In this episode of Teaching Autism and Special Education with Nikki, we’re unpacking a behavior pattern that can feel incredibly confusing for educators and parents. Why do some students seem to deliberately mess up their own work just when they were close to succeeding? Whether it looks like ripping up work, scribbling over answers, refusing to finish, shutting down, or suddenly becoming silly, we explore why this is rarely about laziness or disrespect and far more often about protection, anxiety, overwhelm, and nervous system safety.

We dive into the hidden functions behind these moments, including fear of failure, fear of success, perfectionism, shame, executive functioning overload, and the need to regain control. I also talk about how success itself can sometimes feel threatening for students who are used to struggle, criticism, or pressure. For some children, sabotaging the work feels safer than risking mistakes, visibility, or increased expectations. Once we understand the “why” underneath the behavior, we stop seeing it as manipulation and start seeing it as communication.

This episode is packed with compassionate mindset shifts and practical strategies to help you respond differently in those difficult moments. We discuss lowering emotional intensity, reducing shame, rebuilding autonomy, normalizing mistakes, and spotting the patterns that often sit underneath these behaviors. Instead of asking, “Why would they do this?” this episode encourages us to ask, “What are they protecting themselves from right now?” That one question can completely change the way we support students through fear, pressure, and overwhelm.