Wise Yourself Up

Abuse isn’t always obvious. It can show up in small everyday behaviours.

This is part two of this topic so if you haven’t listened to part 1, head over to last week’s episode!

Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of abuse, child trauma, and femicide. Helplines and resources are linked below.

Today Carla is focusing on owning our own harmful patterns, and understanding how to heal from being in an abusive relationship.

Carla chats about the societal conditioning that teaches women to internalise blame, the role of somatic and breath-based practices in healing trauma, and how we begin to recover from the deep grief that abuse leaves behind.

She opens up about her own experiences and offers guidance for anyone currently navigating the shame, confusion, and complexity of abusive relationships.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trigger warning

00:51 – New moon energy and upcoming event

01:10 – The power of somatic movement

04:47 – The importance of breath work

12:26 – Recognising and addressing abusive behaviours

20:02 – Understanding emotional load and abuse

22:55 – Identifying covert abuse

24:29 – Setting boundaries in relationships

25:50 – The importance of accountability

26:53 – Healing from abusive relationships

29:41 – The role of emotional regulation

33:52 – Reconnecting with your body

34:40 – Changing patterns and beliefs

Ireland Support Services

Women’s Aid

Supports women affected by domestic abuse.

24hr Helpline: 1800 341 900

⁠www.womensaid.ie⁠

Rape Crisis Help

For anyone affected by sexual violence.

National Helpline: 1800 77 8888⁠

www.rapecrisishelp.ie⁠

Childline (ISPCC)

For young people up to age 18.Freephone: 1800 66 66 66

⁠www.childline.ie⁠

UK Support Services

Refuge

For women and children experiencing domestic violence.2

4hr Helpline: 0808 2000 247

⁠www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk⁠

Women’s Aid UK

Information, support, and resources for women.

⁠www.womensaid.org.uk⁠

Rape Crisis England & Wales

Support for survivors of sexual violence.Helpline: 0808 500 2222

⁠www.rapecrisis.org.uk⁠

NSPCC

Protecting children from abuse.Helpline: 0808 800 5000

⁠www.nspcc.org.uk

Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of abuse, child trauma, and femicide. Helplines and resources are linked below.

Carla is discussing the complexities of abusive relationships, exploring how abusive behaviours often go unnoticed and how we can begin to recognise them in our own lives.

She reflects on the signs of abuse and how we can break free from these destructive patterns.

Timestamps:
00:00 Heatwave and festival updates
02:55 Trigger warning and what to expect in this episode
03:14 How to fully relax during sex and why slowing down matters
07:11 The rush to soothe instead of feel emotions
13:37 Why we miss red flags and struggle to identify abuse
15:40 Listening to the body instead of intellectualising pain
16:40 Ireland’s history of violence, religion, and suffering
19:43 Carla’s memories of gender roles and fear in the family home
22:31 Recognising subtle abusive behaviours in ourselves and others
26:00 The fawn response, conflict avoidance, and healing patterns
29:00 Learned helplessness and why people stay
31:00 Support resources

Ireland Support Services

Women’s AidSupports women affected by domestic abuse. 24hr Helpline: 1800 341 900www.womensaid.ie

Rape Crisis HelpFor anyone affected by sexual violence.National Helpline: 1800 77 8888
www.rapecrisishelp.ie

Childline (ISPCC)For young people up to age 18.
Freephone: 1800 66 66 66
www.childline.ie

UK Support Services

RefugeFor women and children experiencing domestic violence.24hr Helpline: 0808 2000 247 www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk

Women’s Aid UKInformation, support, and resources for women. www.womensaid.org.uk

Rape Crisis England & WalesSupport for survivors of sexual violence.
Helpline: 0808 500 2222

www.rapecrisis.org.uk

NSPCCProtecting children from abuse.
Helpline: 0808 800 5000
www.nspcc.org.uk

If you’ve ever felt waves of emotion in response to a situation with no obvious explanation, it might be linked to unprocessed trauma.

Carla is back and chatting today about the work she does with her clients. She shares a client’s story about how the trauma of being separated from her parents at birth showed up in her life, even though she believed it hadn’t affected her.

Carla explains how somatics, breathwork, and compassionate inquiry help us access the trauma our minds can’t reach.

Timestamps

00:00 June recap and life update- retreat, Glastonbury, breathwork sessions, new online community

14:32 The power of observation in healing

18:18 Defining bravery and courage

20:01 The impact of trauma

21:00 Client’s story with trauma and how she processed it

24:32 Research showing the lasting impact of separation from birth parents

28:56 Client L’s work with somatic and breathwork

38:42 Work with Carla 1:1

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You can tell how someone is feeling just based on their body language, no words needed.

Carla is going into the power of body language in this week’s episode and what your posture, gaze, and tone are revealing about what’s going on inside (and how to read these signs in others), particularly when it comes to dating!

Your body is SO powerful. It will sense things before your mind does, so it’s time to learn to surrender and trust it.

If you want to be more open when it comes to dating or see how your date feels about you, this episode will give you some of the signs to let you know whether they’re into you or not!

Timestamps:

00:00 Life update
01:10 Donegal retreat update
02:05 Listener’s dilemma on casual sex and getting ghosted
07:06 The importance of body language in communication
09:27 Forward folds, backbends, and emotional wiring
13:49 What posture reveals about safety and trust
15:27 Eye contact
16:55 Covering your wrists
18:27 The position of the head
21:47 The role of body expansion in healing
25:44 The importance of voice in emotional healing
31:11 Carla’s new app!

If you’re interested in signing up for Carla’s retreat in Donegal, there’s still time! You can sign up here!

We’re taking a short break from the podcast but we’ll be back on 2nd July! In the meantime, make sure to listen to some older episodes. Thank you as always for the love and support on the pod!

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• Instagram: @CarlaMcGreevy1
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Trigger Warning: This episode touches on themes of suicide and grief.

If this topic feels too heavy right now, skip this one or come back when you're ready. If you’re finding things difficult, you are not alone, please reach out for support. ❤️

Carla is back with a reflective solo episode from her time in Portugal and what she’s learned since being here.

She reflects on a recent mushroom trip taken on her dad’s birthday, which unexpectedly cracked open her unprocessed grief around the suicide of her cousin Paul.

She talks through how trauma often lives deep in the body, the importance of creating space to feel your feelings, and how grief shows up in the most unexpected ways, even when you're convinced you’ve already dealt with it.

Finally, she chats about what learning something new, like surfing, has been teaching her and what it can teach you too.

Hopefully, this episode will make you feel less alone when it comes to healing, as even Carla is still working through things  just like us all!

Timestamps:

00:00 New moon energy and moving into a new season

02:37 Solo trip to Portugal and learning to surf

03:22 Taking psychedelics

07:30 Processing grief

12:42 Collective grief and community healing

17:23 Why every heartbreak awakens the heart

17:48 Resistance to grief even when you work in healing

18:56 The importance of feeling grief

19:47 The complexities of healing

21:45 Learning new skills and self-compassion

23:28 What learning to surf has taught Carla

30:05 Summer solstice retreat and music recs

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See you next week.

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Sign up here for Carla’s retreat in Donegal, where you are guaranteed craic, connection and incredible food!

If you find yourself changing your plans, constantly waiting for a text, and neglecting the things that make you feel good when you start dating, Carla is chatting all about this in this week's episode.

She goes through dating patterns, attachment styles, childhood wounds, and why we often abandon ourselves when we start seeing someone new.

Carla shares her own experience of rushing relationships, craving validation, and how the pressure to be chosen often stems from deeper emotional wounds.

Whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship, you’ll be able to take something from this episode!

Timestamps:

00:00 Upcoming retreat, travel plans

01:42 Personal reflections and travel plans, Compassionate Inquiry course

06:29 Navigating relationships and self-discovery

07:30 Fantasising after one date and social conditioning

14:30 Dating as a mirror for your inner child and trauma

17:28 Patriarchal conditioning and inherited behaviour

20:34 Attachment styles and their impact on relationships

21:40 The importance of self-love and going slow

23:50 The butterfly story and trusting the struggle

25:20 Addressing inner child wounds and emotional regulation

34:13 Setting boundaries and maintaining self-worth

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Mentions:

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Carla’s speaking today about a topic we all need to be talking about more – sex.

In this episode, she opens up about her own journey with pleasure and how yoga, breathwork and slowing down have changed her relationship with sex.

She chats about what we were never taught about female pleasure growing up, and how every woman needs to be masturbating!

Timestamps

00:00 Life catch-up – retreat, weddings, WellFest

07:29 Jenny Keane's sex tips

09:00 Cultural shifts in sex, consent and female pleasure

15:10 How sex drive is impacted by emotional wellbeing

16:30 Prioritising pleasure and masturbation

17:37 Opinions on sex toys

19:24 Slow and intimate sex

22:51 The 10 different types of orgasms

26:27 The role of yoga and breathwork in sexual healing

28:16 The importance of sexual health and boundaries

29:29 Healing from sexual trauma

30:20 Carla’s new app

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Carla rushed her healing like Sonic the Hedgehog, and if you’re the same, don’t worry, Carla’s here to share how you can overcome the resistance to healing.

In this episode, she shares the top five most common forms of resistance that come up for her clients during the healing process.

She unpacks how we try to rush the journey, how we demonise emotions like anger, how our body’s reactions reveal our core beliefs, and why rest is a form of activism.

Timestamps:

00:00 Life update and retreat

07:39 Common resistances to healing

08:36 Trying to rush healing

14:27 Using harsh language with yourself

17:14 Trying to control your emotions

21:09 Understanding and embracing anger

24:38 The importance of self-love

32:17 The challenge of rest

37:23 Sex drive and emotional health

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Carla is back with a long-overdue solo episode, sharing everything that’s been going on over the past month!

She answers some listener questions on the best way to meet someone, how to give yourself space and time to grieve, and allowing yourself to truly feel your emotions.

She chats about why so many women struggle to process anger and the different ways it can manifest.

And finally, she shares how your body already holds all the answers. You don’t need more yoga classes, ice baths, or saunas. You just need to sit with yourself and rest, as this is such a crucial part of healing.

Timestamps:

00:00 Where I’ve been and what I’ve been up to

05:57 The Connect to Self course

06:59 Moving apartments and teaching events

09:05 Retreat in Donegal

12:22 Advice for wanting to meet someone

18:42 Grief, crying, and letting your body guide the healing

27:53 How to articulate how you feel and your relationship to anger

31:50 Interfering too much in your healing

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We’re back! And Carla is chatting with Paul McAllister, a breath work practitioner and former pharmacist who shares his journey of healing, seeking safety internally, and getting into somatic work.

They chat about trauma, the nervous system, and some of the flaws of the pharmaceutical industry.

This was a fantastic conversation, and if you found it helpful, please share it on your social media and rate the show 5 stars!

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro to Paul

05:11 Transition to breath work and somatic coaching

08:31 Exploring trauma and generational impact

18:09 Pharmacy training and mental health

23:08 Challenges in the healthcare system

32:32 Pharmacy work vs. holistic healing

34:07 Family's acceptance of career choices

35:28 Challenges in the pharmacy profession

35:34 The need for trauma education in pharmacy

37:07 The pressure and responsibility of pharmacists

40:08 Pharmacies trying to make a profit

43:11 Breath work and somatics journey

44:34 Holotropic breath work

48:11 The importance of safety in group work

59:53 The role of breathwork in healing

01:03:20 Upcoming retreats and psychedelic screening

Connect with Carla:

• Carla’s retreat in Donegal: Sign up here
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Connect with Paul:

• Instagram: @soulscript