Why Daddy Never Cries

Opening Song: Ghost of a Child by The Crazy Spoonheads

02:10 Let’s get into it – David’s Story – No more preaching to the choir

06:12 Thank God for family

08:10 Briefly reunited with my kids leads to Round 2

10:00 The Stakeholder Theory and Grieving the loss of a child – who’s still alive

14:49 Social Services, police, and gender bias in the UK

17:38 The history of the common thread – When kids are killed while under social service protection

20:40 Politicians and Gender bias

20:23 When guys (the few) snap, or were they abused to the point of no return?

27:52 I collapsed because I was broken

31:31 You can’t put a price on support of any kind

34:52 Over 4-months and counting without access to my children

37:54 Child Support UK and NYS

39:48 Are there benefits to claiming domestic violence?

34:36 At the forefront of this battle, you’re on your own – but we’re uniting the tribes

45:11 Missing your kids every day

47:07 The right to a speedy trial doesn’t matter when they don’t look at the evidence

49:34 Gender Bias? – how about a serial killer comparison

52:34 Advice from the trenches

55:30 Call to Action

Closing Song: Ripple by The Crazy Spoonheads

History 101 Links

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Stinney

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/My_Boy_Jack_(poem)

https://www.bbc.com/historyofthebbc/anniversaries/september/war-announced/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Linda_Fairstein

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trapp_Family

https://www.britannica.com/biography/Carry-Nation

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2020/01/16/volstead-prohibition-anniversary/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hercule_Poirot_in_literature

https://www.biography.com/crime-figure/ian-brady

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/African_diaspora

https://fullcast.co/

https://www.vossg2.com/

02:03 Welcome to the Party

04:22 Sometimes relationships don’t work out

05:16 From Chaplin to Head of School to…

07:46 The art of listening and coming out of therapy

11:44 “And this is when you grow up very, very quickly.”

14:05 Getting arrested and handcuffed in front of your children

16:03 Twenty-one hours in a police cell

19:30 And this is why you change your Netflix password

24:29 Two and a half weeks later, I got a message from her, “I love you. I miss you. I need to see you.”

28:02 It takes one and a half hours to scroll threw one day’s worth of her love texts and then another twenty hours in a prison cell.

30:50 The police had proof the non-molestation was a lie, but they thought they could win a conviction.

34:17 In the UK, can the police confiscate your phone and keep it? – Yep, six months without my phone.

37:14 This system breaks men; it kills men – simply because she has a feeling.

40:26 We’ve promoted a system where a man is guilty until proven innocent.

42:32 Been There/Done That Advice: What to do when you’re arrested in front of your children?

45:42 You’re circle of friends makes all the difference – sometimes, between your life or death!

48:26 Men’s mental health highest rate mid-40 early 50’s in the UK

50:18 Call to Action  

On today's show, we talk to Mike, the cofounder of Falsely Accused Network. We'll hear how Mike is grieving the loss of a living son.

00:00 Opener

02:35 Let's get into it: Mike's Story

06:50 "I thought she'd worked out that I left her."

11:00 Divorce is a simple process in the UK

13:30 Home DNA testing and advice

16:30 "She was letting all my family see him, accept me."

18:00 And that's when false allegations of DV started. I have men who found out 19 yrs later they have a son.

20:00 Falsely Accused Network UK - resources

24:30 "Many men have killed themselves because of false allegations." "We just want people to stop making false allegations."

26:00 We know it's a small amount of women doing this. This is why we need good women to stand up against false allegations.

30:00 We don't get involved in the legal side. We help men through many emotions destroying men who've been falsely accused.

35:00 No repercussions for making false allegations. The courts allow this form of domestic violence to knowingly exist and thrive.

41:35 "For the child, this is lifelong trauma for him."

44:45 "It costs $35 to get married. It cost me over $100,000 to stay in my kids' lives." Advice to younger guys

48:30 How to reach Falsely Accused Network UK and the absolute need to start a local group in your area. - Best of all, you walk away with a plan at the end of it!

52:30 Opening the family courts and protecting the names

55:00 "If anyone in the United States is thinking of doing what we've done."

56:00 Call to Action

You can't change what happened to you, brothers. So figure out a way to make it work for you and your children.

Falsely Accused Network @FalseAccusedUK on Twitter

Why Daddy Never Cries @DaddyNeverCries on Twitter

00:00 I guess the best way to describe paying Child Support, or paying alimony, well, to quote a line from the Avatar song, The Dirt I’m Buried In, is “An unknown destination, tied up in the trunk of a stolen ride.”   

4:08 Our Episode Question: What would you pay to accomplice whatever you wanted or needed twice a month – if not more? That’s right, brothers. When that cat is away, the mice will play.

4:20 We’ll start with Alimony, spousal support, or maintenance, whatever you want to call it

7:52 Why was there opposition to no-fault divorce in New York State?

10:38 Types of Alimony:

11:47 Is alimony fair? It depends on who you ask

15:00 So, what do you think? Is anyone out there defrauding the system? It’s okay to laugh.

18:20 Are modern-day lawyers to blame for this nightmare? No, not entirely. We in modern society are

21:21 His kids lied about the abuse story, and he did jail time

23:15 The name child support is self-explanatory.

26:19 I was told, “You can pay her, or you can pay me,” by some attorneys

27:35 My Ex and I never speak, and I haven’t seen her face in years. If you get one thing from this show, it is that blissful miracles do happen. So, hang in there, Daddy; you’ve got this.

35:27 Everything happens for a reason. You can’t change the past; you can’t change what happened, so figure out how to make it work for you.

35:47 Now, how much Child Support is too much? Well, let’s ask Braveheart himself, Mel Gibson,

35:52 If you feel that your Ex is misusing child support funds

39:20 States that have historically been recognized for taking a stringent approach to child support enforcement

39:50 The 2015 Walter Scott Case

40:40 Another story of warning

44:50 Don’t confuse being in your children’s lives with the demands your Ex makes. Kids need their dads.

46:13 This is the very bright light at the end of the Child Support Tunnel.

48:29 It’s not an overnight thought process, but you, Mel, and I have nothing to complain about.

Closing theme music: Ripple by The Crazy Spoonheads

The police are at your door, and you don't know why; welcome to the wonderful world of Artifice Accusations of Domestic Violence or AADV. That's only one fun fact about false accusations; you don't know you're a monster until a wall of blue looks at you like, well, you get it.

On today's show,

00:00 I came home to an empty house. Our relationship was over, but I never suspected my wife would steal everything we owned and leave without saying a word.

03:52 Welcome to the wonderful world of AADV -FUN FACT

06:05: Remain calm, or you’re probably going to jail. A guy kills ex’s boyfriend in front of my house

08:09 How to keep from getting a boot up your…

09:56 If you don’t know the local laws, it’s probably best to speak to an attorney

11:47 So, what is an order of protection?

16:26 Unfortunately, fate has chosen us accountable to pay for the DV perpetrator’s sins

18:09 My order of protection said the following:

19:04 Now we come to the Soul-Searching part.

20:03 My child ended up in the ER

24:22 And for a split second, I felt I could bring my wife back from the abyss.

30:10 Before I left NYC, I sent my children the following email.

35:17 Did she forget we kept weapons next to the bed, or was she legitimately trying to perform murder by cop?

37:04 One huge mistake I made

39:13: When life gave me a lemon, I said the hell with a glass. I’m making an international

lemonade franchise.

0:00 Intro On today’s show, Chuck will discuss what the Why Daddy Never Cries Podcast is all about and why its importance is paramount in the survival of everyone’s family. Song by The Crazy Spoonheads, “Ghost of a Child.”

02:13 What if you could help save approximately 200,000 children and, subsequently, their children, plus add 80,000 battle-tested warriors to your ranks?

03:01 Unfortunately, burying your once soulmate seems to be the standard operating procedure in the 11-billion-dollar/year Family Court-Divorce legal system. https://www.forbes.com/advisor/legal/divorce/divorce-statistics/

04:10 There came a time when I knew and accepted that my relationship with my wife, the mother of my beautiful children, was over. Although what happened next was straight-up Keyser Soze (BLEEP)

05:22 I didn’t grow up in a home plagued by domestic violence. Although, as a child, this was interesting

07:21 Most domestic batterers showed a consistent pattern of violence and manipulation for power and control. Power and control over an individual  https://www.justice.gov/ovw/domestic-violence, and most of us can’t fight this battle effectively while we’re in the middle.

09:02 Unfortunately: These violent abusers are real, and websites showing DV are everywhere. The men depicted in these videos are P.O.S.

14:04 If two people engage in yelling, do you really think a person needs to spend 3-months in a domestic violence shelter to protect their children? The National Domestic Violence Hotline, a 24/7/365 resource available to help people escape DV situations https://www.thehotline.org/

15:50 National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse https://fatherhood.gov/

19:04 Dad’s Caucus https://gomez.house.gov/news/documentsingle.aspx?DocumentID=2737

20:20 Unfortunately, there is one type of DV that is not only frequently ignored. It’s actually encouraged and supported by some in today’s divorce proceedings – Artifice Accusations of Domestic Violence or AADV   ** Remember one critical point: AADV pertains to innocent people **

23:25 How come we’re going insane? Because Artifice Accusations of Domestic Violence pop into all your life’s memorable events, and it never seems to end.

26:29 Every new teacher, new school, new friend’s parent, new extra school activity, whatever involves your kid, will bring fresh judgmental eyes – NO WORRIES, WE’RE STRONGER THAN THAT! Do not take childhood experiences away from your children!

27:51 Another salt-in-the-wound technique the kid’s school would use was having the school psychologist sit next to their mother at all kids’ school events.

30:54 If you or anyone you know is a single Dad or even a dad who often has one-on-one time with his kids, visit https://www.whydaddynevercries.net/ or https://www.ChuckKelleher.com/ share your story or get a copy of My First Macaroni Necklace.

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31:30 AADV is used mainly during divorce proceedings by one partner against the other to gain control of the children and their schedules. Gaining control over an individual. Yet, right now, I hear people asking who would lie about being abused.

36:46 I first understood how to constructively use my fatherhood abyss by telling segments of my story to other Down Daddies and some quick stats

39:19 Call to Action

43:19 Outro: “When life gave me a lemon, I said the heck with a glass. I’m creating an international lemonade franchise” – Crazy Spoonheads “Ripple.”