Why Won't You Love Yourself?

Normally, our episode descriptions are a lot more light hearted... Like which one of us knew someone in high school who ate a cupcake covered in *? What kind of drama and gossip happened during a famous Gaysian DJ's visit to Vancouver?! (Hey @dnzamusic) And has all this TikTok fame gotten to Lee's head, thus creating a riff in our relationship?!??!!??

Jokes aside, in this episode, Nuri and Lee are finally going in deep with each other. Lee gets to prod Nuri's deepest, darkest holes while Nuri gets a mouthful of Lee's d...epressive episodes? 

We talk a lot in this episode about how we've overcome our individual battles with depression, as well as the importance of having a forum to actually be able to speak freely about mental health within the gay and Asian community. We promise that while we do touch on a sensitive and uncomfortable subject for most people, you'll definitely get a laugh or two out of it.

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We’re back! New year, new us, except this was recorded last year so we’re still chaotic and messy. Which one of us is longing for a gentle touch or some tongue action from a brotherly figure? (Hint: obviously it’s the only child). 

In this episode, we quickly recap the past months including Lee’s trip to an exclusive, invite-only homepa when we went to Vegas for EDC and Nuri’s newfound addiction to narcotics. For legal reasons, that’s a joke. Don’t do drugs.

We also carry in the tradition of having a Christmas confrontation and take a moment to allow Lee to speak his truth about something that’s been affecting him for the better half of the year now.

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Is this our most chaotic episode yet??? Come along for a WILD ride as we touch on Shang-Chi (who wouldn’t want to touch Simu? And Tony Leung, hello), some quick life updates, a discussion on submissive and breedable gaysians, Awkwafina, daddy figures, fingers in mouths, porn, molly and a gigantic fight that led to Lee and Nuri almost ending their friendship. This entire episode is basically Lee getting (de)railed by Nuri because Nuri made the wise decision to take some edibles (for the “first”-ish time) before recording. Enjoy!

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In this explosive first episode of our second season, we catch up and update on each other’s lives. Did Nuri recently self-diagnose himself with BPD? Did Lee actually get diagnosed with sleep apnea? Spoiler: the answer to both is yes. We also talk about how we’re slowly adapting to the reopening of everything, and while one of us is enjoying kiki’-ing with the gays again, the other is completely not ready to socialize. Lee also shares an embarrassing encounter recently.... ish.

Then we dive into some listener questions! Look forward to hearing some self-care tips from someone who does the absolute bare minimum to take care of himself, and our experiences with betrayal, social anxiety, awkward dates, and a debate on whether there’s a stigma(?) of having STIs in the gaysian community. Which one of us has had everything under the sun? And which one of us wants to clone himself for the betterment of the world? You’ll have to listen to find out. 

Oh and we (sort of) bring back the Why Won't You Love Yourself segment where we go off on some Tik Tok thirst trappers and toxic advice givers. Yuck!

If there’s any questions that we haven’t addressed or answered, shoot us a DM on Instagram or anonymously on our Ask.fm! Link in our bio. And while you’re there, you might as well leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!

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In this explosive first episode of our second season, we catch up and update on each other’s lives. Did Nuri recently self-diagnose himself with BPD? Did Lee actually get diagnosed with sleep apnea? Spoiler: the answer to both is yes. We also talk about how we’re slowly adapting to the reopening of everything, and while one of us is enjoying kiki’-ing with the gays again, the other is completely not ready to socialize. Lee also shares an embarrassing encounter recently.... ish.

Then we dive into some listener questions! Look forward to hearing some self-care tips from someone who does the absolute bare minimum to take care of himself, and our experiences with betrayal, social anxiety, awkward dates, and a debate on whether there’s a stigma(?) of having STIs in the gaysian community. Which one of us has had everything under the sun? And which one of us wants to clone himself for the betterment of the world? You’ll have to listen to find out. 

Oh and we (sort of) bring back the Why Won't You Love Yourself segment where we go off on some Tik Tok thirst trappers and toxic advice givers. Yuck!

If there’s any questions that we haven’t addressed or answered, shoot us a DM on Instagram or anonymously on our Ask.fm! Link in our bio. And while you’re there, you might as well leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!

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To celebrate our (late.... late....... late.........) one year anniversary, we decided to record ourselves reacting to the very first episode! We cringe at the things we say, repeat ourselves over and over, and dissect whether or not Lee has gotten better at telling stories. (Spoiler alert: No.)

This is a VIDEO episode, so hit up our Instagram or YouTube and check it out there.

More than a year into this Panera Bread and we’re still barely getting by. Nuri gives some quick updates to his situation in Calgary since he’s stuck in isolation and we both issue some context to (TW: Unfunny Content) Lee’s most recent IG post. 

We also talk about our Gaysian celebrity icon, the one and only #Wonho, and his accidental revealing slip-up. #WENEEs unite! We have to make sure his music career flops so he resorts to other things for money.... (👀 onlyfans.com/wonhole???)

Our main topic of discussion is #monogamy, #openrelationships, and #polyamory— something that most of us have been exposed to in the #gay(sian) community. Do you know any long-term #gaysian relationships? What leads someone to an open relationship? Do we have any tea to spill on any polyamorous couples? And what do we think about potentially being open? (The answer is that everything would be open for Wonho— the relationship, the bank account, and Nuri’s legs.)

And we pose a question to our listeners: what’s more important to you in a relationship? Emotional compatibility, sexual compatibility, or same sense of humour? Or does a huge, thick, and girthy dick override the need for any of that? (jk) Sound off on our IG and let us know what you think!

SEGMENT 1: Catching Up

SEGMENT 2: Wonho's Weenie

SEGMENT 3: Monogamy

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You know how growing up, your parents would always tell you to not talk to strangers online? Well— now you get to see what happens when one of us took that advice seriously and the other catfished as a white twink in his mid-twenties online to build confidence in his own personality.

In this episode, we talk about Nuri’s move to Calgary and how it’s affected his mental health, Lee’s obviously miserable and lonely time back home in Vancouver without the gracious presence of Nuri, and the queen of the internet Trisha Paytas @trishapaytasbackup.

We also delve into the subject of making friends online and what led the both of us into having such drastically different experiences, along with whether or not meeting people off a dating app could be considered making friends.

Honestly, we appreciate everyone for putting up with our infrequent releases. Thank you for joining us on this ride.

SEGMENT 1: Nuri

SEGMENT 2: Stop Asian Hate

SEGMENT 3: Lee

SEGMENT 4: Trisha Paytas

SEGMENT 5: Online Friends (Tumblr, Tik Tok, Discord, Clubhouse)

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Wowww this episode is hella late. Sorry, we took a vacation to Puerto Vallarta. (JK!) But yay *finally* we’re back to discussing actual topics again! (Also please excuse the worse-than-usual sound quality; we had some technical difficulties.)

SEGMENT 1: #GaysOverCOVID - 3:57

To cancel or not cancel...

SEGMENT 2: A listener DM... - 14:55

How bitter is Nuri? Is Lee secretly bitter?

SEGMENT 3: A repressed memory - 19:38

Confrontation pt. 2348923

SEGMENT 4: Authenticity - 24:40

Authenticity, clout-chasing, and validation

SEGMENT 5: R.I.P. Nuri - 48:47

#Byefelicia!

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Ho ho ho, it’s a holigay(sian)! Episode 9. Wow, who knew that we’d make it this far? (Truly--neither of us did either.) 

This is our last episode of the year and it is jam-packed:

SEGMENT 1: Confrontation - 3:11

- Why is Lee not afraid to confront people?

SEGMENT 2: Christmas - 14:50

- Why does Nuri hate Christmas?

SEGMENT 3: Clout Chasing - 25:30

- What is authenticity in the age of social media?

SEGMENT 4: Being Mean - 35:00

- Confessions of one mean gaysian to another

SEGMENT 5: 2020 & 2021 - 40:50

- Reflection...who is that girl I see?

- Lessons, hopes, and dreams (lol)

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