Whats The Tea?

What do ambitious paninis, climbing trips and a glass of apple juice have in common? For Tim, they’re all opportunities to help someone feel welcome.

This time on What’s the Tea?, Andy and Lydia sit down with Tim, YMCA Exeter’s Group Coordinator, to look back on 14 years of supporting young people. From cooking groups and café conversations to music and exploring faith, Tim shares what he calls “serious fun” — activities that bring people together and can mean far more than they first appear.

We talk about the faith that brought him to YMCA Exeter, helping young people discover who they are, and finding hope when life gets difficult.

Plus, former residents share their own memories of Tim — including a leaving-day panini that meant the world.

In this episode:
• What a Group Coordinator actually does.
• Supporting young people’s wellbeing through creativity, activity and connection.
• How YMCA Exeter’s groups have grown over the years.
• Faith, purpose and Tim’s reminder that you’re not alone.
• Café favourites, shared meals and some surprising stories.
• Messages from former residents about the difference Tim made.

Whether you know Tim already or you’re meeting him for the first time, join us for a conversation about belonging, kindness and taking fun seriously.

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe wherever you’re watching or listening. You can find What’s the Tea? on your favourite podcast platform and the YMCA Exeter YouTube channel.

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Does anyone else feel like the food shop gets more expensive every time? ☕

Andy and Lydia are back for a new season of What’s the Tea?, chatting about the cost of living and some practical ways to make your money go a little further. From checking what’s already in the fridge to questioning those forgotten subscriptions, we’re sharing small things that could make everyday adulting a bit easier.

Plus, Lydia introduces her “dirty pasta” recipe, Andy talks about borrowing things instead of buying them, and we consider whether putting something on a wish list might save you from another impulse purchase.

In this episode:

• Food shopping without buying things you already have.
• Easy “I can’t be bothered” meals for those evenings when a takeaway is tempting.
• Using up food and comparing prices.
• Checking subscriptions you might have forgotten about.
• Discovering your local Library of Things.
• Giving yourself 24 hours before hitting checkout.

Our Gold Stars this week go to meal prepping and a spreadsheet worthy of being framed. And in Weird News, skydivers come to the rescue while an escaped emu proves rather difficult to catch. Emu down! 🪶

We’re two former support workers having a chat over a cuppa. We’re not experts, but sometimes we surprise ourselves with some useful advice.

What’s your go-to cheap and easy meal? Share it in the comments!

What’s the Tea? is hosted by Andy and Lydia from YMCA Exeter.

Get in touch: [email protected]

Don’t forget to follow or subscribe wherever you’re watching or listening. You can find What’s the Tea? on your favourite podcast platform and the YMCA Exeter YouTube channel.

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Does anyone actually feel like a proper adult—or are we all figuring it out as we go?

For the season finale of What’s the Tea?, a change of plan puts Andy and Lydia in the interview seats. Their questions are a surprise to each other; their answers take in loneliness, changing opinions, finding confidence and the realities of growing up.

Lydia reflects on learning the practical side of adult life and how her career has helped her grow. Andy shares why he’s become more open to changing his mind, how he found his own approach to being on camera and why confidence doesn’t always mean feeling confident.

There’s also a look back at some memorable YMCA Exeter moments: lockdown concerts, video-game challenges and an idea that became a firm commitment when it was announced live on the radio.

Plus, in Weird News: a record-breaking 97-year-old wing walker and a hairdresser proving that sometimes the best conversation is no conversation at all.

Put the kettle on and join us for an honest conversation about growing up without having everything figured out.

About What’s the Tea?

We’re Andy and Lydia, two former support workers from YMCA Exeter, navigating adult life over a cuppa. We’re not experts—just sharing experiences, honest conversations and the occasional piece of surprisingly good advice.

What’s an opinion you’ve changed your mind about? Leave a comment where you’re watching or listening, or email us at [email protected].

Follow or subscribe wherever you’re watching or listening, and share this episode with someone who might enjoy it. Find What’s the Tea? on your favourite podcast platform and the YMCA Exeter YouTube channel.

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Ever had a headache, Googled it, and ten minutes later convinced yourself something is seriously wrong?

This week on What’s the Tea?, Andy and Lydia are talking about health anxiety — from worrying about everyday symptoms to the way Google, social media and AI can sometimes make those worries feel even bigger.

As always, Andy and Lydia aren't experts. They're two former support workers catching up over a cuppa, drawing on their own experiences and some of the things they've learned from working alongside young people.

They chat about why health anxiety is very real for the person experiencing it, how anxiety itself can create physical symptoms, and why telling somebody they're “just being dramatic” probably isn't going to help.

They also look at some of the things that may have contributed to increased anxiety around our health — including social media, online health information and the experience of living through the pandemic.

Along the way they explore some practical tools that might help, including:

• Challenging Doctor Google — and Doctor ChatGPT
• Asking yourself, “What's the evidence?”
• Separating fact, feeling and fear
• Grounding techniques and breathing exercises
• Resisting the urge to constantly check symptoms
• Using distraction and healthy coping strategies
• Talking to somebody you trust
• Preparing notes before speaking to your GP if you find those conversations difficult

And the main takeaway?

Health anxiety doesn't mean you're weak, dramatic or alone. Sometimes simply talking about what you're experiencing can be an important first step.

Then, naturally, it's time for Weird News — where this week's stories somehow develop an unexpected toilet theme.

There's a world-record attempt involving an extraordinary number of toilet rolls… followed by a toilet designed to actually come to you.

Yes. Really.

What’s the Tea? is hosted by Andy and Lydia from YMCA Exeter.

Don't forget to like, comment and subscribe, and you can also find What’s the Tea? on your favourite podcast platform or on the YMCA Exeter YouTube channel.

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What messages do boys and men receive about strength, emotion and asking for help—and how much have those messages really changed?

In this episode of What’s the Tea?, Andy and Lydia explore masculinity, men’s mental health and the pressure many men feel to deal with problems alone.

Andy shares what happened when he became convinced that his blood-pressure readings meant something was seriously wrong—but chose not to tell his wife, friends or colleagues. This leads to a wider conversation about why men sometimes minimise health concerns, avoid worrying other people and try to remain in control rather than asking for help.

Lydia also shares findings from a survey completed by men working at YMCA Exeter. The responses reveal some of the messages they heard while growing up, including:

• “Man up.”
• “Boys don’t cry.”
• Be tough and fight back.
• Handle your problems on your own.
• Be the provider.
• Don’t talk about your feelings.
• Don’t show weakness.

Andy and Lydia discuss where these messages come from, why they can be difficult to identify and how they can affect men’s health, relationships and sense of identity.

They also explore healthier versions of masculinity, including emotional openness, kindness, compassion, respect for others and finding a balance between strength and vulnerability.

The conversation covers:

• Why men may delay seeking medical help.
• The pressure to protect others from worry.
• How work and providing can become tied to male identity.
• Whether younger generations are finding it easier to talk.
• The influence of parents, peers, media and social expectations.
• The importance of positive male role models.
• How fatherhood, relationships, faith, counselling and life experience can change someone’s understanding of masculinity.
• Why strength and vulnerability do not have to be opposites.

If something does not feel right—physically or emotionally—please speak to someone. That might be a friend, family member, health professional, counsellor or another person you trust.

Andy’s Man Club provides free peer-support groups for men across the UK. More information can be found at: andysmanclub.co.uk

You can contact Andy and Lydia at:[email protected]

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Content note: This episode discusses violence against women and girls, harassment, harmful attitudes, personal safety and domestic abuse. Please look after yourself and decide whether this is the right episode for you today.

This is a more serious episode of What’s the Tea?

Lydia and Andy explore the bystander effect: what happens when people witness concerning or harmful behaviour but do not challenge it.

Sometimes this happens because we assume somebody else will act. At other times, it might come from embarrassment, uncertainty, fear of conflict or simply not knowing what to say.

However, remaining silent, laughing awkwardly or joining in can unintentionally make harmful behaviour appear acceptable.

Lydia discusses some of the everyday situations in which women may experience objectifying comments, inappropriate jokes, dismissive language or behaviour that creates discomfort and fear. These experiences can happen in group chats, workplaces, friendship groups, nights out and during ordinary journeys home.

The episode also explores an important distinction: a woman may laugh, remain silent or remove herself from a situation as a way of protecting herself. A bystander who is in a safer position may have greater freedom and responsibility to challenge what is happening.

Lydia shares findings from an anonymous internal survey of women working at YMCA Exeter.

Among those who responded:

• 100% said they avoid walking alone at night.
• 100% avoid certain routes or areas.
• 100% remain alert to their surroundings.
• Around 90% regularly change their behaviour to feel safer.
• 77% share their location with somebody.
• 69% reported experiencing gender-based double standards.

These figures come from a small internal survey and are shared as examples of lived experience rather than as national research. They nevertheless provide a striking picture of the precautions many women routinely take.

Andy and Lydia discuss how challenging a comment with something as simple as:

“Mate, that isn’t funny.”

can interrupt harmful behaviour, support the person affected and make it easier for other people to speak up.

One response might not immediately change somebody’s entire outlook, but it can begin to change the culture within a friendship group, workplace or community.

Small actions can create permission for other people to challenge harmful behaviour too.

Think about a recent situation in which you witnessed something uncomfortable, inappropriate or harmful:

• What did you notice?
• What did you do?
• What stopped you from speaking up?
• What might make speaking up easier?
• What responsibility do we all have for creating safer environments?

Women already do a significant amount to protect themselves.

Real change happens when other people move from simply noticing harmful behaviour to safely challenging it.

This episode follows an earlier What’s the Tea? conversation exploring domestic abuse and violence against women and girls.

🎧 Listen to the earlier episode on Spotify

Have you experienced the bystander effect?

What helps you speak up when something does not feel right? Is there something you wish more people understood about the everyday precautions women take?

You can contact Andy and Lydia at:

[email protected]

Please do not use this email to request urgent, confidential or specialist support. The organisations listed below are better equipped to help.

• Mayor of London — Have a Word and Say Maaate to a Mate
• Enough — Help Stop Abuse
• Women’s Aid — Information and Support
• National Domestic Abuse Helpline

If you or somebody else is in immediate danger, call 999 and ask for the police.

If you are calling from a mobile phone and cannot speak, listen to the operator and press 55 when prompted.

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It is hot. Very hot. The kind of British heat where everyone suddenly becomes an amateur weather correspondent, public health advisor and portable fan reviewer.

After a brief but necessary discussion about heatwaves, hay fever, eczema, hydration and the very real struggle of surviving without air con, Andy and Lydia turn their attention to something much more uplifting: good news.

This week’s episode is a deliberate break from the darker side of news and social media. When the headlines feel overwhelming, it can be easy to think everything is getting worse. So Andy and Lydia share a collection of hopeful stories from health, science, climate, sport and community life.

They talk about the impact of the HPV vaccine on cervical cancer deaths in England, a new treatment that can delay the onset of type 1 diabetes, electric vehicle sales overtaking petrol-only cars in the UK, falling air-pollution-related deaths in London, wind and solar power overtaking gas globally, mangrove recovery, and how cleaner transport in China may be saving lives.

There is also time to celebrate Chilangas FC, a women’s blind football team in Mexico creating space, confidence and opportunity for visually impaired women.

And because it would not be What’s The Tea? without Weird News, the episode finishes with Merlin the duck — Mexico’s unofficial World Cup mascot — and Gracie the giraffe, who somehow managed to hide in Texas despite being, well, a giraffe.

In this episode of What’s The Tea?, Andy and Lydia talk about what happens when life gets busy — properly busy. Not just “I’ve got a lot on” busy, but the kind of busy where your brain fogs over, your to-do list starts multiplying like gremlins, and even drinking enough water becomes an achievement worthy of a gold star.

They chat about how busyness can look different for different people: feeling overwhelmed, forgetting things, procrastinating, needing instructions written down, feeling physically stressed, or simply not knowing where to start.

Andy shares how writing things down, using task lists and getting things out of your head can make life feel more manageable. Lydia talks about the importance of stepping away from a busy environment, finding a quieter space to work, and learning to balance “input” and “output” relationships — especially when life outside work starts feeling full too.

There’s also the return of Adulting Stars of the Week, featuring DIY door sealant, chore days, and the tragic realisation that doing boring jobs can make you feel weirdly proud afterwards.

And, of course, Weird News makes an appearance — this time involving a huge illegal cockroach bust in Australia and a student unexpectedly joining the orchestra at a La La Land concert in Sydney.

Andy and Lydia talk about:

• What busyness can feel like emotionally, mentally and physically
• Why verbal instructions can be harder to process than written ones
• Brain fog, overwhelm and procrastination
• Using lists, calendars and task apps to reduce mental clutter
• Why changing your environment can help you focus
• Balancing friendships, social plans and personal energy
• The difference between people or activities that feel like “input” and “output”
• How to make chores feel less impossible
• Asking for support when things feel too much
• Weird News involving cockroaches, concerts and unexpected stage appearances

The UK social media ban for under-16s has put online safety, screen time and young people’s wellbeing back in the spotlight — but what about the positive side of digital communities?In this episode we talk social media, online friendships, gaming communities, Twitch, WhatsApp groups and how digital spaces can help people feel connected.We also mention the harder side of life online, including cyberbullying, rage bait, scrolling habits, screen time, online safety and how to notice when a digital space is affecting your mental health.Plus: Adulting Stars of the Week, IKEA blinds, health updates, productivity wins, and Weird News featuring Bruce the kayaking Alsatian and a dog with extremely questionable firearm safety skills.---------April showers by Kjartan Abel.Visit https://kjartan-abel.com/library to download royalty-free music for your next project.CC BY-SA 4.0 Attributi on-ShareAlike 4.0 International.Any Additional stock video thanks to Canva.

In this episode of What’s The Tea?, Lydia and Andytalk about unfinished tasks, distracted brains, ADHD traits, doomscrolling, laundry, healthy habits, gaming backlogs, and why even simple life admin can sometimes feel like a boss battle.

They also share practical tools and ideas that can help,including:

ScreenZen — an app Lydia uses to limit social mediaand shopping app use by creating a pause before opening distracting apps.

Finch — a self-care app that works a bit like adigital pet, where looking after yourself helps your little character grow.

BitePal — an app Lydia suggests to Andy as a more funway of tracking food, hydration, and healthier habits.

Plus, Lydia shares an exciting update from YMCA Exeter’s newsupported accommodation in Paignton, and Weird News brings us a bear costume insurance scam and a table-tennis-playing robot.

Find out more about new housing from YMCA Exeter here: https://www.ymcaexeter.org.uk/establishedpathways/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=established

What’s The Tea? is hosted by Lydia and Andy, twoformer support workers catching up over a cuppa and trying to navigate life, one conversation at a time.

Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe, and you canalso find What’s The Tea? on your favourite podcast platform.

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