What Iz He Thinking

Accountability is easy to assign to others, but much more difficult to take yourself, especially when the outcomes of a situation or relationship are unfavorable or unpleasant.  In this podcast, we discuss how taking accountability for your love life and everything that goes on in it can be a transformational difference-making decision.  If you want to know how not to let your love life happen to you, but instead, how to take control of your romantic life, and proactively shift your mindset in order to improve your romantic outcomes...this is the podcast for you!

Ghosting is a relatively new slang dating term that refers to abruptly cutting off contact with someone without giving that person any warning or explanation for doing so.  This phenomenon is happening at an ever-increasing rate, similarly to the rate of people using online dating vs in-person methods to meet new people.  In today's podcast episode I answer questions regarding a specific online dating situation and ghosting.  If you want to know why men ghost women (instead of providing clear closure) and/or what is one thing that can turn off a man faster than almost anything else, this is the podcast for you!

Marriage is the foundation of a healthy stable family and family is the foundation of a healthy productive society.  Men control access to marriage in relationships, some theorize. Despite the oldest average first marriage age ever and the decreasing marriage rates (due to some of the issues discussed in the "Why Men Are Reluctant to Marry" episode) there is still a large portion of men who desire to settle down and get married if they can find the right woman.  In this podcast, I detail the top 5 reasons why men get married or want to get married.  If you are wondering what role Love, Money, Religion, Family, and the desire to have Children plays in men wanting to get married, this is the podcast for you!

Advice and suggestions related to marriage are best received when given by those who are married and currently in the middle of their happily ever after.  They say two heads are better than one, well if that is true then that means a group of experienced individuals sharing lived experiences and wisdom are better than just a pair. In this podcast episode, I conclude my discussion with a panel of 4 married older millennial gentlemen with decades of monogamous serious relationship experience and discuss what things a woman needs to focus on to give her serious long term relationship the best chance at success and happiness, how kids have affected their marriage (and how they balance parenthood with staying connected to their spouse), and lastly, advice they would give a loved one if she were newly engaged or newly married. If you are interested in any of the listed topics, or you are curious what 4 married men have to say about engagement, parenthood, and marriage, this episode is for you!

Marriage advice and thoughts on serious dating are best received when given by those who are happily married. The only thing better than wisdom from one experienced person is wisdom from a group of experienced individuals. In this podcast episode, I interview a panel of 4 married gentlemen with ample monogamous relationship experience (for a millennial) and discuss what men look for when they are looking for a wife, the ins and outs of staying and growing together with someone long-term, and the moment during a relationship where they decided to propose.  If you are interested in any of the listed topics or curious about what 4 married men have to say about dating and marriage, this episode is for you!

Advice and suggestions related to marriage are easier to accept from and are best explained by an individual who has been married for some years and are currently in the middle of their happily ever after.  They say two heads are better than one, well if that is true then that means a group of experienced individuals sharing lived experiences and wisdom are better than just a pair. In this podcast episode, I interview a roundtable of 4 married older millennial gentlemen with decades of monogamous serious relationship experience and discuss what made them want to propose to their current wife (when they were only dating), what 3 things a woman needs to focus on to give her serious relationship the best chance at long term success and happiness, how kids have affected their marriage (and how to keep the relationship healthy with new responsibilities), and finally, tips they would give a loved one if she were newly engaged or newly married. If you are interested in any of the listed topics, or you are curious what 4 married men have to say about engagement and marriage, this episode is for you!

Marriage advice and thoughts on dating to settle down are sometimes best explained and analyzed by an individual that has  "won" the dating game and retired from the market, aka have gotten married and are living happily ever after.  The only thing better than wisdom from one experienced person is wisdom from a group of experienced individuals. In this podcast episode, I interview a roundtable of 4 married gentlemen with ample monogamous relationship experience (for a millennial) and discuss the age men start dating to settle down, what men look for when they are looking for a wife, if its better to settle down young or wait until your mid to late 30s, and the ins and outs of staying and growing together with someone longterm with them.  If you are interested in any of the listed topics, or you are curious what 4 married men have to say about dating and marriage, this episode is for you!

Relationship advice and Marital practices are sometimes best explained and analyzed by an individual that has  "won" the dating game, retired from the market, and is in a happy marriage themselves.  Likewise, sometimes it takes a woman to best convey relationship tips, warnings, and advice to a woman.  In this podcast episode, I conclude the interview with a married female friend of mine and discuss her dating timeframe before engagement, the point at which she knew he was the one, her preconceived misconceptions about marriage beforehand, what to look for in a man to know he is marriage material, what men look for in a wife, and final general marital and dating advice with her.  If you are interested in any of the previous topics, or you are curious what a married woman has to say about my perspectives, this episode is for you!

Dating advice and dating practices are sometimes best explained and analyzed by an individual that has  "won" the dating game and retired from the market.  Likewise, sometimes it takes a woman to best convey dating tips, warnings, and advice to a woman.  In this podcast episode, I interview a married female friend of mine and discuss femininity, gender roles, dating, dating issues, and dating advice (to find Mr. Right) with her.  If you are interested in any of the previous topics, or you are curious what a married woman has to say about my dating advice or perspectives, this episode is for you! 

U.S. Marriage rates are currently at a historic low.  The average age that both men and women get married is also older than it ever has been before.  There are many theories and reasons that try to explain this phenomenon, but the fact remains that people are not getting married like they used to.  In this podcast, I explain why men of today in civilized western cultures either avoid marriage altogether or are reluctant to marry.  If you are a woman who has always dreamed of their wedding day, but you've been with the same guys for a while and it seems like you are no closer to becoming a Mrs than you were when you were single... If you are a single woman who has always wondered why men do not dream of getting married like you used to, this is the podcast for you!