December pulls us home with a lot of expectation — vibes, people, memories, fun 🎄✨ 

But sometimes you arrive and realise… things aren’t the same. And neither are you. 

In this episode, I reflect on Dirty December, going back to Accra, and the quiet grief of outgrowing spaces. I talk about nostalgia, boundaries, rest, safety, money, and learning to enjoy home without turning it into a performance 🧳🫂. It’s about letting December be softer, slower, and more honest. 

This is whateva this is — for the casually curious, for people going home, and for anyone learning to let things be different 🤍 

Come sit with me. 

#DirtyDecember #GoingHomeFeels #DiasporaLife #SoftReflections #OutgrowingSpaces #DecemberThoughts #CasuallyCurious 

On this episode of whateva this is 🎙️, I’m reflecting on the many “firsts” we all face — from swapping seats on a flight, to learning a skill, to big life changes like starting a new job or moving somewhere new. 

First experiences come with fear, excitement, and mistakes. But they’re also opportunities to learn, grow, and discover what you really enjoy — even if it doesn’t go perfectly the first time. 

This episode is a reminder: try anyway, laugh at the missteps, and celebrate your courage 🌱💛. 

For the casually curious, the overthinkers, and anyone learning to embrace life one first at a time. 

🎙️ Episode: First Times
 🎧 Link in bio.
 #whatevathisiz #CasuallyCurious #LifeUnfiltered #FirstTimes #PodcastClip #GrowthJourney #BerlinVoices #EmotionalRealness #TryAnyway

I’m back on whateva this is 🎙️ to talk about the expectations we set for ourselves and the timelines we’re “supposed” to hit ⏳. From family pressure 👪 to personal milestones 🎯, life rarely happens the way we imagined it — and that’s not a failure, it’s growth 🌱✨. 

I share a conversation with a friend that reminded me that joy isn’t measured by what you’ve ticked off a list ✅, and I reflect on how looking back 🔙 can sometimes matter just as much as looking forward 🔜. 

Whether it’s career goals 💼, relationships ❤️, or personal achievements 🏆, this episode is a reminder: pause, reflect, and celebrate where you actually are 🎉. 

For the casually curious, the overthinkers 🤔, and anyone who’s learning to live life on their own terms 🌟. 

A two-minute walk-and-talk on why chasing beauty in a culture that was never built to see you will only shrink what makes you unforgettable. In this short reflection, I unpack how beauty standards are shaped by history, culture, and power - and why you lose more than you gain when you trade your uniqueness for someone else’s “ideal.” 

What if healing isn’t a destination, but a messy group project you never signed up for?

In this raw solo Q&A, I answer the kinds of questions that don’t always come with neat answers:

•  Are you more afraid of heartbreak or being loved fully
• How do you know you’re healing and not just surviving in better lighting?
• What happens when you’re the emotional support friend… and you fall apart?
• And how do you unattach from people who only love your brokenness?

This one’s vulnerable, messy, and honest — the kind of episode you’ll want to pause, replay, and maybe even journal after.

Whether you’re in a soft girl era, survival mode, or somewhere in-between… welcome. 

You’re not alone in the untangling.—🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts🎙️ Leave a review or send in a question for a future Q&A

Three weeks, two Beyoncé concerts, and one very fried brain later… I’m back! 😅 This one’s a voice note from the edge — unscripted, unfiltered, and deeply unserious (but also kinda real). 

I talk about: 

– Trying to be perfect 🎯 

– Failing to record (again and again) 🎥 

– Burning out and bouncing back 🪩 

– Why sometimes, the podcast has to wait because… we outside ☀️🍷 

If you’ve ever ghosted your own goals or felt stuck between doing the thing and living life, this one’s for you. 

Catch me rambling in a corner of my room, soft-launching imperfection. 

Let’s yap. Let’s live. Let’s go outside 🌍💅🏾 

 Altyn just turned the big 3-0, and we had things to say. From the chaos of our 20s to the calm (kinda?) of our 30s, we reflect on the glow-ups, the letdowns, and the weird in-between. 😅💅🏾 

We’re talking friendship glow-downs, priorities doing backflips, and the kind of peace that only comes after a few emotional breakdowns in public bathrooms. 🚽🫠✨ 

 What actually changes when you turn 30? What doesn’t? And why do hangovers suddenly last three business days? 🍷➡️🛌   Expect laughs, truth bombs, and “if I knew then…” wisdom wrapped in vibes. Whether you’re already 30, almost there, or clinging to your 20s with both hands—this episode is your gentle nudge (and side-eye) into the next chapter. 💁🏽‍♀️📦🔁 

In this episode, Elavisa and I take it waaay back to the wild world of African schooling — from the chalk-dusted classrooms to the chaos of punishments and the sting of the cane 🥲📏. We’re talking strict headmasters, creepy teachers, lunchtime gossip, and the silent rebellions that kept us sane. 

We cover the good, the traumatic, and the outright ridiculous:
👩🏾‍🏫 Teachers with god complexes
💔 First crushes you had to hide like contraband
🕺🏾 Skipping school for vibes and meat pies
👀 Being bullied and learning to fight back (with or without words) 

It’s funny, raw, and real — if you’ve ever survived an African education system, this one will have you laughing, nodding, and maybe even flinching a bit 💀😂 

This is Part 1 — from Primary School to High School.
University and after-school confessions drop next 🎓👂🏾🍿

This week on Whatever This Is, Deniz and I dive into the unexpected side of weight loss—losing friendships. From childhood dietitian visits 🍏📏 to shedding the Fat Funny Friend identity 😂➡️😶, we unpack why some friendships shift when the self-deprecating humor stops. Why do some people disappear when you stop making yourself the joke? And is it true that people get mean after losing weight? 🤔🔥 We get into the social side effects of body changes, the weight of confidence 💪🏾, and a little friendship therapy 🛋️💬 along the way. It’s raw, real, and a little too relatable. 

In Part 2, Elavisa gets real about the mess of dating while Black in Germany 🇩🇪. From cringe-worthy openers 🙈 to dealing with fetishization, biases, and stereotypes 💭, she shares the unfiltered truth behind the struggles. But amidst the chaos, there’s also love ❤️—and Elavisa opens up about how she navigated the ups and downs to find something real in Berlin 💫. It’s a rollercoaster of laughs, lessons, and some seriously wild dating stories 🎢💬.

Catch the full tea as she spills all the details! 🍵🎬