Who The F*ck Do You Want to be When You Grow Up?

What happens when a Customer Experience expert sits down for a live Human Design reading…on air? 👀

This week, I’m joined by Bill Staikos for a really fun and insightful conversation where we break down his Human Design chart live in real time. Bill has spent years understanding people through the lens of customer experience, leadership, and business — so getting to flip the lens back onto him made for such a cool conversation.

We explore the way his energy naturally operates, how certain leadership dynamics show up for him, and the moments in his chart that immediately clicked. It was one of those conversations where you can literally hear someone connecting dots about themselves in real time…which always makes these readings so interesting to witness.

Whether you’re deep into Human Design or completely new to it, this episode gives you a real-life look at what a reading actually feels like — the breakthroughs, the resistance, the “wait…that’s way too accurate” moments, all of it.

And if you’ve ever wondered why certain leadership styles feel natural to some people and exhausting to others…this one’s gonna hit.

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This week marks one full year of Who the F*ck Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up🥹

In this anniversary episode, I’m sharing some of the biggest lessons, realizations, and unexpected shifts that came from starting something new and actually sticking with it for an entire year. We talk about perfectionism, discipline, phone addiction, purpose, vulnerability, trusting yourself, and what really happens when you finally decide to go all in on yourself.

More than anything, this episode is a reminder that becoming who you want to be doesn’t happen overnight. It happens through the small choices, the uncomfortable growth, the consistency, and the courage to keep showing up before you fully feel ready.

If you’ve been feeling the pull to start something, create something, share yourself more openly, or become more of who you actually are — this episode is for you.

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Are people actually mean… or are they just insecure? In this episode, we unpack what’s really behind hurtful behavior, why it affects you the way it does, and how to stop making it mean something about you.

•  insecurity often shows up as criticism 
•  understanding doesn’t equal tolerance 
•  why certain comments hit deeper 
•  understanding so you can move forward in power

If you’ve ever walked away from an interaction questioning yourself… this episode will bring you back to center.

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Parentification is one of those things you don’t realize happened… until you hear it explained. In this episode, we’re breaking down what it actually means to grow up taking on roles you were never meant to carry — and how that shapes who you are today. From being “the responsible one” to feeling like you have to hold everything together, this conversation will likely hit closer to home than you expect.

We get into how this pattern follows you into adulthood — in your relationships, your work, and your identity — and why control, over-responsibility, and burnout are often rooted in something much deeper. Most importantly, we talk about how to start shifting these patterns without losing the parts of you that are actually your strength.

In this episode:

•  What parentification actually is (and how to recognize it) 
•  Emotional vs. instrumental parentification explained simply 
•  How it shows up in adulthood (control, people-pleasing, over-functioning) 
•  The strengths it created — and when they start working against you 
•  How to start releasing what was never yours to carry 

If you’ve always been the strong one… this episode is for you.

Human Design Channel of the Week: 61-24 The Channel of Awareness

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Most people talk about growth like it’s exciting, expansive, and empowering — and it is. But there’s a phase in the middle that almost no one prepares you for. This episode is about the loneliness that comes with outgrowing your life, and why it’s not something to fix… it’s something to understand.

•  Why the loneliness phase of growth is necessary (and what it’s actually creating) 
•  How your priorities naturally shift — and why that can change your relationships 
•  What it really means to disconnect to reconnect with yourself 
•  How to trust where you’re going, even when nothing around you reflects it yet 

If you’ve been feeling disconnected, in-between, or like nothing fits the same way anymore… this episode will help you understand why — and what’s on the other side of it.

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This episode is a deep dive into attachment styles—what they are, how they’re formed, and why you keep showing up the way you do in relationships. If you’ve ever asked yourself “why do I always do this?”… this will connect the dots. We’re shifting from self-judgment to self-understanding—and that’s where everything starts to change.

•  Understanding attachment styles and why they’re not fixed (you’re not “just anxious” or “just avoidant”) 
•  The 4 attachment styles explained: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how they actually show up in real life 
•  How your childhood + nervous system wiring is still playing out in your relationships today 
•  The 3-step framework to change your patterns: awareness, choosing aligned partners, and reparenting yourself 

If you’re ready to stop repeating the same relationship patterns and start creating something different… this is your episode.

Referenced in today's episode: 

• Attachment Styles with expert Drew Daniels
• Human Design 101
• Human Design Authorities

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Becoming your highest self isn’t about being perfect — it’s about becoming rooted. In this episode, we break down what it actually means to step into your highest self, why you keep falling back into old patterns, and how to build the internal foundation that makes you unshakeable.

This isn’t surface-level self-development. This is about identity, nervous system safety, and learning how to hold yourself through every version of growth.

In this episode, we talk about:

•  What your highest self actually is 
•  How visualization creates real change 
•  Graceful accountability vs self-sabotage 
•  Becoming rooted and emotionally stable 
•  Using attention to build your life 

If you’ve been trying to become your highest self but keep slipping back into old habits… this episode will show you what’s actually missing.

Mentioned in the episode:

• How to Communicate Better - With Others and With Yourself
• TO BE MAGNETIC - subconscious reprogramming and rewriting neuro pathways
• How Parts Work Helps Us Get to Know Ourselves

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This week, we’re diving into relationship patterns—but not from the surface level. With the Libra full moon highlighting how you show up in connection, this episode is about what’s actually keeping you in the same dynamics… even when you say you want something different.

Because it’s not just about attraction—it’s about familiarity, nervous system wiring, and the choices you make once someone is in front of you.

•  How your past shapes what feels like “love” 
•  Why chemistry can be misleading 
•  The pattern behind repeating the same dynamics 
•  What compatibility really looks and feels like 
•  Learning to choose something different 

If you’ve ever thought “why does this keep happening to me?”… this will shift how you see it.

Mentioned in show: 

• Astrology 101 Episode
•  Astro-Charts Birth Chart

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You’re not confused — you just don’t trust yourself. In this episode, we get honest about how you’ve been trained to override your intuition, why you keep looking outside yourself for answers, and what it actually takes to rebuild self-trust so you can move with confidence.

•  How you learned to ignore your inner knowing 
•  The moment you talk yourself out of what you feel 
•  Why you keep outsourcing your decisions 
•  How to rebuild self-trust through everyday choices 

If you’ve been stuck in overthinking or waiting for clarity, this episode will shift how you listen to yourself — and what you do next.

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Episodes Mentioned: 

• HD Authority - THE NEED TO KNOW ONE
• Bonus Points - Human Design Centers
• 2 Chainz - Codie Sanchez Podcast

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This week’s episode dives into one of the most overlooked — but most defining — traits in any relationship: emotional maturity.
 
It’s not about how deeply you feel… it’s about how you handle what you feel. And once you understand what’s actually happening beneath your reactions, everything shifts — your relationships, your communication, and how you see yourself.

• Emotional maturity is the ability to feel fully without letting your emotions take over your behavior
• Immaturity shows up through defensiveness, lack of accountability, and treating emotions like weapons
• Your triggers are not random — they’re pointing to parts of you that need attention, not avoidance
• Real growth happens when you take ownership of your inner world instead of trying to change others

If you’re ready for deeper connection, better communication, and a completely different dating (and relationship) experience… this is the work.

Mentioned in todays episode:  Reparent Yourself - Episode 4 - TBM

Books:

• No Bad Parts
• The Body Keeps the Score
• Altogether YOU

Podcasts:

•  IFS Podcast
• Who Gets to Know All of You
• Why You Feel Unseen in Love

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Podcast Editor: @mollysmithpiro

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