Why Does No One Tell You

By Why Does No One Tell You

Two first-time moms who discuss all the things we're learning about motherhood that no one told us or talks about.... more

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The podcast currently has 37 episodes available.

Why Does No One Tell You episodes:

August 13, 2023 The Importance of Self Care
Self care is taking the time to do things that help you live well and improve your mental, spiritual, and physical well-being. If self care is so important why don’t moms prioritize it more and what prevents us from even basic self care- like taking a shower? This week we talk about the different facets of self care and why no one tells you that it’s almost impossible as a mom.
Key Takeaways:
- The 4th trimester is MEGA important and you will experience social, physical, mental changes which results in vulnerability
- Be intentional and be okay that self care looks different than it did before becoming a mom
- Give yourself permission to take care of yourself
Resources:
- https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/caring-for-your-mental-health
- https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/the-fourth-trimester-what-you-should-know-2019071617314
Postpartum care kit:
- Dermoplast Pain, Burn & Itch
- Birchwood Laboratories A-E-R
- Frida Mom 2-in-1 Postpartum
- Frida Mom Upside Down Peri Bottle
- Depend Silhouette Incontinence
- wirarpa Women's Cotton Underwear
- 2 in 1 Postpartum Belly Wrap
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Instagram: @whydoesnoonetellyou
Email: [email protected]
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Music by Slip.stream - "Take Me Away"

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26min
August 06, 2023 About Home Births, Part 2
Key Takeaways:
- When doing a home birth, the midwives are unable to give any vaccinations. If you choose to vaccinate, those are done with your pediatrician.
- Hemorrhoids can occur when you try to push but your body is not ready or if your body is not in a conducive position.
- Don’t be afraid to ask your midwife questions about the process if you aren’t sure what your body’s doing.

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Instagram: @whydoesnoonetellyou
Email: [email protected]

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Music by Slip.stream - "Take Me Away" - ⁠https://slip.stream/tracks/309b1221-ebde-466f-b149-1b70ba7221cf
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34min
July 30, 2023 About Home Births, Part 1
In today's episode, we get to hear Jessica's experience with home birth. We learned a lot about the process, the differences between home birth and hospital birth, and the beauty that is found in it all.
Key Takeaways:
- You can decide at any point during your pregnancy to have a home birth, but you need to call to schedule with a midwife/birthing center as soon as you've decided
- Home births require less testing and checkups until closer to the baby's arrival but provide more classes and resources for expecting mothers
- The midwife is present for active labor and delivery, but home birth highly prioritizes allowing the body to do its thing
Resources:
- Classes at your local birthing center (call to check what your local center provides)
- Hypnobabies: https://www.hypnobabies.com
Connect with us!
Instagram: @whydoesnoonetellyou
Email: [email protected]
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Music by Slip.stream - "Take Me Away" - ⁠https://slip.stream/tracks/309b1221-ebde-466f-b149-1b70ba7221cf
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25min
July 23, 2023The Reality of Coming Home
Jess and Trafenia talk about what it really feels like to go home with a brand new baby. Packing up from the hospital, the car ride home, and even checking out can be a little overwhelming for any new parents. They have all the intention to rest those first few days but sometimes things don’t always go as planned (and that’s okay mommas!).

Key Takeaways:
It is okay to put up boundaries as a new mother and not have visitors for a little while.

If you have a meal train, don’t feel obligated to invite people in.

Take the time to relax as much as you can with a new baby because those first days are so precious.

Resources:
Natural Hospital Birth
https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Hospital-Birth-2nd-Worlds/dp/155832917X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2AC7G38PKA142&keywords=natural+hospital+birth+by+cynthia+gabriel&qid=1688735553&sprefix=natural+hospital+b%2Caps%2C115&sr=8-1

Connect with us!
Instagram: @whydoesnoonetellyou
Email: [email protected]

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24min
July 16, 2023About the Newborn Tests
Jess & Trafenia walk through each test your baby may receive once they are born. We are speaking from our experiences with hospital birth. We don’t know if different hospitals do different things, but our experiences seem like a good starting point for preparedness. Ask your doctor if you have any questions regarding newborn tests for your baby.

Key Takeaways:
It would be beneficial to do your research on these tests so you can make your own decisions about whether or not to have them done right away

Each newborn test is optional and can be done later on down the road

The tests happen quickly and you will be tired, so make sure you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to your decisions

Resources:
From the CDC
- Vitamin K https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/vitamink/vitamin-k-fact-sheet-general.html#:~:text=Vitamin%20K%20is%20needed%20for,brain%20damage%20and%20even%20death.
- Hearing Test https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/hearingloss/parentsguide/understanding/newbornhearingscreening.html#:~:text=Infants%20and%20Babies'%20Hearing%20Can%20Be%20Checked&text=A%20baby's%20hearing%20can%20be,or%20in%20their%20mothers'%20room.
From Dr. Green Mom
- Newborn checklist https://www.instagram.com/p/CqCI584oxvP/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
- Delayed cord clamping https://www.instagram.com/p/CqEtusRhWRy/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
- Vernix https://www.instagram.com/p/CqG2F9trAku/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
- Skin to skin contact https://www.instagram.com/p/CqJP7RuMFGH/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
- Antibiotic eye goop https://www.instagram.com/p/CqUKeuUStyf/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
- Vitamin k shot https://www.instagram.com/p/Cqb44mNtLV1/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
- Hepatitis b shot https://www.instagram.com/p/CqWvSdooExe/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
- Heel stick https://www.instagram.com/p/Cqln57rBPP0/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Connect with us!
Instagram: @whydoesnoonetellyou
Email: [email protected]

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28min
July 09, 2023What Happens with Mom After Baby is Born
It is all about the baby usually! In this episode, Jess and Trafenia talk about what happens to mom right after the baby is born, the beginnings of postpartum recovery, and other things to expect in the hospital.

Key Takeaways:
The fundal massage is not an actual massage.

Give yourself grace. The simplest tasks will take so much effort and work.

Leave all of the postpartum stuff you have stocked for when you are at home, except your peri bottle.

Resources:
Depends underwear https://www.amazon.com/Depend-Silhouette-Incontinence-Postpartum-Absorbency/dp/B083M1RG69/ref=sr_1_2_sspa?crid=1YKMQSRAQTYXO&keywords=depends+underwear+for+women&qid=1688735342&rdc=1&sprefix=depends%2Caps%2C102&sr=8-2-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGY&psc=

Frida mom peri bottle
https://www.amazon.com/Postpartum-Original-Fridababy-MomWasher-Cleansing/dp/B07TXLZ8MR/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?crid=OFQIF2Z0WJ44&keywords=frida+mom+peri+bottle&qid=1688735377&sprefix=frida+mom+peri+bottle%2Caps%2C107&sr=8-1-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGY&psc=1

Connect with us!
Instagram: @whydoesnoonetellyou
Email: [email protected]

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27min
July 02, 2023What To Put In Your Birthing Plan
Trafenia and Jess share their birthing plans to give you an idea of what to include in yours. They both took different approaches to their plans, but both were effective. When writing your birthing plan, make sure it reflects who you are and what you want from your birthing experience.

Key Takeaways:
Birthing plans help to establish and communicate your boundaries

They can be a way to process what will take place

Birth plans can be as simple or as detailed as you want them to be

Resources:
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
Natural Hospital Birth by Cynthia Gabriel

Connect with us!
Instagram: @whydoesnoonetellyou
Email: [email protected]

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32min
June 25, 2023 Their True Birth Story - Jess's Birth Story, Pt. 2
Tune in as we listen to part 2 of Jess’ birth story. At this point the doctor told Jess at 38 weeks that the baby could come at any time…..and now it is 41 weeks. We talk about what it feels like to actually push a baby out. If the act of labor was up to a man, then there would be no people on this earth.
Key Takeaways:
- Don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself.
- Once you decide this is the only way forward, it doesn’t get easier but now it is a matter of let’s walk through it.
- Find a doctor that you have full confidence in.
Resources:
Natural Hospital Birth: The Best of Both Worlds by Cynthia Gabriel: https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Hospital-Birth-Best-Worlds/dp/1558328815
Connect with us!
Instagram: @whydoesnoonetellyou
Email: [email protected]
Disclaimer: https://msha.ke/whydoesnoonetellyou#splash
Music by Slip.stream - "Take Me Away" - ⁠https://slip.stream/tracks/309b1221-ebde-466f-b149-1b70ba7221cf
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33min
June 18, 2023 Their True Birth Story - Jess's Birth Story, Pt. 1
We get to hear about Jess’s birth story - the Jess version. We determine when exactly labor starts, talk about the details of the primal side of birth story, and everything in between.
Key Takeaways:
- Birthing will happen at the perfect timing.
- That baby will arrive when they are ready.
- It’s okay if things are not completely ready.
Resources:
Natural Hospital Birth: The Best of Both Worlds by Cynthia Gabriel: https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Hospital-Birth-Best-Worlds/dp/1558328815
Connect with us!
Instagram: @whydoesnoonetellyou
Email: [email protected]
Disclaimer: https://msha.ke/whydoesnoonetellyou#splash
Music by Slip.stream - "Take Me Away" - ⁠https://slip.stream/tracks/309b1221-ebde-466f-b149-1b70ba7221cf
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29min
June 11, 2023Their True Birth Story - Trafenia's Birth Story, Part 2
Why does no one tell you that you have to push? In part two of Trafenia’s birth story we continue the conversation and find out that birthing a baby is as unique as each mother.

Key Takeaways:
Try to relax your body as much as possible to let it do it’s thing

Do whatever preparation you need to feel comfortable

Knowledge is the opposite of fear

Resources:
Natural Hospital Birth: The Best of Both Worlds by Cynthia Gabriel: https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Hospital-Birth-Best-Worlds/dp/1558328815

Connect with us!
Instagram: @whydoesnoonetellyou
Email: w[email protected]

Disclaimer: https://msha.ke/whydoesnoonetellyou#splash
Music by Slip.stream - "Take Me Away" - ⁠https://slip.stream/tracks/309b1221-ebde-466f-b149-1b70ba7221cf
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21min

FAQs about Why Does No One Tell You:

How many episodes does Why Does No One Tell You have?

The podcast currently has 37 episodes available.