Consider taking sixty seconds to sit without doing anything. Let your attention soften. Let your breath deepen. Let your system know that there’s nothing it needs to fix right now. Nothing needs to be tracked.

Just presence.

Just here.

Just you.

You are allowed to change the rules you live by.
You are allowed to protect your peace.
You are allowed to say: “This is too much for me right now.”
You are allowed to want more space, more rest, more truth.

You are allowed to build a life where your nervous system doesn’t always have to be on alert.

And it begins with boundaries.
Not as punishment.
Not as isolation.
But as the quiet decision to matter to yourself.

When we begin to recognize anxiety as a signal, not a sentence, we give ourselves a new kind of power. The power to respond with curiosity instead of fear. The power to ask, “What is this trying to show me?” rather than, “How do I make this stop?”

So maybe anxiety isn’t the problem.

Maybe it’s pointing toward the problem.

And maybe, when we listen—really listen—we can start to see what needs care, what needs healing, and what’s finally ready to change.

When anxiety rises, especially if it feels intense or irrational, ask yourself:

·       What might this be echoing?

·       What part of me is reacting?

·       And what might this feeling be trying to protect?

Sometimes, anxiety isn’t here to hurt you. It’s here to help you notice. To help you remember. To help you heal. It may not be comfortable. But it is always wise.

Self-care isn’t just a bath, a walk, or a break from chaos.

Sometimes, self-care is grief.

It’s letting go of the version of myself I thought I had to be.

It’s letting go of the life I thought I should have by now.

And making peace with where I am. With who I am.

With what I need today… not someday… but today.

I’ve spent years trying to help others make sense of their pain.

But the truth is… I’ve also been trying to make sense of my own.

This podcast comes from the middle of that tension—

between what I know and what I’m still learning,

between the role of the healer… and the reality of the wounded.

Yeah, I speak as a therapist… 

But also as someone who questions his own sanity… someone who sits with grief, confusion, insecurity, and fear.

I talk about mental health, trauma, healing, and the parts of us we often silence.

Sometimes things are clear.

And sometimes… they’re not. 

That's why this is called Without Rhyme or Reason.

If you are feeling stuck, if depression has been pressing down on you, ask yourself: What is it trying to tell you? What are you holding onto that is no longer yours to carry?

Maybe it’s time to release the past. To forgive what has been. To trust what will be.

Because sometimes, the weight we feel is not sadness—it’s resistance.

And the moment we let go, we make space for what comes next.

We are all capable of growth and healing. . Saying “no” is part of that process. It’s not rejection—it’s redirection. It’s choosing to live in alignment with who we are and what we need. And when we do that, we don’t just become better for ourselves—we show up more authentically in our relationships, too.

Unprocessed pain has a way of shaping our identities and decisions, often in ways we’re unaware of. When we take the time to process our pain, we reclaim control over how those experiences define us. We learn that pain, while inevitable, doesn’t have to leave us stuck. Instead, it can become a doorway to deeper self-awareness, growth, and connection.

What I’m trying to say is that, yes, depression is hard; it is painful, and it can feel like it’s pulling you under. But it can also be a signal for change and growth.

Maybe your soul is telling you, through this experience, that you need to stop, rest, recharge, and refocus.

Maybe your soul is whispering—or yelling—that you need to take better care of yourself and start living in a way that aligns with who you truly are.