In this episode, I sat down to talk with Bobbi Schlager Milne! I met Bobbi 20 years ago at my first Compassionatte Friends grief conference, and she has continued to be a constant source of love and support in the grief community, and among the few bereaved parents who made a real point in finding support for her surviving daughter Tracy (who later became the sibling representative on the nation board for The Compassionate Friends.) Bobbi's son Andrew was killed in an accident when he was just 10 years old, and his sister Tracy was 15, in 1985. A year later, Bobbi began writing about her grief but ultimately let the manuscript sit on a shelf.

After many years Bobbi revisted her earlier writings about Andrew and published a book, "Not My Andrew" in an effort to show people that it's possible to still find a path forward after the unimaginable has happened.

Find out more and get the book at https://notmyandrew.com

(you can also always get it on Amazon)

In this episode I got to talk with Author and certified coach Ingrid Hu Dahl. Her new book, "Sun Shining on Morning Snow" is a testatment to the importance of preserving family history and finding ways to talk about the things that we tend to avoid talking about.

After the death of her mother, Ingrid reflected on their relationship and how thier respective journeys of identity and self discovery was similar. Having her own struggle with both her cultural and sexual identity, Ingrid manages to weave her grief into a memoir that is about the ways our relationship to our parents and our past shape our future.

We also talk about the importance of continuing to tell the stories that make us, and to keep the memories of our loved ones alive.

Get the book at https://www.sunshiningonmorningsnow.com/buy

Find out more about Ingrid and her coaching at https://www.ingridhudahl.com/

Follow ingrid on IG @sunshiningonmorningsnow

In this episode, I talk with Author Louise Ells about her book, "Lies I Told My Sister."

Her novel began as a response to a a question a friend asked: "What scares you the most? And are you going to write about it?" Having already dealt with the loss of one of her sisters at a young age, Louise managed to find ways to express her feelings of grief and loss in a novel that explores the relationship between sisters, and the ways that we avoid our biggest fears.

We also talk about how writing itself can be so cathartic and a helpful way to make sense of our own emotional responses by having fictional characters deal with them.

Follow Louise at https://www.louiseells.ca/

In this episode I talk with comedian Keith Chase about the tumultuous year that saw him nearly lose his own life alongside dealing with the death of his grandmother as well as his father, all in a short span of time. Now 6 months later (This episode was recorded in Nov. 2024) Keith has started reflecting on all the issues that come out of loss, and how we think about our own mortality while still being responsible for someone elses paperwork.

We also talk about how hard it can be to transition back into regular life again when all you want to do is sit on your couch.

Follow Kieth on Instagram and TikTok @ChaseTheShortGuy

In this episode I talk with my good friend and fellow bereaved sibling, Earla Dawn Legault about her book, "Living With Sibliing Grief - Imagining a Way Forward."

After the death of her sister Leigh-Ann, Earla struggled to find support for her grief, finding very little in for those who had lost a sibling. Even her local grief support groups in Canada seemed too general to understand what she was going through.

Enter Monica Murphy, a fellow bereaved sibliing who was also struggling after the death of her sister Darcy. Together Monica and Earla wrote a book about their experiences and struggles that truly showcases the power of peer support, and all the connection that comes from putting ourselves out there.

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sibling.grief.buds/

GET THE BOOK At Amazon

Grief Matters 'guest' cartoon - https://griefmatters.ca/cartoons/where-are-all-books-about-adult-sibling-grief

Grief Matters blog - https://griefmatters.ca/blog/drawing-through-the-grief-of-an-adult-sibling

In this episode I talk with author Jonathan Foster about his book

After the death of his daughter Quincy at the age of 20, Jonathan spent close to a decade processing how to grieve and continue to keep hope in his life.

Poetry allows for a dynamic and interesting way to weave a narrative, and the ways we experience grief can often be so difficult to express in a linear way. "Indigo" manages to capture a stream of consciousness quality to his story that draws the reader in both mentally as well as visually.

We talk about the ways that we adapt the permanence of absence as we process not just our grief, but how to bring love back to the forefront of our lives.

Follow Jonathan online at https://www.jonathanfosteronline.com

Learn more about Jonathan's charity for Haiti - LoveHaiti.org

(and GET THE BOOK - "indigo: the color of grief"

In this episode I talk with comedian Benny Blue about his recent one-man show, "Live From My Mother's Funeral."

After his mother Virginia passed away in 2021, Benny found talking about his experience of grief on stage to be one of the few things that allowed him to be honest while still looking for humor in an otherwise traumatising moment.

Comedy allows us to talk about such a wide variety of things that we don't often talk about in our regular lives, and while we all deal with grief, it's one of the few things we don't always acknowledge.

Benny's show combines aspects of stand up comedy along with some theatrical pieces that blend together in a reimagined version of his mothers funeral that allows both him and the audience to process things together.

We also talk about how the writing and performing of this kind of material is so different from the promotion and sharing of the show.

Follow Benny and all that he does at https://www.bennyblueeyes.net/

Check out the Special - LIVE FROM MY MOTHERS FUNERAL

In this episode, I talk with Author Chris Cochran about his book, "What's Good About Today? A Purpose Driven Life." After getting a terminal cancer diagnosis at the age of 21, Chris' son Christian managed to keep his own optimism and uplifting spirit about him, inspiring those around him to be mindful and grateful for the life they have, and to earnestly exclaim all that which is good about today.

We talk about just how important perspective is when dealing with such a devastating loss, and how much it helps to keep talking about our loved ones.

Follow Chris at https://www.chriscochranspeaks.com

Get the book, "What's Good About Today?" HERE

In this episode, I talk to author Annie Sklaver Orenstein about her new book, "Always A Sibling: The Forgotten Mourners Guide To Grief." After years of struggling with her own grief after the death of her brother Ben to a suicide bomber in Afghanistan, Annie began writing what ultimately became the book that she wished had existed when her loss was fresh.

As a skilled reasearcher, Annie surveyed and interviewed dozens of other bereaved siblings, weaving their stories together with her own, along with detailed references to so many of the resources and support that is out there.

We obviously talk (and bond) over the fact that bereaved siblings are often overlooked - hence the Forgotten Mourners moniker, and how impactful it is to finally have found a community and a vocaulary to talk about our siblings with. We also talk about the surreal expereince of having to sell and promote someting so deeply personal.

Get the book and find out more about Annie!

https://www.amazon.com/Always-Sibling-Forgotten-Mourners-Guide/dp/030683149X

https://www.annieorenstein.com

Follow Annie on Instagram @AnnieSklaverOrenstein

In this episode I talk with comedian Brian Rabadeau life before and after the death of his father, Joe. After several bouts with serious health issues, Brian's father started the pandemic fighting against the isolation and struggling with all the mandates, which ultimately led to him dying of Covid in 2022. Since then Brian has worked on finding ways to move forward and let go of his anger towards his father, and at society at large, reminding himself that optimism and hope are still possible despite what llife throws at us.

Follow Brian on IG @Brabs91

If you're in the New Orleans area when this episode drops, Brian will be performing in the Hell Yes Festival, November 12th, 13th and 14th! (GET TICKETS AND MORE INFO HERE!)