What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting

In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Caroline Leaf, a communication pathologist, audiologist and clinical neuroscientist, to explore the powerful concept of neuroplasticity and its impact on healing trauma in children.

Dr. Leaf specializes in psychoneurobiology research, has published 19 bestselling books in 24 languages, has over 50 million downloads on her award winning podcast, "Cleaning up the mental mess," and over 9 million downloads on YouTube. She runs research trials in mental health and publishes in scientific journals. She speaks to diverse audiences around the world including neuroscience and medical conferences and TEDx.

Today, we are discussing mental health diagnosis in foster and adoptive children, if healing is possible for them and ways to help facilitate regrowth of new healthy brain pathways. 

Learn about the groundbreaking techniques outlined in Dr. Leaf's book, "How to Help Your Child Clean Up Their Mental Mess," and discover practical strategies to create a nurturing environment for your child. You can find the book bundle discussed in todays episode by following this link: https://drleaf.com/collections/product-combo-deals/products/how-to-help-your-child-clean-up-their-mental-mess-hardcover-brain-ee-plush-toy-brain-ee-coloring-book

Whether you're new to fostering or have been on this journey for years, this episode provides essential tools and encouragement to help you, and your child thrive. Dive into the conversation and gain insights that will empower you to make a positive impact on your child's mental health and well-being.

The book I personally recommend to foster and adoptive parents, which also helped me in my healing journey is found at this link:  https://drleaf.com/collections/books/products/cleaning-up-your-mental-mess

To see all the incredible resources that Dr. Caroline Leaf has available, this is the link to her website: https://drleaf.com

It was such a blessing to have Dr. Leaf on the podcast today. I pray she blesses you as much as she has blessed me today.

Thank you for being here, Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.

XO-Christine Marie

After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.

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Looking back there is a few very pivotal lessons I wish I didn't have to learn but I am so thankful to share them with you today.

These are the top 5:

1. How does your foster child's  behavior reflect on your parenting. 

2. Chronological age vs. emotional age.

3. Your feelings are valid.

4. Being authentically you.

5. Putting your family first. 

There are so many more lessons that I learned but these five that are foundational to the journey you are now on.

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Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.

XO-Christine Marie

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Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.

XO-Christine Marie

Welcome to the "What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting" podcast, hosted by Christine Marie, a biblical mindset coach, previous foster parent of 77 children and adoptive mom of 2.  This episode dives into the complexities of adopting through the foster care system, addressing common concerns and providing insights into balancing the journey with grace and faith.

The topic today is if adopting a child through the foster care system is an option for most families and what you need to know if considering this path. We are discussing the importance of setting boundaries, understanding the needs of your family, working with a mentor and trusting Gods timing in the process. 

If you are struggling right now as a foster or adoptive parent, I am so thankful that you found this episode. I want you to know that you are not alone. You are seen, valued, loved and known.

After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/fostercareandadoptionforchristianwomen

Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.

XO-Christine Marie

On today’s episode, we will talk about the emotional highs and lows, the moments of judgment, and the lessons of grace.

If you are struggling right now as a foster or adoptive parent, I am so thankful that you found this episode. I want you to know that you are not alone. You are seen, valued, loved and known.

After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/fostercareandadoptionforchristianwomen

Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.

XO-Christine Marie

Whether you are a foster parent hoping to adopt, already adopted or a long-term foster parent, this episode is for you if you struggle with anxiety, overwhelm and desire to keep Jesus at the center.

I will share vulnerably several ways that I tried to maintain control and perfection while battling anxiety and worry. I had found myself fully shifted into a mindset of striving to control every aspect of our foster care and adoption process. In turn, I lost myself along the way.

I didn’t understand the importance of the 5 people I surrounded myself with and who and what I was rooting my beliefs in.

If you are struggling right now as a foster or adoptive parent, I am so thankful that you found this episode. I want you to know that you are not alone. You are seen, valued, loved and known.

After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/fostercareandadoptionforchristianwomen

Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.

XO-Christine Marie

Welcome to the What to Expect While Fostering and Adopting podcast show. If you're a foster mom on the journey to adoption, already adopted, or somewhere in the middle, you're in the right place. 

Today, I will take you on the journey of deciding to continue with my podcast. Over the past 2 months, God has been refining and pruning my heart and showing me how to more completely depend on Him.

If you are struggling right now as a foster or adoptive parent, I am so thankful that you found this episode. I want you to know that you are not alone. You are seen, valued, loved and known.

After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster and adoptive mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/fostercareandadoptionforchristianwomen

Thank you for being here. Go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.

XO-Christine Marie

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On today's episode, we will conclude this 2 part series and talk about parenting children with attachment disorders. We will cover 6 key points to helping foster children feel safe and secure, comforted and supported, connected, experience consistency, feel encouraged and help you as the foster parent maintain boundaries in the foster home. All of these will help in developing bonds with your children, maintain emotional regulation, and handle behavioral issues effectively.

We will also discuss the importance of self-care and refilling your emotional cup. I will share my tips to building a balanced routine that not only supports the needs of the children but also the mental and physical needs of everyone in the home. 

You can find the workbook that supports this 2 part series in my foster parent group on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/groups/fostercareandadoptionforchristianwomen

After you listen to this episode, I would love for you to head on over and join our inner circle of foster mamas. Our Facebook group is your gateway to valuable resources and connection.

So, go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.

XO-Christine Marie

In this episode which is part 1 of a 2 part series, we talk about attachment disorders commonly observed in foster and adopted children.

Attachment disorders relate to the bond children form with their primary caregiver right from birth, which significantly impacts their behavior. Children subjected to neglect, abuse, or abandonment often develop attachment disorders. We will discuss the 5 basic human needs that, when unfulfilled, can lead to these disorders.

In this episode, focusing on children raised in foster or adoptive care, we explore the attachment styles they typically develop. Their experiences with neglect or inconsistent parenting often result in distinct attachment styles affecting their social interactions. We delve into avoidant, fearful, and anxious attachment styles, emphasizing their unique patterns of behavior, emotional response, and potential struggles in forming relationships.

The ultimate aim is to help these children develop a secure attachment style, fostering trust in others and a positive self-image. To achieve this, we must first understand the signs and symptoms of attachment disorders. Identifying behaviors that can be linked to attachment disorders such as food issues, manipulative tactics, group setting difficulties, learning delays, and chronic anxiety.

This episode is a comprehensive guide to recognizing, understanding, and addressing the unique needs of foster and adoptive children suffering from attachment disorders. By deciphering the root cause of these behaviors, you can respond to your child's needs effectively, fostering an environment that promotes their growth. Stay tuned for the next episode, equipped with practical tips for parenting children based on their attachment style and disorder.

So, go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.

XO-Christine Marie

In this episode, we are going to dive into a lesser-discussed aspect of foster care: the mental health diagnoses of the foster children and then the topic of medication.

When you become a foster parent, you often have to navigate the often-overwhelming world of mental health care. I personally, know that I wasn't prepared for the level of complexity and at many times needed to make tough decisions without the understanding needed to do so.

You too, may find yourself walking through a reality of kiddos with multiple diagnoses and then ultimately, medication. So, lets prepare you heart and mind for what's at stake.

It is possible that medications could hinder the healing that could happen for these children. Without knowing the entire history of a child, that is where we have a powerful tool that we have the ability to use in navigating these tough decisions. Prayer and Discernment. 

My heart for today's episode is that you add Prayer and Discernment to the process of making these decisions with and for your foster children. 

So, go grab your cup of coffee and let's dig in.

XO-Christine Marie