Red Flags in a Toxic Relationship

 

Episode Type: Survivor/Professional

Host: Trisha Harvey

No More B'stards (Facebook)

nomorebastards_ (Instagram)

 

Description:

Trisha discusses the red flags that women often don't notice in the different stages of a toxic relationship. Introducing topics that will be included in more depth in her upcoming book. Follow Trisha on social media for updates on the book's release date.

 

People Waiting to Help in Scotland:

Scottish Women's Aid

0800 027 1234

https://womensaid.scot/

https://www.facebook.com/scotwomensaid/

https://twitter.com/scotwomensaid

Police Emergency 999

Police Non-emergency 101

Additional Sources for Help

People Waiting to Help in the United States:

Emergency: 911

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788

StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483

National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453

Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247

LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)

Crisis Text Line: Text 741741

National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237

Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255

For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/

 

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Sexual Assaults on Vulnerable Populations

 

Episode Type: Professional

Host: Heather Tillewein, PhD, CHES

https://www.instagram.com/heathertillewein/

https://www.facebook.com/heather.tillewein/

Description:

Dr. Heather Tillewein speaks on various forms of sexual assaults on different vulnerable populations including the LGBTQ+ community through the label of conversion therapy, sex workers as students, ride-share sexual assaults, and the power and control dynamics experienced. Discussing the power and control dynamics experienced in mail-order bride marriages, specifically in intimate partner violence situations.

Leading the discussion towards human sexuality education, and social change leading towards preventing sexual assaults with the vulnerable populations discussed in this episode. 

 

People Waiting to Help in the United States:

Emergency: 911

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788

StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483

National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453

Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247

LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)

Crisis Text Line: Text 741741

National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237

Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255

For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/

 

Links Discussed in this Episode:

Blogs by Dr. Heather Tillewein

https://hphr.org/fellow-heather-tillewein/

Fight Child Abuse, Age-Specific Education to Protect Youth

 

If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Everything I Want Is On The Other Side Of Fear

 

Episode Type: Victim/Survivor

Host: (The Fabulous) Karen Unrue

To follow Karen on Twitter @KarenUnrue

On Instagram - afteralice24

Description: Karen shares her experiences of healing from abuse and realizing that everything she wanted was just on the other side of fear. Sharing how healing is not done in an instant, but rather something one must work on similarly to rebuilding a house brick by brick after it was demolished. Karen provides insight on how she gathered the strength to lay the bricks to her new life and the mortar she used to hold the pieces together when she felt like emotional scrambled eggs. 

 

People Waiting to Help in the United Kingdom:

Home - Women's Aid (womensaid.org.uk)

Refuge Against Domestic Violence - Help for women & children.

Male Victims of Domestic Abuse – Please call 01823 334244 to speak to us confidentially - (mankind.org.uk)

Domestic Violence & Abuse · Emergency Injunction Service (ncdv.org.uk)

Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247

National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453

Crisis Text Line: Text 741741

SODA https://sodahq.uk/support/

The Freedom Programme. Learn about domestic violence and abuse

If you or someone you know would like to participate in the Freedom Programme, you can email [email protected] You can zoom into the programme from anywhere that you have internet access.

People Waiting to Help in the United States:

Emergency: 911

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788

StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483

National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453

Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247

LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)

Crisis Text Line: Text 741741

National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237

Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255

For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/

Links Discussed in this Episode:

Your Reality Gaslight Short Film

https://youtu.be/SVCqTcb4qkM

Karen's book, Blue Jellyfish Syndrome

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Blue-Jellyfish-Syndrome

Recommended by Karen

“CPTSD: from surviving to thriving.” Pete Walker

“Leaving the Fold” by Marlene Winnel (or Winell)

She writes on religious abuse syndrome.

Also, I recommend looking up Dr. Gabor Mate on youtube - all of his talks on trauma are refreshingly enlightening.

If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Parental alienation: Myths and inappropriate uses to dispute child abuse of domestic violence allegations in family court

 

Episode Type: Professional

Host: Robert (Bob) Geffner, Ph.D.

Description: Dr. Robert Geffner discusses how people who are victims of domestic violence are accused of alienation to minimize/dismiss the abuse and discredit the victim. Specifically in child custody cases to try and gain custody away from the protective parent, often when the children who have been exposed to the domestic abuse do not necessarily want to spend time with the perpetrator. 

 

People Waiting to Help in the United States:

Emergency: 911

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788

StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483

National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453

Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247

LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)

Crisis Text Line: Text 741741

National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237

Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255

For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/

Links Discussed in this Episode:

Institute on Violence, Abuse, and Trauma

Website - https://www.ivatcenters.org/

Facebook link - https://www.facebook.com/IVATCenters/

Twitter link - https://twitter.com/IVATCenters

LinkedIn link - https://www.linkedin.com/company/ivat-centers/

Instagram link - https://www.instagram.com/ivatcenters/

 

If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Sued by Abuser for Libel After Disclosing His Abuse

 

Episode Type: Survivor

Host: Vanessa Brown

Description: What lengths will someone go to use power and control over another human being when they try to leave them? Vanessa Brown shares about her cost for speaking on the abuse she was/is suffering. Including what should have been an opportunity for friends to support her, and hold her abuser accountable, ended up being those whom she trusted supporting her abuser. 

Even years after leaving, Vanessa’s abuser has continued his coercive control through litigation abuse. Despite the fact they were never married and share no children, Vanessa is being drowned by the legal system as her abuser holds her under. Now facing a two-week trial for speaking. Vanessa’s abuser has spent over $375,000 pounds ($500,000 US dollars) to continue his abuse. Resulting in Vanessa being homeless, unable to escape, and inability to heal.

Abuse/violence does not simply end when the victim leaves.

 

People Waiting to Help in the United Kingdom:

Home - Women's Aid (womensaid.org.uk)

Refuge Against Domestic Violence - Help for women & children.

Male Victims of Domestic Abuse – Please call 01823 334244 to speak to us confidentially - (mankind.org.uk)

Domestic Violence & Abuse · Emergency Injunction Service (ncdv.org.uk)

Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247

National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453

Crisis Text Line: Text 741741

SODA https://sodahq.uk/support/

The Freedom Programme. Learn about domestic violence and abuse

If you or someone you know would like to participate in the Freedom Programme, you can email [email protected] You can zoom into the programme from anywhere that you have internet access.

People Waiting to Help in the United States:

• Emergency: 911• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255• National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788• National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453• Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247• LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564• National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929• SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)• Crisis Text Line: Text 741741• National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237• Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255

For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/

 

Links Discussed in this Episode:

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk

https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score

Gaslight Short Film

https://youtu.be/SVCqTcb4qkM

What I see - A Domestic Violence Short Film

https://youtu.be/B2h_PO9subA

Power and Control Wheel Playlist

https://youtu.be/5OrAdC6ySiY

https://youtu.be/XkuC3tUgHoY

https://youtu.be/PxOAqduCP4c

https://youtu.be/sAH2JmGIRQ0

https://youtu.be/b__hYzHg7kk

https://youtu.be/ECKkCUWDx7w

https://youtu.be/JAi9fswf5KQ

https://youtu.be/wO6BXV6Yxgo

https://youtu.be/HtL0w8rZbzc

https://youtu.be/lx02GEYkAIE

THE [E]X FACTOR: ADDRESSING TRAUMA FROM POST-SEPARATION DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AS JUDICIAL TERRORISM

https://heihttps://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=3799218online.org/HOL/LandingPage?handle=hein.journals/walq99&div=10&id=&page=

If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Structural Causes of Trauma and Black Women

 

Episode Type: Professional

Host: Dr. Jameta Nicole Barlow IG and Twitter: @allaboutafya

Description: An exploration of the root causes of trauma for Black women survivors.

 

People Waiting to Help in the United States:

Self-Care and Mental Health Resources for Black Communities

Links Discussed in this Episode:

PsychoHairapy: A Ritual of Healing Through Hair

https://psychcentral.com/health/psychohairapy-a-ritual-of-healing-through-hair?fbclid=IwAR2D2uNCuykC1ajt1SRha7gvQAYg9cBhD_YFqv9ewjgqn5n80z7agOmjMHI#Seeking-help

The American Slave Coast: A History of the Slave Breeding Industry by Ned and Constance Sublette

https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/10.1086/698532

The Crown Act

https://www.thecrownact.com/

The Body Keeps the Score

https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score

 

If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Challenging Parental Alienation

 

Episode Type: Professional/Panel

 

Hosts:

Jean Mercer Ph.D., is an American developmental psychologist and professor emerita of psychology at Richard Stockton College. 

 

Margaret Drew is an Associate Professor and Director of Clinics and Experiential Learning at the University of Massachusetts School of Law.

 

Description: Margaret Drew J.D., and Jean Mercer Ph.D., provide a legal and psychological perspective on the concept of parental alienation. Sharing what led to their new book Challenging Parental Alienation New Directions for Professionals and Parents.

 

People Waiting to Help in The United States:

• Emergency: 911• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255• National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788• National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453• Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247• LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564• National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929• SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)• Crisis Text Line: Text 741741• National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237• Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255

For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/

 

Links Discussed in This Episode:

Challenging Parental Alienation New Directions for Professionals and Parents

Jean Mercer Article: Are Intensive Parental Alienation Treatments effective and Safe for Children and Adolescents?

Joan S. Meier Article: Denial of Family Violence in Court

If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Parental Alienation Law in Brazil

 

Episode Type: Professional/Survivor/Panel

 

Host: Coalition of Childhood Protection Maternal Voices

 

Description: Folks from the Collective for Childhood Protection Maternal Voice in Brazil speak on the consequences of the Parental Alienation Law in Brazil and the national and global efforts to put an end to the concept of parental alienation.We often ask why a victim does not leave an abusive relationship. The reality for many women is they are not allowed to. Sharing real examples of how victims of domestic violence risk losing their children if they leave and speak about the abuse. Furthermore, sharing case information where a victim of domestic violence was not supported in leaving, and her abuser killed their child while she was not home, then the victim was sentenced to 24 years in prison.The Collective for Childhood Protection Maternal Voice seeks to raise international awareness in hopes to get help from the gender-based violence that is occurring in Brazil, where 12 women are killed daily because of their gender, 45 thousand children and adolescents are sexually abused every year and an average of 7 thousand children and adolescents are murdered every year, mostly inside their homes.

 

O pessoal do Coletivo de Proteção à Infância Voz Materna do Brasil fala sobre as consequências da Lei de Alienação Parental no Brasil e os esforços nacionais e globais para acabar com o conceito de alienação parental.Muitas vezes nos perguntamos os motivos pelos quais uma vítima não sai de um relacionamento abusivo. A realidade para muitas mulheres é que elas não têm condições de sair. As representantes do grupo compartilham exemplos reais de como as vítimas de violência doméstica correm o risco de perderem seus filhos caso saiam e falem sobre os abusos. Além disso, compartilham informações de um caso no qual uma vítima de violência doméstica, não devidamente apoiada para deixar a situação de violência, teve seu filho assassinado pelo seu agressor enquanto ela não estava em casa. A vítima foi condenada a 24 anos de prisão.O Coletivo de Proteção à Infância Voz Materna busca trazer conscientização internacional na esperança de obter ajuda contra a violência de gênero que está ocorrendo no Brasil, país onde 12 mulheres são mortas diariamente por causa de seu gênero, 45 mil crianças e adolescentes são abusados sexualmente todos os anos e uma média de 7 mil crianças e adolescentes são assassinadas todos os anos, a maioria dentro de seus lares.

Links for Coalition of Childhood Protection Maternal Voices

Facebook

Instagram

Twitter

People Waiting to Help in Brazil:

180 Domestic Violence

190 Emergency

People Waiting to Help in the United States:

• Emergency: 911• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255• National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788• National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453• Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247• LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564• National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929• SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)• Crisis Text Line: Text 741741• National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237• Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255

For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/

 

Links Discussed in This Episode:

English

Link for the National Council of Health recommendations: http://conselho.saude.gov.br/recomendacoes-cns/2337-recomendacao-n-003-de-11-de-fevereiro-de-2022

Link on violence, including femicide, in English: https://forumseguranca.org.br/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/atlas-violencia-2021-infografico-ingles-v3.pdf

Link on violence against children in English: https://www.unicef.org/brazil/media/17341/file/panorama-lethal-sexual-violence-against-children-adolescents-in-brazil.pdf

Portuguese

https://forumseguranca.org.br/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/atlas-d

Recovering from CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse)

 

Episode Type: Survivor/Advocate

Host: Tim Verity

Description: "I was sexually abused by a male relative between the ages of 6 and 8. Sharing my experiences, and finding others like me who could relate to me was important." Tim Verity

In this powerful episode, Tim shares his experience as a male survivor of CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) in hopes of helping other victims of CSA in knowing they are not alone. Being a male survivor of CSA Tim shares the struggles he has faced based on his gender both in reporting and in his own healing journey. Giving brief glimpses into the lasting impact CSA has on an individual and the obstacles one faces when seeking help with mental health.

 

Links for Tim

Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok 

@tim_verity

People Waiting to Help in the United Kingdom:

Rape Crisis England & Wales

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-help/looking-for-information/support-for-men-and-boys/

Survivors UK

https://www.survivorsuk.org/

Safeline

https://www.safeline.org.uk/what-we-do/men/

a doctor or practice nurse at your GP surgery

a voluntary organisation, such as Rape Crisis, Women's Aid, Victim Support, The Survivors Trust or Male Survivors Partnership

the 24-hour freephone National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge, on 0808 2000 247

the Rape Crisis national freephone helpline on 0808 802 9999 (12 to 2.30pm and 7 to 9.30pm every day of the year)

a hospital accident and emergency (A&E) department

a genitourinary medicine (GUM) or sexual health clinic

a contraceptive clinic

a young people's service

call NHS 111 or get help from 111 online

the police, or dial 101

in an emergency, dial 999

People Waiting to Help in the United States:

• Emergency: 911• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255• National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788• National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453• Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247• LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564• National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929• SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)• Crisis Text Line: Text 741741• National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237• Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255

For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page

Links Discussed on This Episode:

No No Square Song

https://youtu.be/spgGg85a3yE

Sexual Abuse in the Family Short Film

https://youtu.be/WOyg6IrfuzA

Grooming Short Film

https://youtu.be/R0Ujv3stTZM

 

If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Trauma & the Struggle to Open Up

 

Episode Type: Professional

Host: Dr. Robert T Muller

Description: Dr. Robert T Muller, Ph.D., who trained at Harvard, speaks about the therapeutic processes and therapeutic relationship for clients after experiencing interpersonal trauma. Discussing his book Trauma and the Struggle to Open Up, a book written both for the professional and the client to aid in healing and growth after trauma through therapy.

Dr. Muller has a blog and an online magazine that focus on various aspects of trauma (see links below) that are available for free. Dr. Muller also teaches at York University in Toronto Canada. Through the episode and in reading Dr. Muller's work it's clear he truly cares for those who have experienced trauma and reminds his clients that their trauma is but one chapter in their life, and they are the author of their life.

 

Links for Dr. Robert T Muller

Psycholgy Today Blog

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/robert-t-muller-phd

Link to Amazon Books

https://www.amazon.com/Robert-T.-Muller/e/B0033AFO5A%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share

Link to Dr. Robert T Muller's Psychotherapy Services in Toronto Canada

https://psychotherapytoronto.ca/

Link to The Trauma & Mental Health Report 

https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/

People Waiting to Help in Canada:

Resources

People Waiting to Help in the United States:

• Emergency: 911• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255• National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788• National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453• Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247• LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564• National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929• SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)• Crisis Text Line: Text 741741• National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237• Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255

 

If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]