Ep 15 Jon C (UK)

Teaser. Show Music: Group: The Crazy Spoonheads. – Song: Ghost of a Child

00:25 Message from Nicole and Joe

1:59 Jon’s Story

4:46 And then her new boyfriend attacks me

7:30 It’s easy to blame them when it’s over

9:35 Dead Beat Dads are actually rare – stats

10:00 The car crash, or was I conned?

11:10 Lessons Learned: Big decisions need big planning

13:01 Men can be assaulted without justice anywhere in the world

14:45 Forced to communicate with someone who abused you????

15:56 False Allegations to enforce coercive control

16:59 Visa Fraud and False Allegations

18:51 Trauma Bond and not engaging with them

20:00 Does knowing the psychology behind FA help?

23:30 What if a person, knowing committing false allegations, received the same prison sentence?

24:59 No attempt at sincere communications

27:00 So, what did her first husband say?

28:50 Holiday Dad

31:20 Living with extended family

33:30 You’ll go nuts trying to understand why she did what she did

39:08 Being accused of DV in a foreign country and homesickness

44:00 Advice, Red Flags, and Lessons Learned

46:36 Recap and Call to Action

Closing music Group: The Crazy Spoonheads– Song: Ripple

Let your voice be heard

https://ChuckKelleher.com

https://WhyDaddyNeverCries.net

Support Groups

https://www.falselyaccusednetwork.co.uk/

https://www.fatherhood.gov/

Show Links

https://www.census.gov/library/publications/2018/demo/p60-262.html

Suicide Prevention – Crisis Intervention

UK: https://www.spuk.org.uk/national-suicide-prevention-helpline-uk/

USA: https://988lifeline.org/

Canada: https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/suicide-prevention/warning-signs.html

Ireland: https://www.samaritans.org/samaritans-ireland/

New Zealand: https://mentalhealth.org.nz/suicide-prevention

Australia: https://www.lifeline.org.au/

Teaser/Show Music: Group: The Crazy Spoonheads. – Song: Ghost of a Child

00:56 Message from Nicole and Joe

2:50 Show Opening – Rhys’ Story

7:44 Caught off guard

10:09 Weird, not weird – because she accused other men

12:23 GOOGLE: Why are more men at risk of suicide after a relationship breakdown?

15:00 So, what were the accusations against you?

18:16 A Meeting with the social worker is scheduled during my work hours

28:35 From a security perspective

36:35 1066 Motorcycles Charity

38:49 Advice, Red Flags, and Lessons Learned

44:02 Kids only have one childhood

50:12 Recap and Call to Action

Closing music Group: The Crazy Spoonheads – Song: Ripple

Let your voice be heard

https://ChuckKelleher.com

https://WhyDaddyNeverCries.net

Support Group

https://www.falselyaccusednetwork.co.uk/

https://www.fatherhood.gov/

Show Links

https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/deaths/bulletins/suicidesintheunitedkingdom/2021registrations

https://www.kabirfamilylaw.co.uk/what-rights-does-a-father-have-to-see-his-child/

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https://www.glassdoor.co.uk/Reviews/Women%E2%80%99s-Aid-Federation-of-England-Reviews-E1779066.htm

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/womens-aid-responds-to-the-budget-2/

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https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/domestic-abuse-is-a-gendered-crime/

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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2015_Shoreham_Airshow_crash

Suicide Prevention – Crisis Intervention

UK: https://www.spuk.org.uk/national-suicide-prevention-helpline-uk/

USA: https://988lifeline.org/

Canada: https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/suicide-prevention/warning-signs.html

Ireland: https://www.samaritans.org/samaritans-ireland/

New Zealand: https://mentalhealth.org.nz/suicide-prevention

Australia: https://www.lifeline.org.au/

Teaser. Show Music: Group: The Crazy Spoonheads. – Song: Ghost of a Child

00:56 Message from Nicole and Joe

2:50 Show Opening – Holidays are the worst days, but you're not alone

4:25 Is this your first year without your kids?

4:54 October Holiday Hat-Trick or Treat

9:00 Is your partner being manipulated?

12:39 LESSON LEARNED 1

13:44 RED FLAG ALERT

15:13 Vodka, unlike your heart, doesn’t freeze

23:32 Baby’s 1st Halloween – Oh, and you’re not invited

26:33 LESSON LEARNED 2

27:25 LESSON LEARNED 3

28:34 Planning for YOUR holidays

32:10 Find support – Below are links

32:33 Advice and Lessons Learned

54:15 Call to Action

Closing music Group: The Crazy Spoonheads – Song: Ripple

Support Groups

https://www.falselyaccusednetwork.co.uk/

[email protected]

https://www.fatherhood.gov/

Suicide Prevention – Crisis Intervention

UK: https://www.spuk.org.uk/national-suicide-prevention-helpline-uk/

USA: https://988lifeline.org/

Canada: https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/suicide-prevention/warning-signs.html

Ireland: https://www.samaritans.org/samaritans-ireland/

New Zealand: https://mentalhealth.org.nz/suicide-prevention

Australia: https://www.lifeline.org.au/

Teaser. Show Music: Group: The Crazy Spoonheads. – Song: Ghost of a Child

00:56 Message from Nicole and Joe

2:05 Show Opening – Hinesh’s Story

7:30 So he developed a database for landmines - yep, landmine database

8:00 Bloated governments and men lacking support are detrimental to your kids

12:00 If you’re not side-by-side co-parenting and taking care of your kids, the kids lose. Risk AND Structure

16:50 We’re responsible for our own feelings and self-talk - the value of saying, “try again.”

19:30 How do you lead with integrity?

25:30 Accept your situation, and that doesn’t come easily

26:00 Anatomic Nervous system, positive intelligence, and getting sick – heart rate variability/box breathing

31:00: Why do our brains go to mush?

32:00 Vagus Nerve?

35:30 Different tricks to keep your cool – how to counteract negative energy

35:19 The Dickens Process

40:48 Need a WIN! Here are five ways to start your recovery

44:45 Bonus Win!

47:00 Advice and recap

54:15 Call to Action

Closing music Group: The Crazy Spoonheads – Song: Ripple

Connect with Hinesh at:

https://decentdivorceddads.ca/

https://decentdivorceddads.com/

https://www.youtube.com/@decentdivorceddads

Instagram: OttawaHinesh

Teaser. Show Music: Group: The Crazy Spoonheads. – Song: Ghost of a Child

00:56 Message from Nicole and Joe

2:01 Show Opening – Scott’s Story

5:10, I ignored my intuition

9:39 When your kids ask, “Why did Daddy leave?”

12:53 The Incident

17:00 Principal calls Daddy – “I think you should visit your kids.”

17:42 Let the custody battle begin! Wait, it’s over?

20:04 The price of being an addict

26:00 When the cops are involved – HIRE A LAWYER IMMEDIATELY!

32:19 You need to recognize your relationship mistakes and how your children might not recognize your ex's involvement.

35:46 Out of his pain, art rises: Driveway (see link below)

37:37 Losing your family, your home, your life

40:12 Advice and recap

00:00 Call to Action

Closing music Group: The Crazy Spoonheads – Song: Ripple

Check out Scott’s content at

How My Divorce Shaped my song Driveway: https://youtu.be/Ssymg2iwmu0?si=xiASi8upxxeLzBxA;

Listen to Scott Hall’s song Driveway: https://linktr.ee/scotthallsongs

Discover Scott Hall: https://iamscotthall.com/

Teaser. Show Music: Group: The Crazy Spoonheads. – Song: Ghost of a Child

00:56 Message from Nicole and Joe

2:05 Show Opening – Paul’s Story

5:20 God’s calling – Righteous, of course. Doesn’t pay well, though

8:04 Celebrating your professional success as your world burns

10:13 I’m working with disadvantaged children, yet I can’t see my own son

11:15 First comes love; then comes marriage; then comes a prejudicial judge

13:29 The DV narrative is out before you even know your relationship is over

14:56 Church heads rally to a just cause, but are they on the correct side?

16:30 How did this affect your overall health?

16:32 As an abused child, these false allegations are the most cruelty I’ve ever experienced.

18:59 REMEMBER!!! Finalize your plans before telling your kids

23:15 Courts continually work with mothers but quickly disregard fathers if there’s an issue

24:54 That CMS Guy on TiKTok

27:30 Dead Beat Dad idiom – This is not the common Dad

26:15 What happened to the UK’s child support system?

28:20 How does That CMS Guy help?

32:11 Brian Hudson https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_oTru89vlSQ CMS and men’s suicides.

34:15 Split the Difference https://www.split-the-difference.com/

36:41 Advice and recap

43:25 Call to Action

Closing music Group: The Crazy Spoonheads – Song: Ripple

Check out Paul’s content at https://www.tiktok.com/@that.cms.guy

Teaser. Show Music: Group: The Crazy Spoonheads. - Song: Ghost of a Child

00:29 Message from Nicole and Joe

2:03 Show Opening – Jago’s Story

07:49 Hello, Non-Mol - Jail, here I come

12:31 What to tell your kids when they’re afraid you’re going to jail.

15:10 Principles are okay - for billionaires.

24:50 Happy Birthday, Son

27:06 Revenge Porn – are you kidding me

33:20 How her lies and actions affected her relationship with the kids

37:50 There’s this sense of justice will prevail if you have overwhelming evidence in your favor

40:40 Who really needs protection?

41:50 Advice, red flags, and recap

45:44 Call to Action

Closing music Group: The Crazy Spoonheads – Song: Ripple

00:00 Teaser. Show Music: Group: The Crazy Spoonheads. Song: Ghost of a Child, Message from Joe and Nicole

1:56 Show Opening – Cali John’s Story

08:39 When you realize the relationship was going south

11:59 Wife switched seizure medication for allergy medication

15:29 Mediation is a JOKE

17:41 Wife’s lawyer worked for the judge outside of court. Conflict of interest, nope.

20:04 California Senate Bill X211 of 2011

21:28 Retaliation. Aren’t you worried that they will keep coming for you?

23:38 Kids for cash: Pennsylvania judges trade favors for court orders https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kids_for_cash_scandal

25:12 You have representatives; USE THEM!

25:43 California Bar Rule 8.3  https://www.calbar.ca.gov/Portals/0/documents/ethics/Rule-8-3-FAQ.pdf

26:19 So where do we go from here?

41:41 Dads Caucus, don’t just vote; vote for politicians that support your family and men’s issues

46:05 Advice and recap

52:00 Call to Action

Closing music Group: The Crazy Spoonheads – Song: Ripple

00:00 Teaser. Show Music: Group: The Crazy Spoonheads. Song: Ghost of a Child

00:41 Message from Joe and Nicole

02:16 Show Opening - Harely’s Story

04:16 Breakfast of (soon to be dead) champions

10:17 A stranger calls to say, “You’ll never see your children again.”

16:17 Wanna know whodunit, just follow the money

23:41 Hell in a Shelter

26:24 Why not to trust the other side’s attorney/solicitor

33:14 When 20 armed cops came-a-knocking

38:11 Poking the uncaged bear

41:30 Another daddy driven to attempt suicide

45:15 Hope leaves with each alienated day away from kids

47:11 Advice and recap

50:15 Technical outtakes

50:46 Call to Action

Closing music Group: The Crazy Spoonheads – Song: Ripple

00:00 Teaser. Show Music: Group: The Crazy Spoonheads. Song: Ghost of a Child

00:20 Message from Joe and Nicole

2:03 Show Opening

3:23 Joe’s Story

7:13 From provider to abuser overnight

11:18 You’re scared of me… but you want to live next door?

15:27 The delay game and other ways they hurt us

17:29 How to save your mental health

20:49 Relationships, people change over time – why do some people try to destroy their spouse?

24:52 Today’s TikTok psychologist, rise in feminism and decline of Western Men

27:13 Joe’s Muslim community

29:17 Divorce is a huge industry; therefore, this must be treated as a business deal

33:58 You’re using my children against me; now it’s war!

37:23 Advice for the Down Daddies

39:31 Once they call the cops on you – never go back!

43:13 Call to Action: Why Daddy Never Cries

00:00 Recap: Show Music: Group: The Crazy Spoonheads. Song: Ripple