You’re wishing and hoping in the WRONG DIRECTION.

“I hope I pass the exam!”

“I wish I could visit Aruba!”

“I hope I become a millionaire!”

“I wish… I hope… I wish!”

Hoping for something entails DOUBT.

If I HOPE for a certain outcome, I’m acknowledging that an alternative is possible.

“I hope I pass the exam” is NOT the same as “I will pass the exam!”

The hoping implies there’s a possibility of not passing.

The energy we put out when we hope for something is DOUBTFUL.

You’re not telling the Universe what you want to happen, love, if you’re giving the option of not passing that exam!

I now commit to the “I will pass this exam” comment…

But I know this might be hard for you, love - it was a leap for me to get to the point of disallowing doubt!

So in today’s podcast episode, I talk about the FIRST STEP to moving away from hope to reality!

That is being grateful for what you currently have.

That was the first secret, for me, to stopping the doubt that pervaded my thoughts.

If I could become grateful, I was telling the universe what I wanted more of.

I was indirectly informing the universe of what I knew (based on previous experience) could happen.

Gratitude over hope. You will not regret it.

What are you putting off - and why?

I HATED phone calls…

I’m still not someone who is on the phone regularly.

I would procrastinate about every call I had to make.

Or I would delegate it to someone else.

Having to handle accounting queries at work did MAKE me confront the fear of phones.

I was being called multiple times a day.

It was only by analysing the stories in my life that I saw where this fear of the phone came from.

My dad was an incredibly hard working vet.

In the early years of my life, he was on call most nights.

I came to associate the phone ringing with him and my mum having to leave for a veterinary emergency.

Dinners interrupted.

Film nights cut short.

Board games folded away early.

I associated the phone with an end to ‘playtime’.

BOOM!

There was the reason I didn’t like the phone.

There was the reason I put off phone calls.

Only by acknowledging this story was I able to see how unhelpful it was to me.

In today’s podcast, I share how to get over the stories from your past - AND four other tips for confronting your to do list!

Let’s stop putting things off for good!

⁣My reptilian brain isn’t my best friend.  It’s not yours either. 

Unless you’re being chased by a leopard, in which case it’s gonna save your life. 

The most primal part of the brain is designed for 4 vital functions… feeding, fleeing, fighting, and… reproduction! 

It has always been vital to our survival (it’s also fundamental for things like breathing and heart rate), BUT…⠀

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The reptilian brain is not as useful in everyday situations as it was thousands of years ago. ⠀

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Just imagine: you’re a scantily clad early human. ⠀

You’re part of a tribe, made up of multiple ‘families’.⠀

In terms of protection, you have rudimentary weapons - and, most importantly, the protection of your fellow tribe members.⠀

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The primal brain would ensure that you emerged unscathed from hunting for food. ⠀

It would ensure that you remained part of your tribe (since separation from them could spell death). ⠀

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It was essentially a DEATH warrant, if the primal brain didn’t kick in when it needed to. ⠀

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But now, what’s your wild boar hunt threat equivalent, love?⠀

Sitting at a boardroom table, arguing with your boss?! 

Putting off opening that email from your mother?! 

Working out how to tell your BFF you want a cosy night in front of Netflix, rather than an evening out?! 

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NONE of those are life or death threats, right?⠀

It doesn’t matter if your boss agrees with you…⠀

That email from your mother is not going to kill you…⠀

It’s pretty unlikely your girlfriend is going to disown you for turning her down…⠀

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That’s the problem with the reptilian part of the brain - we don’t know how to manage it.⠀

Once we work on managing the situations that trigger it, we can live our lives with more HAPPINESS and less FIGHT OR FLIGHT. ⠀

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In today’s podcast episode, I’m talking about CONFRONTATION….⠀

Not necessarily with people, but maybe…⠀

More about the reasons we avoid things on our to do lists…⠀

The reasons why we procrastinate, instead of action…⠀

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And, of course, the reasons why confronting your fears is the best way to live your life. ⠀

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ARE YOU MAKING YOUR JOURNEY CHOPPIER THAN IT NEEDS TO BE?

I was ADDICTED to the struggle of swimming against my intuition.

I lived on ‘shoulds’ - always based on what I believed that others wanted for/from me.

Then I’d MOAN…

“Oh, poor me, life is so HARD.”

“Why do others have it easier than me?”

“The world hates me.”

Are any of those feelings familiar, love?

They began to feel comfortable for me…

They were what I used as an excuse to keep FIGHTING against listening to my INNER VOICE.

Don’t get me wrong, even now, life can feel choppy!

And it’s then that I have to ask myself two super important questions…

1. Am I making this journey choppy?
2. Do I NEED this choppiness for my growth?

You see, the Universe sends us obstacles and difficulties to overcome so that we GROW.

Life is not about avoiding choppiness entirely.

Life is about recognising WHO / WHAT is causing that choppiness…

If it’s your ego, then all you’re achieving is yet more pain / annoyance.

If it’s the universe, then you’re experiencing profound growth.

In today’s podcast episode, I discuss this, and four other things to think about when trying to fall into FLOW.

Alignment with your goals means you travel faster - can you afford to miss these five tips to get what you want quicker?!

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HOW IS YOUR FLOW? YOUR ALIGNMENT?

And I’m not talking yoga here….

When I feel in flow, I am floating along the river of the universe, trusting I am where I am supposed to be.

When I stray out of this alignment, I feel like I’m FIGHTING against everything. Life feels difficult.

I know that when I am out of alignment, I’m letting my EGO row the boat…

That’s ALWAYS a bad idea, since my ego wants to push against the tide.

It looks at what OTHERS think is right for me…

It holds me back from being in the flow of doing what I want to do.

When I choose to be in flow, life feels EASY.

I feel like I am seeing progress.

If our growth is summed up by experiences, imagine how far you travel when in flow…

Versus swimming AGAINST the current.

The only experience in a state of resistance is one of not getting anywhere.

You cannot grow, unless you allow yourself to float, to be in alignment, to FLOW.

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Ayni, ubuntu and karma are not just about helping others - they’re about your SELF-LOVE too…

Mind-blowing, right? Hear me out…

When I go for a run, or a cycle, or do one of my MMA workouts, there are two words I use.

“Thank you.”

And I say them to my body…

🦶🏻 to the feet that carry my weight…

🍑 to the bum that hates a hard cycle seat, but bears it anyway…

👊🏻 to the hands that clench when I’m punching…

And when I’m grateful for those body parts’ work, what happens?

They continue to work hard for me.

They continue to help me achieve my physical goals.

My body gives back in karma its own thanks for my gratitude.

It may sound crazy that we subject OURSELVES to the law of reciprocity, but we do.

Doing things for others will result in goodness boomeranging back to us…

And that boomerang works within us too - the more I love myself, the more my body will love me back…

I share more on this as one of the ways to practise the concept of ayni in today’s episode, as well as 4 other tips for cultivating more of it in your life.

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Ayni… Ubuntu… Karma… They’re all more or less the same thing, with the same route: The Law of Reciprocity.

Whatever joy / help / love I give to others, I will receive gifts that I need (not always what I WANT, ha!) in return.

Everything is connected by ENERGY - I am connected to you, and we are all connected to the world’s community, the Earth herself, and all the dimensions beyond this one…

It is a privilege that we get to support each other, and ourselves through the law of reciprocity.

Individual acts of giving literally change the world’s energy, in a butterfly effect.

Karma is a beautiful thing - and should be a way of life for all of us.

I talk more about this in the podcast episode today because it’s really important in my own life.

Every action that I perform in this world can be one that embraces the concept of ayni.

I choose to live a lifestyle of generosity to result in a life of reciprocal abundance.

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I KEPT MYSELF FEELING STUCK BY USING REALLLLLY UNHELPFUL LANGUAGE!

I know we’ve all heard the stuff about ‘self talk’ - and, if you’re anything like me, love, you probably shrug your shoulders..

Like that could help you, right?

Wrong.

You see, I was always using language that kept me POWERLESS.

“I don’t have enough [time / money / knowledge / strength / understanding / etc / etc / etc]”

“I’m not the right person for this.”

“I’ll never succeed at reaching my [goal weight / ideal salary / vision board ambitions / etc / etc / etc]”

Even when I write podcast notes and Instagram posts, I can go to one of those “not enough” type thoughts.

“Maybe they don’t want to hear from me.”

“There’ll be other people out there to voice this more eloquently than ME.”

But now I know that language is what HOLDS ME BACK.

I am, literally, telling the Universe that my focus is on failure / no success / not being able to get anywhere

I’m NOT a victim of my circumstances, and nor are you.

Once we realise this, we can stop feeling ‘STUCK’.

This language tip is just one of those I share in today’s podcast!!

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YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN STUCK.

We’ve all said it, right, love?

“I’m STUCK!”

“I can’t do ANYTHING about XYZ!”

“It’s so unfair!”

That used to be me ALL. THE. TIME.

The reason you FEEL stuck is simple: it’s down to your PERSPECTIVE.

You get to CHOOSE how to approach any situation.

You get to CHOOSE whether to see yourself as INCAPABLE.

You get to CHOOSE the steps to take to MOVE away from your current situation.

You are IN CONTROL.

In today’s podcast, I share my thoughts on this idea of ‘STUCKNESS’.

I get how it feels - because I’ve been there, and share lots of examples from my own life.

I started ALLOWING myself to feel FREEDOM to be who I want to.

I stopped LETTING MYSELF get caught up in feelings that I couldn’t move forward.

I started TAKING choices that made me GROW.

I was never stuck, or nor were / are you.

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DID YOU KNOW THAT WATER DOES MORE THAN HYDRATE YOUR CELLS?

In today’s podcast, I’m sharing five ways that water can increase your power and abundance in the world.

For example, did you know closing your loo seat can help maintain the flow of positive energy AND prevent abundance being, quite literally, flushed away?! 🚽

There’s way more to water-driven feng shui (one of my five tips) than just shutting the toilet lid, and I dive in (ha!) on this podcast….

I also talk about baths and using them as ‘treatment’ for body and soul….

How can you use water in your meditation practice? Tune into this episode to find out!

So many ideas that will help you to step into your power by, well, getting WET!

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