Divorce mediation and flat-fee legal strategies can help you avoid court, save thousands, and protect your peace. Learn how to divorce smarter today.

In this episode of Doing Life Different, Lesa Koski interviews New Jersey attorney, mediator, and men’s divorce strategist John Nachlinger. Together, they reveal how the traditional divorce system often profits from your pain—and how you can take back control.

John shares how his flat-fee law firm helps couples resolve their divorce quickly, without unnecessary drama or legal costs. From emotional regulation to co-parenting and coaching, this episode explores how divorce can be done differently—with dignity, strategy, and support.

Whether you’re just starting the divorce process or want to avoid court altogether, this episode will help you understand how to divorce smarter, protect your children, and heal with purpose.

(00:00) Introduction to guest John Nachlinger

(02:48) Why John left traditional divorce litigation

(05:35) Flat-fee divorce services vs. hourly billing

(09:12) How mediation speeds up the divorce process

(12:45) When divorce becomes a war—and how to stop it

(17:20) John's personal story of divorce, adoption, and co-parenting

(21:33) Are all exes narcissists? Understanding emotional dynamics

(27:58) Coaching men through divorce and emotional readiness

(32:49) Common mistakes men make during divorce

(37:20) How women can benefit when their ex has a coach

(40:05) The rise of mediation and decline of court dependency

(45:10) Final thoughts on divorce strategy and healing

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John Nachlinger is a New Jersey attorney, mediator, and founder of Net Squire, a flat-fee law firm designed to help clients divorce without destructive court battles. He’s also the creator of the Men’s Divorce Network and host of the podcast Get Divorced Without Getting Screwed. John specializes in coaching men through the emotional and legal complexities of divorce to reach faster, healthier resolutions.

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The Healing Power of Hope: How Mindset and Faith Help Us Through Life’s Hardest Moments

Hope isn't just wishful thinking—it’s a mindset that shapes our outcomes. Discover how hope, mindset, and faith can guide you through divorce, illness, or any hardship.

In this powerful Saddle Up segment, Lesa Koski reflects on the healing power of hope—how it played a role in her breast cancer journey and how it’s backed by research from William Miller’s 8 Ways to Hope. Learn how mindset, belief, and the words we speak can shift the atmosphere around pain and fear into one of resilience, clarity, and gratitude.

Whether you're going through a divorce, facing a diagnosis, or walking through hardship with a loved one, this episode will equip you to hold onto hope and take your next step forward.

(00:00) Introduction: Finding hope in hard times

(01:10) What the Bible and psychology say about hope

(02:28) Lesa’s cancer story and the power of her doctor’s words

(05:12) Why hope matters: mindset, healing, and resilience

(07:00) Hope vs. fear: how gratitude creates space for peace

(08:45) A quick plug for Tuesday’s episode on postnuptial agreements

(09:20) Final encouragement: pass hope on to someone today

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• Hope is not naive—it’s a strategy for navigating uncertainty and adversity.
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Lesa Koski is a divorce attorney turned mediator, coach, and podcast host of Doing Life Different. Her mission is to help women over 40 find faith, healing, and fresh starts—whether in divorce, marriage, or life transitions. Her Saddle Up segments offer bite-sized wisdom to help listeners do life better every week.

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🎧 Episode Description:

Discover how postnuptial agreements can help strengthen your marriage, clarify finances, and protect your future—whether you're navigating a life shift, building a business, or staying at home to raise kids. In this follow-up episode, collaborative attorney Melissa Miroslavich joins us again to explore how postnups work, when they make sense, and why they’re about resilience—not failure. This is essential listening for women planning wisely, staying married, or preparing for what-ifs.

Learn how postnups provide financial transparency, reduce conflict, and empower couples to create a shared vision. Whether you're already married or want to build your marital estate plan, this episode will give you new tools and insights for Doing Life Different.

Timestamps:

(00:00) Welcome back to Melissa Miroslavich

(01:42) What is a postnuptial agreement?

(04:08) When postnups make sense during marriage

(06:32) Financial transparency and disclosure

(10:15) Postnups and stay-at-home spouses

(13:28) Collaborative law vs traditional attorneys

(17:55) Why postnups are about resilience, not divorce

(21:40) Key limitations around custody and child support

(24:00) Legal enforceability and the 2-year rule

(28:43) Final thoughts and how to contact Melissa

🔑 Key Takeaways:

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• Postnuptial agreements are legal tools that protect both partners when life changes mid-marriage.
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• They provide financial clarity, especially in cases involving businesses, stay-at-home parenting, or inheritance.
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• In Minnesota, both parties must be represented by attorneys for a postnup to be valid.
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👩‍⚖️ Guest Bio:

Melissa Miroslavich is a collaborative attorney based in Woodbury, Minnesota, specializing in estate planning, prenuptial, and postnuptial agreements. Her heart-centered, education-focused approach helps couples create clarity and protect their values, whether staying married or planning for the future. She blends legal expertise with compassion, offering collaborative solutions for modern relationships.

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• Part 1 (Prenups Episode): https://player.captivate.fm/episode/b092e8d6-5c81-46c2-9e69-24167ff6657c/

📌 Tags/Keywords:

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Can a prenup actually help prevent divorce? In this quick Saddle Up segment, Lesa Koski breaks down Tuesday’s episode with attorney Melissa Miroslavich and shares why prenuptial agreements might be one of the best ways to build a stronger, smarter marriage.

Whether you're single, engaged, divorced, or remarried, this 5-minute episode challenges the myths about prenups and explains how they set couples up for deeper commitment and clearer communication.

(00:00) Recap of full episode with Melissa Miroslavich

(01:20) Why prenups get a bad rap

(02:05) How prenups clarify your commitment legally and spiritually

(03:18) What most couples don’t realize about marriage and the law

(04:35) Final encouragement to think differently about prenups

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• Discussing a prenup shows emotional maturity and builds trust
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• Working together on a prenup may actually strengthen your marriage
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Can a Prenup Actually Strengthen Your Marriage? – with Melissa Miroslavich

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Should You Get a Prenup? How Legal Planning Can Strengthen (Not Sabotage) Your Marriage

Prenuptial agreements aren’t just for the rich and famous—they’re a powerful tool for protecting your marriage and your peace of mind. In this episode of Doing Life Different, attorney Melissa Miroslavich breaks down what a prenup is, why more couples should consider one, and how legal planning can actually reduce the chance of divorce.

Whether you're getting married, remarried, or just want to understand what you're committing to legally, this conversation will change the way you see prenuptial agreements. We also explore the emerging role of postnuptial agreements and the power of collaborative law to create respectful resolutions—even when emotions run high.

Melissa shares how couples can use prenups to clarify their financial values, communicate more openly, and avoid costly legal battles down the road. This episode is especially valuable if you're navigating divorce, thinking about marriage, or want to set your relationship up for long-term success.

(00:00) Quick intro: Why this turned into a two-part series

(01:10) Meet Melissa Miroslavich and her path to collaborative law

(04:42) What is collaborative law and why it matters

(08:00) How collaborative divorce protects families and kids

(11:33) The value of financial neutrals and family specialists

(14:25) What is a postnup? And how does it help married couples?

(15:10) Introduction to prenuptial agreements

(18:00) Why prenups are misunderstood—and how they strengthen marriage

(22:01) Financial transparency and setting expectations

(25:32) Are prenups enforceable in every state?

(27:50) Can prenups be challenged in court?

(32:05) Melissa’s advice for using prenups to reduce divorce conflict

(36:40) Why prenups are more about communication than control

(40:12) Final thoughts: Empowerment through legal clarity

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Melissa Miroslavich is a Minnesota-based attorney specializing in collaborative law, prenuptial/postnuptial agreements, and estate planning. With a background in business and a passion for client-centered solutions, Melissa helps families navigate legal planning with empathy and integrity. She serves on the board of the Collaborative Law Institute of Minnesota and is dedicated to helping couples resolve issues without unnecessary conflict.

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After divorce and burnout, Kristina Ganow lost 70 pounds, rebuilt her health, and found purpose through fitness coaching. Discover how small changes can reshape your future.

In this episode of Doing Life Different with Lesa Koski Divorce, Love & Reinvention After 40, Lesa Koski sits down with health coach Kristina Ganow to unpack her inspiring story of post-divorce transformation. From emotional burnout to competing in powerlifting competitions at 40+, Kristina shares how focusing on simple nutrition, weight training, and habits of health helped her lose 70 pounds and rediscover joy.

This conversation is full of real-life tools and mindset shifts for any woman navigating a hard season—especially in midlife. Whether you’re dealing with divorce, parenting stress, or feeling stuck in your health journey, Kristina’s practical advice and authentic vulnerability will inspire you to start small and build a strong, sustainable life.

(00:00) Introduction to Kristina Ganow and her transformation journey

(04:45) Life after divorce: juggling motherhood, burnout, and big changes

(09:20) How Kristina lost 70 pounds and changed her mindset

(14:10) From car crash to coaching: rediscovering fitness after 40

(17:58) Why Kristina started lifting weights and joined a powerlifting team

(23:40) The truth about muscle loss, protein, and aging well

(29:18) Healthy habits: sleep, stress, and smart food swaps

(34:05) How community, coaching, and accountability changed everything

(40:25) Best tips for women going through divorce or life transitions

(47:02) How to connect with Kristina and start your health journey

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Kristina Ganow is a certified health coach, former social worker and teacher, and mom of four. After navigating divorce, motherhood, and burnout, she lost 70 pounds and found her passion for fitness. Now she coaches women 35+ in creating lasting health through nutrition, strength training, and community. Her mission is to help women feel strong, empowered, and ready for what’s next.

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Parenting Through Challenges: A Personal Story and Helpful Insights

In this episode of the Saddle Up segment, the Lesa shares a personal story about parenting differences with her husband, illustrating how each parent can contribute uniquely, even when approaches differ. She emphasizes that her podcast is for women facing various hardships, not just divorce. Reflecting on a past conversation with attorneys about parenting through divorce, she reassures listeners that having one healthy, caring parent is enough for children to thrive. The host also highlights the importance of not making situations scarier than they need to be and encourages listeners to live a happy, fun life while recapping her previous podcast episode.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:12 About the Podcast

00:29 Parenting Through Divorce

01:36 Personal Parenting Story

02:56 Parenting Differences and Advice

03:51 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

DIY Parenting Plan Course

in this episode, host Lesa Koskiis joined by matrimonial attorneys Morgan Mazor and Lauren Crane from New York City to discuss the complex topics of co-parenting and divorce. The discussion covers practical tips for managing summer custody arrangements, the importance of forward-thinking in divorce proceedings, and the need for creative and collaborative approaches to achieve the best outcomes for families. Both attorneys share their personal journeys into matrimonial law and emphasize the significance of controlling emotions and communication during divorce. They also provide insights into the lengthy divorce process in New York and stress the effectiveness of mediation and coaching to facilitate smoother divorces.

00:00 Introduction and Technical Difficulties

00:33 Meet the Guests: Morgan Mazor and Lauren Crane

01:36 Lauren's Journey into Matrimonial Law

03:42 Morgan's Path and the Importance of Creativity in Law

08:06 The Challenges of Co-Parenting During Summer

12:01 The Importance of Mediation and Creative Solutions

20:31 The Lengthy Divorce Process in New York

25:59 The Role of Mediation in Resolving Cases

31:26 Conclusion and Contact Information

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DIY Parenting Plan Course

Find More From Lesa Here!

In this week's Saddle Up segment, Lesa shares key takeaways from Tuesday's special episode. Despite being stood up by a guest for the first time on the podcast, Lesa reflects on her personal experiences, including her 34-year marriage and battle with stage one breast cancer, to discuss the importance of setting boundaries and reigniting passions from childhood. She emphasizes that self-sacrifice should not come at the cost of one's own well-being. The episode encourages listeners to take responsibility for their choices, set boundaries, and nurture self-love to better serve others.

00:00 Introduction and Recap of Tuesday's Episode

01:12 The Importance of Setting Boundaries

02:22 Personal Experiences and Lessons Learned

02:39 Reigniting Passions and Self-Care

03:47 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this unique episode of 'Doing Divorce Different,' Lesa navigates an unexpected situation and shares profound insights on self-care and its importance in building stronger marriages. Drawing from her own experiences, including a 34-year marriage, a breast cancer journey, and personal growth, she discusses self-sacrifice, setting boundaries, and reconnecting with personal passions. Highlighting the significance of taking care of oneself to improve overall happiness and relationships, she offers practical advice and reflections aimed at both married and divorced listeners. This heartfelt and candid episode emphasizes the value of self-awareness, fun, and joy in life and relationships.

00:00 Introduction and Unexpected Situation

00:31 Reflecting on Personal Experiences

01:34 The Importance of Self-Care

03:03 Discovering Personal Joys

08:55 Setting Boundaries in Marriage

11:51 Building a Healthy Relationship

16:50 Conclusion and Final Thoughts