Q: Hi! I recently had a miscarriage and it has been a season that has brought up a lot of questions. I was wondering if you had any insight? If God knits each person together in their mother’s womb, as Psalm 139 describes, then where is God in miscarriage? And if God is the creator of life, why does miscarriage happen? Does He create a life, then immediately change his mind? Do babies who die before they are born go to Heaven? 

Summary

In this episode, Dr. E addresses a listener’s heartfelt question: Where is God in miscarriage? This painful reality raises deep theological concerns—if God creates life, why does miscarriage happen? Do babies who die before birth go to heaven? Dr. Easley draws on both Scripture and personal experience with infertility to help frame the conversation. Psalm 139 reminds us that God knows us intimately, even from conception, and yet we live in a fallen world where tragedy and loss are unavoidable. 

Turning to Ecclesiastes, he explains that life under the sun is marked by brokenness, and not every “why” question will be answered this side of eternity. From David’s grief over his infant son in 2 Samuel 12, we see an example of trust: “I will go to him, but he will not return to me.” Ultimately, spiritual maturity means acknowledging our questions while leaning by faith into God’s sovereignty and goodness. Though miscarriage leaves parents with grief and unanswered questions, God’s Word assures us that He is near to the brokenhearted and offers peace that surpasses understanding.

Takeaways

Miscarriage raises difficult questions about God’s role in life and loss.

Scripture teaches that God knows and forms every life from conception.

We live as fallen people in a fallen world, where tragedy is inevitable.

David’s response to his infant’s death shows trust in God despite grief.

Maturity in faith means setting aside unanswered “why” questions.

God is near to the brokenhearted and offers peace beyond understanding.

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