✨ Episode Summary:

In this insightful two-part episode of Doing Divorce Different, I sit down with the incredible Dr. Becky Whetstone—a licensed marriage and family therapist with both professional expertise and personal experience in navigating the emotional terrain of marriage, divorce, and everything in between.

Together, we explore the often-unspoken stages of a dying marriage, what those red flags look and feel like, and how to move from heartbreak to healing through intentional self-growth.

Whether you're working to rebuild your marriage or learning to let go with grace, this conversation will leave you with practical wisdom, hope, and a fresh perspective on your journey.

💬 What We Talk About in This Episode:

• The 5 emotional stages of a dissolving marriage
• What “detachment” looks like (and how to notice it early)
• Why self-care is essential—not selfish—during relationship challenges
• How to reframe divorce as a season of growth, not failure
• Why spending time alone post-divorce is one of the most healing steps you can take
• What Dr. Becky learned from her own marriage, divorce, and rediscovery process

🧡 Key Quotes from Dr. Becky:“The earlier we name the pain, the more chance we have to heal it.”
“Divorce isn’t a failure—it’s a transition. And transitions are where growth begins.”
“Your next relationship begins with the one you have with yourself.”
🎧 Listen if You’re Ready To...

• Understand what’s really going wrong in your marriage
• Make empowered decisions for your future
• Shift from blame and shame into clarity and confidence
• Learn how to grow through what you’re going through

📚 Want to dive deeper? Be sure to check out Dr. Becky’s book here and join us next week as we continue the conversation around parenting post-divorce.

Find Becky here: https://marriagecrisismanager.com/

Find Lesa at Lesakoski.com

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