Why Isn't Everyone Doing This? with Emily Fletcher

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November 03150. Why Isn’t Everyone Realizing Minerals Are the Building Blocks of Reality? with Barton Scott
What if the missing link between your inner work and your energy is a handful of minerals?
In this Season 5 finale, Emily Fletcher sits down with Barton Scott, a chemical engineer, nutritionist, and founder of Upgraded Formulas, who has spent his career studying the most overlooked building blocks of our biology. Emily and Barton meet in Colombia at Mindvalley’s A-Fest, where he hands her a glass of water with a heavily salted rim and changes how she thinks about hydration.
Barton explains why he calls blood “us on our best behavior,” why he prefers hair tissue testing, and why even a clean diet can fall short, from soil to low stomach acid to what he calls chronic rushing. He shares his view that chronic stress burns through minerals like magnesium and potassium faster, and that meditation helps slow that burn. Emily connects it to manifesting: your state of consciousness lives in a physical body, and nourishing the 3D building blocks makes the road easier.
Barton also opens up about the search to help his mother that sets him on this path and the book he is writing on how nutrition becomes personality. Emily closes the season by returning to the question this show was built on.
In this episode, Barton explores:
Why minerals are not boring, and why he calls them the building blocks of reality

Why he calls blood “us on our best behavior,” and why he prefers hair tissue testing

The checking-account and retirement-account metaphor for blood and bones

Why a healthy diet can still miss: soil, low stomach acid, and chronic “rushing”

How he says chronic stress speeds up the burn rate of magnesium and potassium, and how meditation helps slow it

Why minerals are a daily practice, like meditation

“Test, don’t guess,” and how often he suggests testing

Why he says most supplements don’t absorb well

How a mineral-first lens connects to sleep, mood, and what you attract
Key Moments:
00:00 – Welcome, and who Barton Scott is
02:30 – How they meet: A-Fest, a shared cab, and a salted glass of water
05:00 – How Barton falls in love with minerals
10:15 – “Blood is us on our best behavior”
11:54 – The checking account and the retirement account
13:38 – The waterfall in Maui: fix the problem at the top
17:56 – How would you know you’re mineral deficient?
19:13 – Emily on magnesium and sleep
20:08 – Barton’s book: how nutrition becomes personality
23:36 – Why we’re deficient: soil, low stomach acid, and “chronic rushing”
24:50 – How meditation may slow the burn rate of magnesium and potassium
27:54 – Minerals are a daily practice, like meditation
31:03 – Where to start: “test, don’t guess”
34:00 – “Turn the electricity back on”: salt, cells, and mood
36:06 – Why Barton says most supplements don’t absorb
42:58 – Perimenopause, menopause, and hormones
52:39 – Why isn’t everyone realizing minerals are the building blocks of reality?
56:27 – Why Emily started this show
56:51 – Where to find Barton
About Barton Scott
Barton Scott is a chemical engineer, nutritionist, and the founder of Upgraded Formulas, a supplement company built around mineral testing and absorption. He uses hair tissue mineral analysis, teaches a course for practitioners, and has spoken at Mindvalley events. He is writing a book on how nutrition becomes personality, and what to do about it.
Website: upgradedformulas.com
Instagram: @askbarton and @upgradedformulas
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1 hr
October 20149. Why Isn’t Everyone Building Regenerative Cities? with Tony Cho
What if sustainability only sustains the status quo, and the real goal is to leave everything more alive?
In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with her dear friend Tony Cho, regenerative placemaker, founder of Future of Cities, and author of Generation Regeneration. Tony grows up in an ashram his grandmother founded, becomes a Miami nightclub promoter, helps transform the Wynwood Arts District, and now leads the Regenaissance, a movement to build places and communities that give back more than they take.
Together they define regeneration in plain language, trace where the lie of scarcity begins, and look at why a cold plunge in your building means little when the street outside is unsafe. Tony shares what Chief Nixiwaka of the Yawanawá teaches about community and dying, and what the Phoenix Arts & Innovation District in Jacksonville is proving. Emily connects it to Ziva: a regenerative future starts with regenerative minds, and a nervous system that feels safe has more capacity to build solutions.
Tony also opens up about grieving his late wife, Ximena, in public, the grandmother who threatens to cut him off when he moves to Argentina, and what a lifetime of ups and downs teaches him about manifestation, readiness, and self-love.
In this episode, Tony explores:
What regeneration means in plain language: giving more than you take, and drinking while you pour

Why sustainability only sustains the status quo

Where the lie of scarcity begins, and why Tony calls it a misallocation, not a shortage

Why one green building, or one cold plunge, can’t make a place regenerative

What Chief Nixiwaka of the Yawanawá says about aging, dying, and village life

The 15-minute city, Copenhagen’s swimmable harbor, and Milan’s Bosco Verticale as proof points

How an ashram kid becomes a nightclub promoter and a Wynwood developer, and why he says he stewards this work, he doesn’t own it

What grieving his late wife in community gives him and the people around him

His take on manifestation: purpose behind the call, no skipped steps, and what happens when he skips meditation

Nature, community, and culture: the three pillars, and why the inner work comes first
Key Moments:
00:00 – Welcome, and who Tony Cho is
02:49 – “Squeezing every last drop out of the bottle”
04:44 – Honoring Ximena, and thank you for grieving out loud
08:55 – Compost: how grief becomes fertile soil
10:18 – Giving more than you take: what regeneration means
12:52 – Why sustainability only sustains the status quo
14:43 – Where the lie of scarcity begins
16:20 – Why a cold plunge means little if the street outside is unsafe
17:19 – Chief Nixiwaka on dying alone and what a village does differently
23:54 – Tenzin Seldon, and gross domestic regeneration versus GDP
25:46 – Emily on why a regenerative future starts with regenerative minds
28:25 – The 15-minute city
36:29 – “I’m dropping out, and oh, by the way, I’m eating meat”
41:09 – Stewardship over ownership
44:13 – “What is the purpose of your manifestation?”
47:38 – What happens when a visionary skips meditation
54:22 – The three pillars: nature, community, and culture
1:00:02 – Buckminster Fuller and the “Reese Witherspoon plan”
1:06:06 – The Phoenix Arts & Innovation District
1:10:30 – “A misallocation of resources, not a scarcity of resources”
About Tony Cho
Tony Cho is a regenerative placemaker, impact entrepreneur, and founder of Future of Cities, a platform for regenerative development, advisory, and education. He grows up in his grandmother’s ashram, helps transform Miami’s Wynwood Arts District, and now leads projects including the Phoenix Arts & Innovation District in Jacksonville, the Climate & Innovation Hub in Miami, and ChoZen, a bioregional hub for regenerative living in Sebastian, Florida. His work has been featured in outlets including The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal, and his mission is to positively impact the lives of a billion people. His debut book, Generation Regeneration: Codesigning the Future of Cities Through Regenerative Placemaking, is out now.
Get the book Generation Regeneration: https://link.amazon/B06lY9s5V
Website: tony-cho.com
Future of Cities: focities.com
Instagram: @tonycho
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1 hr 15 min
October 13148. Why Isn't Everyone Finding the Love They Desire? with Sabrina Zohar
What if your attachment style isn’t a label you’re stuck with, but a pattern you can rewrite?
In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with Sabrina Zohar, a certified dating and relationship coach, entrepreneur, and host of The Sabrina Zohar Show. Her debut book, Why Am I Like This?, is out Oct 13. Sabrina is known for direct, practical advice on attachment, triggers, and self-worth, rooted in psychology and nervous system science.
She explains why we keep choosing the same pattern, why you can earn your secure, and how to build the capacity to receive the love you say you want. She also gives two questions to ask in any trigger: how old do I feel, and who taught me this? Then Emily brings a real dating story from her own life, and Sabrina coaches her live on why little Emily took the wheel and what big Emily needs instead.
Emily also connects the dots to Ziva: raise your threshold of tolerance, the space between a trigger and your response, and you get to choose who you want to be.
In this episode, Sabrina explores:
Why we think we know what we want but not what we need
The salience network, and why your brain keeps finding the same pattern
Wanting a healthy relationship versus having the capacity to hold one
A one-word pattern interrupt for people-pleasers
How to tell an old wound from a real red flag by the intensity of your body sensations
Why attachment styles are not fixed, and why “people are not bumper stickers”
Two questions for any trigger: “How old do I feel?” and “Who taught me this?”
Why rejection closes the loop and ghosting keeps it open
The difference between intellectualizing your patterns and embodying change
What to do when a partner starts using you as their therapist
Key Moments:
00:00 – Welcome, and who Sabrina Zohar is
03:14 – Why isn’t everyone finding the love they desire?
04:26 – The salience network: why your brain keeps finding the same pattern
05:31 – Wanting love versus having the capacity to hold it
07:47 – The one-word pattern interrupt for people-pleasers
12:11 – It is okay to want someone: needs versus wants
16:11 – Wound or red flag? How to tell an old trigger from a real signal
19:05 – The unanswered text, and what your body sensations reveal
20:16 – Attachment styles are not fixed
26:26 – “How old do I feel?” and “Who taught me this?”
27:04 – Emily connects the dots: the space between trigger and response
29:44 – Live coaching begins: Emily’s Burning Man story
34:59 – Rejection closes the loop, ghosting keeps it open
38:01 – “Little Emily was driving the car”
45:56 – The egg frequency: discernment and choosing
50:17 – Main character energy, without the entitlement
56:16 – From knowing to embodying
58:04 – “Your triggers are not my responsibility”
1:04:35 – When one partner grows spiritually and the other does not
1:08:08 – Get comfortable being uncomfortable
About Sabrina Zohar
Sabrina Zohar is a certified dating and relationship coach, entrepreneur, and the voice behind The Sabrina Zohar Show, a weekly podcast on dating, attachment, and self-worth that ranks in the top 0.05% of podcasts globally. She has coached more than 2,000 clients, and her work has been featured in Vogue, Glamour UK, the Los Angeles Times, and People, and on The Drew Barrymore Show. Her debut book, Why Am I Like This?, is out Oct 13.
Get the book: Why Am I Like This? → sabrinazohar.com/book
Website: sabrinazohar.com
Instagram: @sabrina.zohar
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1 hr 13 min
October 06 147. Why Isn't Everyone Getting Unstuck from a Flat World? with Dr. Meenal Agarwal
What if vision is one of the missing pieces in the anxiety, brain fog, and overwhelm you have been blaming on yourself?
In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with Dr. Meenal Agarwal, a board-certified optometrist, spatial awareness expert, and author of Stuck in a Flat World. Dr. Agarwal is a leading authority on the eye-brain connection and the person who coined the term spatial awareness processing disorder. Her work shows how a screen-heavy life disrupts the brain's ability to judge distance, track motion, and move through real-world space.
Dr. Agarwal explains why the parietal lobe works like your brain's GPS, why a phone becomes a shield in crowded places, and why spatial awareness and empathy are more connected than most of us realize. She also shares her own story, from a confident cross-border driver to someone who feared parking lots, and what brought her back. Emily connects it all to Ziva: the way you use your eyes changes your brain, just as meditation changes its architecture.
You leave with simple practices for before, during, and after screen time, including the 20-20-20 rule, a way to map a room before you enter it, and games that build spatial awareness in kids.
In this episode, Dr. Agarwal explores:
– Why "cut your screen time" misses the point, and what screens are stealing instead
– The difference between near work and peripheral vision, and why the parietal lobe is your brain's GPS
– Why you feel off balance after hours at a screen, and why so many kids get labeled instead of supported
– The shift she recommends: prime your peripheral awareness before the screen, not after
– The 20-20-20 rule, and Emily's eyes-open version of Come to Your Senses
– Spatial empathy versus emotional empathy, and the Costco effect
– Your brain's nightly recalibration, and how Emily uses promises and consequences with her own phone
– What her year and a half of research taught her, and the baby steps that brought her back
– Practices for kids: walk and talk, a daily audio phone call, the finger game, and the color walk
– Why vision is about far more than 20/20, and what an eye exam can reveal about the brain and nervous system
Key Moments:
00:00 – Welcome, and who Dr. Meenal Agarwal is
02:50 – What screens are stealing, and why "cut your screen time" misses the point
05:58 – The milestones we are missing: driving, biking, going out on our own
07:34 – Ventral and dorsal streams: what near work does to the brain's fear and balance centers
09:10 – Why you wobble after hours at a screen, and why we label clumsy kids
10:07 – The phone as a shield: a yoga studio story
15:21 – Prime before you scroll: the shift that works for adults and kids
18:27 – Come to Your Senses: Emily's eyes-open version of a Ziva practice
19:03 – Why your eyes are brain tissue, plus iridology and Drishti
23:10 – The 20-20-20 rule, and why looking away wakes up both streams
28:05 – The empathy study, and spatial empathy versus emotional empathy
32:04 – Map the room before you walk in: the Costco effect
33:46 – Emily connects the dots: the eyes, the nervous system, and the architecture of the brain
43:26 – Your brain's GPS needs a nightly recalibration, plus Emily's midnight promise
51:24 – The moment on the stairs that sent her searching for answers
55:56 – Library Saturdays, grocery aisles at night, and one friend at a time
58:44 – The finger game and the color walk: spatial awareness as play
1:06:30 – "If you don't know where you are in space, you won't know where you are in your own story"
About Dr. Meenal Agarwal
Dr. Meenal Agarwal is a board-certified optometrist (Doctor of Optometry, University of Waterloo), a spatial awareness expert, and a leading voice on the eye-brain connection. She owns three eye care practices in Ontario and hosts the podcast Uncover Your Eyes: The Truth About Health and Wellness. Her book, Stuck in a Flat World: How Screens Rewire Our Brains, Spatial Awareness, and Sense of Safety, is out Nov 2.
Get the book: Stuck in a Flat World →
drmeenal.com/stuck-in-a-flat-world
Website: drmeenal.com
Instagram: @drmeenalagarwal
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1 hr 10 min
September 29146. Why Isn't Everyone Dancing Their Feelings? with Sah D’Simone
What if ninety seconds on a dance floor could do what ten years of therapy couldn't?
In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with Sah D'Simone, a spiritual teacher, humanitarian, and bestselling author whose approach to healing was forged through over 300 days of silent meditation, clinical spiritual care training at Cedars-Sinai Hospital, and years of direct service in the margins. Sah is the creator of the Somatic Activated Healing (SAH) Method and founder of the Somatic Dance Institute, and his work has drawn collaborations with Harvard, Columbia, and the UN.
They trace Sah's path from meditation teacher to dance mystic: the night in Bali when a trance on the dance floor cracked him open into a full-body recognition of strangers dancing beside him, the year his mother died and everything he'd built around joy fell apart, and why he believes talking about trauma can trap you in a cycle of blame while dancing it moves the charge all the way through. They also get into how Christian missionaries turned the god of dance into the devil, the nuanced difference between chasing pleasure and finding it inside whatever is true, and why no feeling, however big, is the one that finally breaks you.
In this episode, Sah explores:
Why talking about your trauma can trap you in a cycle of blame, while dancing it moves the charge all the way through

The night in Bali when a trance on the dance floor cracked him open into a full-body recognition of strangers he'd apparently known before

How Christian missionaries turned Pan, the god of dance and revelry, into the image of the devil

The difference between chasing pleasure as an escape and finding the ecstasy inside whatever is true, even rage or grief

What his mother's death taught him about prayer, pain, and the limits of visualization

A Vipassana retreat gone sideways, and the wave of full-body release that followed once he stopped resisting

Opening for a DJ with five minutes' notice, and the closest he has come to a physical experience of the divine on a stage

Why no feeling is too big to survive, and what actually makes people exhausted
Key Moments:
00:00 – Emily's introduction: from meditation teacher to dance mystic, and why Harvard and Columbia came calling
03:02 – Why the most prestigious universities on the planet are studying his work
05:10 – His mother's death, and the six months of "sanctioned insanity" that followed
07:48 – The Osho line: why a woman dancing is closer to God than a man meditating
08:40 – Why talking about your trauma can trap you in a cycle of blame and victimhood
14:11 – How Christian missionaries turned Pan, the god of dance, into the devil
19:40 – The night in Bali when dance cracked him open into a past-life recognition on the floor
27:06 – 2020, and the moment "the goddess" rewired his entire career overnight
28:00 – "Part rave, part ritual": why the fastest, most industrial beats create the safest place to disappear
30:47 – His pushback on spiritual bypassing in ceremony culture, and Emily's response
40:34 – What his mother's death taught him about pain, prayer, and the edges of joy
42:27 – A Vipassana retreat, "princess and the pea," and the full-body release that followed
44:23 – The Iceland eclipse festival, and opening for a DJ with five minutes' notice
49:31 – The first-ever multi-day festival at the pyramids, and the Egypt eclipse he's building toward in 2027
51:16 – What he'd say to the exhausted parent of three who says they don't have time to dance
54:05 – His one request: dance to a single song, eyes closed
58:04 – A Lakota elder's line: all the suffering on the planet traces back to uncried tears
About Sah D'Simone
Sah D'Simone is a spiritual teacher, humanitarian, and bestselling author of Spiritually Sassy and Spiritually, We. He is the creator of the Somatic Activated Healing (SAH) Method and founder of the Somatic Dance Institute, where he has trained teachers and guided communities worldwide in trauma-informed, body-based practice. A chaplain intern in spiritual care at Cedars-Sinai Hospital and guest teacher at Columbia University, his work has been recognized with the City of Los Angeles CARE Award. He hosts the podcast Solving the Riddle of Being Human.
Website: sahdsimone.com
Instagram: @sahdsimone
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1 hr 5 min
September 22145. Why Isn't Everyone Priestessing Themselves? with Elayne Kalila
What if the word apocalypse was never about the end of the world, but about what gets revealed once the veils come down?
In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with Elayne Kalila, a psychotherapist turned priestess and the founder of the Priestess Presence Mystery School, for a conversation that travels 30,000 years back to trace the deliberate erasure of feminine spiritual authority. Elayne walks through the Venus of Willendorf, the moment agriculture and land ownership gave rise to patriarchy, and why the women burned as witches were so often the post-menopausal landowners, healers, and midwives, not young women at all.
They also get into Freud's diagnosis of hysteria and its roots in the idea of a wandering womb, why 43 million American women between 45 and 65 are entering their power rather than their decline, and Elayne's own confronting practice for holding the men causing harm on an altar of healing instead of hatred. This is a conversation about rage as initiation, aging as beauty, and what it means to priestess yourself and everyone around you through change.
In this episode, Elayne explores:
Why the witch burnings targeted post-menopausal landowners, healers, and midwives, not young women

How agriculture and land ownership seeded patriarchy 10,000 years ago

Why "apocalypse" actually means the lifting of the veils

Her altar practice: naming powerful men who've caused harm and calling them into their hearts

Freud's diagnosis of hysteria and its roots in the idea of a wandering womb

Why 43 million American women between 45 and 65 are entering their power, not their decline

Isis and her twin sister Nephthys, and Inanna's seven gates as the oldest map for this transition

Why rage in perimenopause is information, not dysfunction
Key Moments:
00:00 – Emily's tribute to Elayne, and welcome to Why Isn't Everyone Priestessing Themselves
01:20 – Introducing Elayne Kalila: psychotherapist turned priestess
04:50 – Going back 30,000 years: the Venus of Willendorf and the first evidence of goddess worship
05:42 – How agriculture and land ownership seeded patriarchy 10,000 years ago
06:56 – The witch burnings: who was really targeted, and why
09:59 – The apocalypse, meaning the lifting of the veils
13:34 – The case for the feminine, made directly to the man who thinks this isn't for him
21:48 – Elayne's altar practice: naming powerful men who've caused harm and calling them home
35:42 – What it means to priestess yourself: navigating the unknown without a map
47:54 – Isis and her twin sister Nephthys, and the echo of Inanna and Ereshkigal
50:53 – Hysteria: how a wandering womb became a medical diagnosis for a woman's power
53:04 – 43 million American women are entering perimenopause, and why that's power, not decline
58:05 – Premenstrual rage as information, not dysfunction
1:00:45 – Inanna's seven gates as the oldest map we have for this transition
1:01:54 – Aging as beauty: the story of her partner and her white hair
About Elayne Kalila
Elayne Kalila Doughty, MA, MFT, is a psychotherapist turned priestess and the founder of the Priestess Presence Mystery School, where she has spent over a decade ordaining women into the Divine Feminine mysteries. She is the author of The Sacred Call of the Ancient Priestess and The Magdalene Rose Oracle, and hosts The Red Podcast.
Website: elaynekalila.com
Instagram: @elayne.kalila
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1 hr 11 min
September 15144. Why Isn't Everyone Using Pleasure to Reclaim Their Power? with Regena Tomashauer
What if the darkest season of your life isn't a punishment, but an initiation?
In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with her friend and former roommate Regena Thomashauer, known around the world as Mama Gena, for a conversation about her new book, On Our Knees. Regena is the New York Times bestselling author of Pussy: A Reclamation and the founder of the School of Womanly Arts, and this book was written by hand, one card and one page at a time, over years of 5am mornings.
Regena walks through the myth of Inanna's descent into the underworld, why she believes hell is a patriarchal invention built to keep women small while the underworld exists to make them whole, and what it costs a woman to keep playing “fine” instead of the full range of who she is. She also shares her own story: a goddess who visited her bedside at five years old, an acting class that told her she had no sensuality, and the years at what she calls “the Vatican of orgasm” that taught her pleasure is a biological miracle, not a luxury. The conversation closes with Regena reading live from the book's chapter on Kali, the goddess who arrives precisely when a life has grown too small to hold who you're becoming.
Get the book: On Our Knees by Regena Thomashauer, available now →
https://mamagenas.com/onourknees/
In this episode, Regena explores:
Why hell is a patriarchal invention, and why the underworld belongs to the feminine instead

The myth of Inanna, and why a throne can get a woman adored but never whole

Her own childhood visits from an unnamed goddess, and years spent searching for her

The acting class that sent her looking for orgasm instead of a callback

Life inside what she calls “the Vatican of orgasm,” and the neurochemistry that let her heal

Why pleasure regulates the nervous system in ways therapy and to-do lists cannot

A live reading from On Our Knees: the Kali chapter

Raising sons inside a goddess-centered household, without leaving them out of the story
Key Moments:
00:00 – Welcome back Regena Thomashauer, and the poetry behind On Our Knees
03:11 – Why she's proudest of how vulnerable this book is: “Broken is the new shiny”
04:48 – The erotic as the doorway that opens both radiance and rupture
08:49 – Hell versus the underworld: two very different stories about the dark
12:02 – The myth of Inanna, and why the goddess runs an initiation, not a prison
14:45 – The 88 keys: why “I'm fine” is the smallest note women are allowed to play
19:47 – What the goddess says instead of “you're failing”: “You're mid initiation”
21:38 – Isis and her twin sister Nephthys, and Emily's own discovery of the unmanifest
22:45 – The goddess who visited Regena's bedside at five years old
25:02 – The acting class that sent her looking for orgasm instead of a callback
28:15 – Inside Lafayette Morehouse, “the Vatican of orgasm”
30:01 – The neurochemistry of pleasure: oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins, and prolactin
32:15 – For the exhausted single mother who thinks pleasure is a luxury she can't afford
38:02 – Why pleasure regulates the nervous system in ways nothing else does
41:56 – Live reading from On Our Knees: the chapter on Kali
46:35 – Why she wrote the book for every gender, but chooses to lead with the feminine
48:08 – Raising sons inside a goddess-centered household without leaving them out
53:59 – Regena's deepest hope for what this book changes
About Regena Thomashauer
Regena Thomashauer, known to millions as Mama Gena, is the New York Times bestselling author of Pussy: A Reclamation and the founder of the School of Womanly Arts, where she has spent almost three decades helping women reclaim their pleasure, power, and erotic aliveness. Her new book, On Our Knees: Loving Your Life Even When You Hate What's Happening, is available now.
Website: mamagenas.com
Instagram: @mamagena
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58 min
September 08143. Why Isn't Everyone Raising Conscious Children? with Dr. Shefali
The average age a child first sees porn online is nine to eleven. They are not looking for it. It finds them.
In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with Dr. Shefali, who has been on Oprah more than any other guest and is one of the most trusted voices in conscious parenting alive today. She joins Emily with two new books just weeks apart, Raising Conscious Sons and Raising Conscious Daughters, and the two go deep on the questions Emily is sitting with in real time as a mother to a seven-year-old boy.
They talk about what a screen is actually giving a child that a parent can learn to give instead, why the average boy is never initiated into his own sexuality or his own masculinity, and why that single gap traces a direct line to shame, misogyny, and the abuse now surfacing everywhere from the Epstein files to a website called Motherless. Dr. Shefali also opens up about what writing these two books dissolved in her, a judgment of an entire generation she didn't know she was carrying, and a new compassion for men she wasn't expecting to find.
In this episode, Dr. Shefali explores:
Why the average age for a child's first exposure to porn is nine to eleven, and why no one is looking for it

What a screen is actually giving a child, and how to build an analog version of that same reward at home

Why sons need to be initiated into their sexuality the same way a daughter is initiated into her body

The tribal initiation story behind the book Of Water and the Spirit, and what it reveals is missing today

Why testosterone is a hormone of pursuit that needs somewhere to go, not a behavior to suppress

The four pillars of raising a conscious son: mentors, authenticity, accountability, competency

What changed in Dr. Shefali's own judgment of an entire generation once she wrote these books

Why remothering the good men already in your life may be the fastest path to protecting your daughters

The risk no parenting book saw coming: chatbot friends, chatbot lovers, and children gambling their parents' money online

What never changes about a child's needs, no matter how fast the world moves around them
Key Moments:
00:00 – Welcome back Dr. Shefali, and why this conversation was two years in the making
02:11 – The real challenge of raising a son across two households
03:44 – Detox and withdrawal: what happens the moment the iPad disappears
05:55 – Building an analog surrogate for the dopamine a screen provides
09:38 – The average age kids first see porn, and why it finds them unbidden
11:04 – Sacred sexuality, shame, and what pornography is teaching in its place
12:08 – Talking to a son about arousal the same way you'd talk to a daughter about her period
14:00 – A hundred kids interviewed, and the one answer nobody expected
17:33 – Life force is neutral: Emily's own kundalini awakening and learning to receive
20:38 – Why Raising Conscious Sons exists: Adolescence, misogyny, and a culture in crisis
21:34 – Isis remembers Osiris: the myth behind putting a wounded masculine back together
22:27 – The site called Motherless, and 81 million views in a single month
24:01 – Of Water and the Spirit: a stolen initiation into manhood, reclaimed
26:38 – Sovereignty for daughters, tribe for sons: why the initiation is different
29:46 – The Urban Explorers: how boys build their own dangerous rites of passage
34:39 – The Hadza hunt, and why testosterone needs somewhere to go
37:11 – The four pillars of conscious masculinity
42:52 – What writing these books dissolved in Dr. Shefali's own judgment
46:37 – Mother Mary, Mary Magdalene, and remothering the men already in your life
49:05 – The Pac-Man fix: what happened when Emily brought a screen into her own house
51:20 – Why the books are already outdated: chatbots, AI relationships, and kids gambling online
53:59 – What never changes: safety, soothing, and significance
58:44 – Retiring as "the mother," and letting a 23-year-old daughter adult on her own
About Dr. Shefali:
Dr. Shefali Tsabary holds a doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and is a New York Times bestselling author who pioneered the conscious parenting movement. She has appeared on Oprah more times than any other guest and is the author of nine books, including The Conscious Parent, The Awakened Family, A Radical Awakening, and The Parenting Map. Her two newest books, Raising Conscious Sons and Raising Conscious Daughters, are available now.
Website: drshefali.com
Instagram: @DrShefali
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September 01 142. Why Isn't Everyone Stepping Out of Suffering and Into Possibility? with Jim Curtis
You cannot escape a cage you cannot see.
In this episode, Emily Fletcher welcomes back Jim Curtis, a coach and author who has spent years healing his own life and now helps others move from suffering into possibility. Jim's own story includes a difficult childhood and an undiagnosed illness at 19 that left lesions on his spinal cord, taking him from an athletic identity to a wheelchair, and forcing him to rebuild who he was. His new book, The Book of Possibility: Release, Align, Become, distills what he learned into a path anyone can follow, out Sept 1.
Emily and Jim go deep on judgment, forgiveness, and what Jim calls invisible cages, the patterns running our lives that we can't change until we see them. Emily shares two of her own stories along the way, a New York street encounter with a disabled Uber driver's quiet generosity, and the night her own back gave out after months of overgiving. Jim also breaks down the neuro-linguistic programming behind his book and reads a passage live.
In this episode, Jim explores:
– The two-word answer he received when he asked a channeled being why we're here– A judgment story from Burning Man, and the pattern of becoming exactly what he judges– Why forgiveness is so hard, and why the ego doesn't want to let someone off the hook– Quantum jumping, memory reconsolidation, and hypnosis– His own story: a difficult childhood, an illness at 19, and rebuilding from a wheelchair– The invisible cages concept, and why the door out is always unlocked– Why your actual outcomes, not your intentions, reveal what's really running your life– The classic trope of the over-giving healer, and learning to charge for his work– The line he calls his favorite: "pain is part of the human experience, suffering is optional"– Miracle stories from his career, and why he won't try to fix the pain people write to him about– The NLP behind the book's language, and its parallel to the pain-relief mechanics of BDSM– His next project: a certification school for hypno coaches
Key Moments:
01:16 – The Osho quote: a woman dancing is closer to God than a man meditating05:39 – Channeling Metatron: "see beauty, spread beauty"07:16 – The Burning Man judgment story10:03 – Forgiveness as the way out of closed fists14:47 – Quantum jumping and rewriting memory through hypnosis17:28 – Jim's own story: an abusive childhood and an illness at 1921:27 – The invisible cages, and why the door is always unlocked23:02 – Finding what's running your life by looking at your outcomes29:06 – The Uber driver story: a disabled man's quiet generosity34:05 – The classic trope of the over-giving, unboundaried healer44:47 – "Pain is part of the human experience, suffering is optional"49:15 – Miracle stories: fear eradication, eyesight, and unexpected divorces51:40 – Emily's own story: her back giving out after months of overgiving57:26 – A live reading from the book: "You are the love you seek"1:03:31 – The surprising parallel between NLP and BDSM's pain-relief mechanics1:05:57 – Book details: Sept 1 release, 17 chapters, why to buy the hardcover
More from Jim Curtis:Get The Book of Possibility: www.bookofpossibility.comVisit Jim's website: www.jimcurtiscoaching.com
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1 hr 10 min
August 25141. Why Isn't Everyone Working With Quantum Energy? with Todd Shipman
What if the parts of reality you can’t see are influencing far more than you realize?
In this episode of Why Isn’t Everyone Doing This?, Emily Fletcher sits down with wellness entrepreneur Todd Shipman, who enters the world of quantum energy as a full-blown skeptic, determined to prove that much of what he is seeing is nonsense.
Then he starts experimenting for himself.
Todd shares the personal test that first challenges his skepticism and sends him deeper into the study of frequency, quantum energy, and quantum entanglement. What begins as an attempt to debunk the unseen becomes a much bigger exploration of how information, energy, and the physical body may interact.
Emily connects Todd’s work to a concept that sits at the heart of Ziva: the Unmanifest, the field beneath the physical reality we can touch and see. Together, they explore what quantum entanglement means, why the quantum field can be so difficult to put into language, and what it looks like to create a physical bridge between the seen and unseen.
They also get into EMFs, manifestation, water, intention, LeelaQ’s Infinity Bloc, and one of the most important questions in any conversation about the unseen: How do you stay open-minded without abandoning discernment?
Emily and Todd return again and again to the balance between scientific research and lived experience, especially when something feels real before we fully understand how to measure it.
If the word quantum makes one part of you curious and another part of you skeptical, this conversation gives both parts a seat at the table.
In this episode, they explore:
Why Todd originally thinks quantum-energy products are ridiculous

The personal experiment that forces him to question his assumptions

What Todd means when he talks about quantum energy and frequency

Quantum entanglement and the idea that information can remain connected across distance

How Emily connects the quantum field to Ziva’s concept of the Unmanifest

Why skepticism and discernment matter in the wellness industry

EMFs, Wi-Fi, Bluetooth, and living in a technology-filled world

What Todd says LeelaQ is studying around its quantum-energy technology

The difference between research-backed claims and anecdotal experiences

Working with water, intention, prayer, and the Infinity Bloc

Why both Emily and Todd believe personal experience belongs in the conversation

The overlap Emily sees between meditation, stress, and returning the body to its natural state
Key Moments
00:00 — Why isn’t everyone working with quantum energy?
01:36 — Ziva, the Unmanifest, and making the invisible physical
05:04 — Nature, nurture, and the body’s “original blueprint”
12:35 — Todd’s starting point: “This is ridiculous”
13:21 — The personal experiment that opens Todd’s mind
23:12 — Quantum entanglement explained
42:38 — Emily asks the question she’s been avoiding: What about EMFs?
47:44 — If quantum energy is everywhere, why would anyone need a device?
51:54 — Water, intention, and the Infinity Bloc
57:25 — Why so many people still hear “quantum” and think “woo-woo”
59:54 — Todd’s very strange sage-and-raw-milk experiment
1:01:37 — Emily on science, personal experience, and discernment
1:06:53 — The connection Emily sees between quantum energy and meditation
1:08:10 — Todd’s final thoughts on using the technology alongside meditation
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1 hr 12 min

About Why Isn't Everyone Doing This? with Emily Fletcher

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Welcome to Why Isn't Everyone Doing This with Emily Fletcher. Each week we’ll explore some of the most spine-tingling, potent modalities that can give you the kind of bliss and pleasure that is your birthright. No topic is off limits: We’ll dive into everything from breathwork to psychedelics, from meditation to BDSM. Join Emily in conversation with scientists, doctors, healers, and innovative thinkers to reveal the tools that have radically changed their lives, and that very well may change yours, too.