Can a woman who has undergone a clitoridectomy attain an orgasm? And what are the long-term psychological affects [sic] of enduring a clitoridectomy? - Quora.com - 6 answers

https://www.quora.com/Can-a-woman-who-has-undergone-a-clitoridectomy-attain-an-orgasm-And-what-are-the-long-term-psychological-affects-of-enduring-a-clitoridectomy

The benefits and disappointments following clitoral reconstruction after female genital cutting: A qualitative interview study from Sweden by Malin Jordal, Hannes Sigurjonsson, Gabriele Griffin, Anna Wahlberg - Found on Plos One

https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0254855

Effect of Tongkat Ali on stress hormones and psychological mood state in moderately stressed subjects by Shawn M Talbott,1 Julie A Talbott,1 Annie George,2 and Mike Pugh3 found at the National Center for Biotechnology Information 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3669033/

Female genital mutilation from the World Health Organization 

https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/female-genital-mutilation 

Increasing Sexual Arousal in Women by Racheal Louise - found on Real Herbs 

https://www.realherbs.com/blogs/articles/increasing-sexual-arousal-in-women 

Psychosocial and sexual aspects of female circumcision

Author links open overlay panel S.Abdel-Azim - from African Journal of Urology - Found on Science Direct 

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1110570413000246

What Is Clitoral Atrophy and How’s It Treated? Medically reviewed by Deborah Weatherspoon, Ph.D., R.N., CRNA — Written by Kimberly Holland - Found on Healthline

https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/clitoral-atrophy

Clitoris - From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoris#CITEREFDi_Marino2014 

Le Clitoris - a Short Animated French Film - by Lori Malépart-Traversy

https://vimeo.com/lorimt 

Get Cliterate | Professor Helen O'Connell | TEDxMacRobHS

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JMRZF0Eq3vQ 

9 answers to questions about your G-spot you were too afraid to ask by Sara Hendricks - Found on Insider 

https://www.insider.com/g-spot-common-questions-myths-2018-7

What is the clitoris? And where is it? We made a diagram for you by Nicole Telfer, and Clár McWeeney - Found on Clue

https://helloclue.com/articles/cycle-a-z/what-is-the-clitoris 

Anatomy of the clitoris by Helen E O'Connell 1, Kalavampara V Sanjeevan, John M Hutson Found at on the National Library of Medicine - National Center for Biotechnology Information 

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16145367/ 

The sole function of the clitoris is female orgasm. Is that why it’s ignored by medical science? By Calla Wahlquist - Found at The Guardian 

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/nov/01/the-sole-function-of-the-clitoris-is-female-orgasm-is-that-why-its-ignored-by-medical-science

Clitoral History: A Tale of Love, Loss, and Discovery Found at Nursing Clio 

https://nursingclio.org/2014/03/25/clitoral-history-a-tale-of-love-loss-and-discovery/

Here's How To Find The Clitoris — You Can Thank Us Later by Cory Steig - From Sex School on Refinery 29

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/where-is-the-clit-female-anatomy

You’ve got Nerve:  An abbreviated discussion of the clitoris aka “Clit-story” By Catherine Chavaree - Found at the Mabel Wadsworth Center

https://www.mabelwadsworth.org/2021/02/26/youve-got-nerve-an-abbreviated-discussion-of-the-clitoris-aka-clit-story/

Debunking myths about the clitoris - Myth: 8,000 nerve endings. Jessica Pin Found on Medium.com

https://jessica86.medium.com/debunking-myths-about-the-clitoris-34f34581a6c3

4 Widely Cited Statistics About Sex That Are Actually Fake - by Suzannah Weiss - Found at Kinkly

https://www.kinkly.com/4-widely-cited-statistics-about-sex-that-are-actually-fake/2/17656?fbclid=IwAR1103JUN1Pih1OLiJyzSoaqbjHPOO1OX4ak89kzM2sfECcbqqF07tRXJ_0#rest-of-article

What is Clitoridectomy: Overview, Benefits, and Expected Results Found at docdoc

https://www.docdoc.com/medical-information/procedures/clitoridectomy

Clitoridectomy and Infibulation by Barnes-Dean, Virginia Lee -Found in Cultural Survival Quarterly Magazine

https://www.culturalsurvival.org/publications/cultural-survival-quarterly/clitoridectomy-and-infibulation

Effects of testosterone treatment on clitoral haemodynamics in women with sexual dysfunction by S. Cipriani, E. Maseroli, V. Di Stasi, I. Scavello,T. Todisco, G. Rastrelli, M. Fambrini, F. Sorbi, F. Petraglia, E. A. Jannini, M. Maggi & L. Vignozzi found on - Journal of Endocrinological Investigation 

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40618-021-01598-1
Fetal development: Your baby's genitals and urinary system By Kathleen Scogna  Medically reviewed by Judith Venuti, Ph.D., embryologist - Found at BabyCenter

https://www.babycenter.com/pregnancy/your-baby/fetal-development-your-babys-genitals-and-urinary-system_40005752

This is a conversation with Sex Coach Lex, about his work as a coach, how he helps people get where they want to be, and the foundations needed to get there. Coach Lex is a WASC certified sex coach (WASC stands for World Association of Sex Coaches). He specializes in sexual communication in order to create a world where people can speak about sex as comfortably as they speak about breakfast. His work includes individuals, couples, and the polyamorous community, as well as the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. Lex facilitates groups, workshops, and works with clients one-on-one worldwide.

Coach Lex also publishes a blog on his website sexcoachlex.com known as Bad Sex Advice, where he takes user-submitted bad sex advice, explains what makes them bad, and what you can do instead.

Links discussed or inspired from this conversation:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexcoachlex/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SexCoachLex/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/sexcoachlex

Website: https://www.sexcoachlex.com/

The Blog, Bad Sex Advice: https://www.sexcoachlex.com/blog/

What is Sensate Focus and How does it work - from the Sexual Medicine Society of North America

https://www.smsna.org/patients/did-you-know/what-is-sensate-focus-and-how-does-it-work

Sex Geek Summer Camp is for educators, coaches and others involved in the Sexuality Professional world - https://reidaboutsex.mykajabi.com/I-want-sex-geek-summer-camp-info

Sex Coach U was where both Lex and I trained - https://sexcoachu.com/

Ramit Sethi - https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/

 And check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/

The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode

Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 

Quando  - (Acoustic Guitar)  by JuliusH from Pixabay

In this bonus episode, I am speaking with Linda River Valente she an astrologer, tarot visionary, witch, holistic sexuality educator, burlesque performer, and producer and we are talking about astrology and how we can learn more about ourselves, how it affects our love and sex lives among other things. She also tells us about some important things happening in the sky right now and a little bit of a heads up for what is coming this winter. Because she goes into information regarding right now, I wanted to bring this to you sooner than later, but that is only a piece of the discussion and it’s all really great stuff, so it is well worth listening to even if you are hearing it later than November 2021

Websites mentioned:

Lindarivervalente.net

Linda’s Patreon - https://rb.gy/2hs8mc

Linda’s Facebook - https://rb.gy/zjndnk

A nice article about Saturn’s Return, which includes a link to a list of free places to create your natal chart - https://www.liveabout.com/what-is-the-return-of-saturn-206368

Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/

All music is used under the creative commons attribution license. 

The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode

Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962

This episode is a good one for sexuality professionals, as well as everyone else because I am talking with Ico, the wandering love mystic, about his upcoming summit to help coaches, etc. build a better business, and we discuss the enlightened consent foundation as well as his coaching practices. See, something for most everyone. 

Ico, which stands for the Incredible Caring Organism, is the founder of Enlightened Consent Foundation, which provides kinky, polyamorous and LGBTQ+ identified individuals with transformative experiences and supportive resources so they get to experience being completely seen, honored, and loved to co-create a world where everyone feels that they belong. 

Websites mentioned:

The Enlightened Consent Foundation - enlightenedconsent.org

Ico’s Coaching and Speaking Site, including his freemium to help you figure out your sexual desires - enlightenedconsent.net

Check out the Good Girls Talk About Sex Podcast by Leah Carey - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/

All music is used under the creative commons attribution license. 

The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Ft: Apoxode

Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 

Naughty Marietta by the Victor Herbert Orchestra - Found on the Free Music Archive