Whateva This Is!

In a world where everyone has an opinion and nobody is afraid to share it, putting yourself out there takes courage. But what happens when the visibility you once wanted starts to exhaust you?

In this episode of Whatever This Is, I reflect on the unexpected growth of my social media content, the emotional labour of sharing real stories, the exhaustion of living abroad, and the double standards people reveal when judging someone else's experiences.

I also remember a creator whose videos brought me laughter during a difficult time, reminding me that we never really know how much our presence means to someone else.

Maybe we don't need to have an opinion about everything. Maybe we need to encourage people more, judge them less, and remember that behind every screen is a human being just trying to figure life out.

If you enjoy someone's content, tell them. Share it. Encourage them. You never know what it might mean to them.

People of God, I have been going through it. 😭

Since adopting Mr. Pino, my life has been in shambles. From cleaning carpets and dealing with unexpected expenses to discovering that being a dog parent requires more patience than I apparently possess.

But somewhere between the chaos, the bills, and the poop, I've found a little companion who has brought so much joy into my life. 🥹❤️

In this first episode of Whatever This Is, the Podcast for the Casually Curious, I'm talking about the realities of adopting a rescue dog, navigating pet parenthood abroad, and how one very quiet dog has managed to turn my life upside down.

Welcome to the trials and tribulations of being a dog parent. And yes, Mr. Pino is available for special events. 😂🐾

For years, I lived in my flat surrounded by memories of everyone else. 

Photos of family. Photos of people I loved. Photos of moments that mattered. 

But almost none of me. 

In this episode, I talk about the surprisingly emotional experience of hanging childhood photos of myself around my home and the realization it triggered: I’ve spent most of my life seeing myself very differently from how other people see me. 

We get into: 

📸 Why I avoided photos of myself for years 

🪞 The gap between self-image and reality 

😩 Growing up feeling average and invisible 

✨ Learning to appreciate my body, flaws, and uniqueness 

💭 How confidence is built in tiny daily moments 

❤️ The people, relationships, and experiences that shaped how I saw myself 

This isn’t really an episode about beauty. 

It’s about self-acceptance. 

About learning to stop hiding from the camera. 

About realizing that the person you’ve been criticizing for years might actually be someone worth celebrating. 

If you’ve ever struggled to see your own worth, this one’s for you. 

Thank you for listening to whateavthisiz — the podcast for the casually curious. 

 For a long time, hyper-independence felt like strength. 

When people disappoint you enough times, you learn to rely on yourself. You learn not to ask for help. You learn to solve everything alone. 

 But over time, that armour can turn into a wall. 

In this episode, I reflect on the years after my grandmother passed away—the last person I felt I could truly rely on—and how that loss quietly pushed me deeper into hyper-independence. 

I talk about: 

• why asking for help can feel like being a burden 

• how disappointment shapes the way we relate to others 

• the difference between resilience and isolation 

• and why learning to ask for small things again might be one of the most important forms of healing 

Hyper-independence protected me for a long time. 

But maybe the next stage of growth is learning how to let people show up for us. 

December pulls us home with a lot of expectation — vibes, people, memories, fun 🎄✨ 

But sometimes you arrive and realise… things aren’t the same. And neither are you. 

In this episode, I reflect on Dirty December, going back to Accra, and the quiet grief of outgrowing spaces. I talk about nostalgia, boundaries, rest, safety, money, and learning to enjoy home without turning it into a performance 🧳🫂. It’s about letting December be softer, slower, and more honest. 

This is whateva this is — for the casually curious, for people going home, and for anyone learning to let things be different 🤍 

Come sit with me. 

#DirtyDecember #GoingHomeFeels #DiasporaLife #SoftReflections #OutgrowingSpaces #DecemberThoughts #CasuallyCurious 

On this episode of whateva this is 🎙️, I’m reflecting on the many “firsts” we all face — from swapping seats on a flight, to learning a skill, to big life changes like starting a new job or moving somewhere new. 

First experiences come with fear, excitement, and mistakes. But they’re also opportunities to learn, grow, and discover what you really enjoy — even if it doesn’t go perfectly the first time. 

This episode is a reminder: try anyway, laugh at the missteps, and celebrate your courage 🌱💛. 

For the casually curious, the overthinkers, and anyone learning to embrace life one first at a time. 

🎙️ Episode: First Times
 🎧 Link in bio.
 #whatevathisiz #CasuallyCurious #LifeUnfiltered #FirstTimes #PodcastClip #GrowthJourney #BerlinVoices #EmotionalRealness #TryAnyway

I’m back on whateva this is 🎙️ to talk about the expectations we set for ourselves and the timelines we’re “supposed” to hit ⏳. From family pressure 👪 to personal milestones 🎯, life rarely happens the way we imagined it — and that’s not a failure, it’s growth 🌱✨. 

I share a conversation with a friend that reminded me that joy isn’t measured by what you’ve ticked off a list ✅, and I reflect on how looking back 🔙 can sometimes matter just as much as looking forward 🔜. 

Whether it’s career goals 💼, relationships ❤️, or personal achievements 🏆, this episode is a reminder: pause, reflect, and celebrate where you actually are 🎉. 

For the casually curious, the overthinkers 🤔, and anyone who’s learning to live life on their own terms 🌟. 

A two-minute walk-and-talk on why chasing beauty in a culture that was never built to see you will only shrink what makes you unforgettable. In this short reflection, I unpack how beauty standards are shaped by history, culture, and power - and why you lose more than you gain when you trade your uniqueness for someone else’s “ideal.” 

What if healing isn’t a destination, but a messy group project you never signed up for?

In this raw solo Q&A, I answer the kinds of questions that don’t always come with neat answers:

•  Are you more afraid of heartbreak or being loved fully
• How do you know you’re healing and not just surviving in better lighting?
• What happens when you’re the emotional support friend… and you fall apart?
• And how do you unattach from people who only love your brokenness?

This one’s vulnerable, messy, and honest — the kind of episode you’ll want to pause, replay, and maybe even journal after.

Whether you’re in a soft girl era, survival mode, or somewhere in-between… welcome. 

You’re not alone in the untangling.—🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts🎙️ Leave a review or send in a question for a future Q&A

Three weeks, two Beyoncé concerts, and one very fried brain later… I’m back! 😅 This one’s a voice note from the edge — unscripted, unfiltered, and deeply unserious (but also kinda real). 

I talk about: 

– Trying to be perfect 🎯 

– Failing to record (again and again) 🎥 

– Burning out and bouncing back 🪩 

– Why sometimes, the podcast has to wait because… we outside ☀️🍷 

If you’ve ever ghosted your own goals or felt stuck between doing the thing and living life, this one’s for you. 

Catch me rambling in a corner of my room, soft-launching imperfection. 

Let’s yap. Let’s live. Let’s go outside 🌍💅🏾