Woman Awake - The Soul-led Journey of Awakening

A journaling guide to review and reflect on your 2019 followed by a process to clarify and co-create your 2020.

A simple yet profound experience that will provide you with deep insight, mining for the gold and wisdom in your year, and of course the springboard into your new year ahead.

I guide you through a set of questions (provided for you in the show notes) and share many examples from my own life to support you in this process.

It's in this reflective, contemplative space that we are able to grow and move forward in the best way for ourself.

Show notes: Closing Ceremony Journaling Guide

2019 - Review and Reflect

1) List everything that has happened/you’ve experienced this year.

2) Can you identify key themes and key learnings?

3) What were the predominant feelings you experienced and why?

4) What are you grateful for?

5) What would you like to grow from and create change on?

2020: Clarify and Co-Create

1)What behaviour/patterns do you want to shift, change, clear?

2)Key intentions?Key feelings you’d like to embody?

3) Specific areas you feel called to zone in on? E.g Home/Body/Purpose and Passion/Family?

4) Narrate the story of your 2020. Co-create it in present tense.

Episode 030 Rage, Resentment and Releasing it

Rage and resentment comes up at different times during our motherhood journey.

Sometimes we are triggered by our children, or we are depleting and run down, lacking self care, or deep in the trenches with sick children.

We can feel tapped out and then what follows is a leaking out of emotions and feelings we've tried to suppress.

And it can sometimes get ugly.

Our own stories come up to play - the Martyr or Victim roles (or both) and the ego emotions connected to it all.

I explore how resentment shows up, why it shows up, how it can leak out of us and the following guilt and shame that comes with that out pouring of rage and resentment.

In this episode I dive further into how we can cultivate a daily ANGRY practice that actually serves us to release these pent up emotions in a safe, harmless way - not directed on others but simply allow the body to release it, instead of storing it.

I share why this is so important for our own health, wellbeing and how we show up and be in the world. I also share why an angry practice will bring you back into presence, connection, nervous system regulation, sanity!

Show notes:

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Episode 029 explores what I call the Final Frontier in my post partum healing journey - healing the pelvic floor, pelvic organ prolapse and on a more spiritual and energetic level coming to face The Forgotten Feminine.

I share, quite vulnerably and candidly my journey with Pelvic Organ Prolapse - I explain what it is, what I did and didn't know what POP, my journey of healing and how it's led me to face the disconnection of my inner feminine energy and power.

This was a very raw, in real-time, authentic conversation about where I currently am on this journey of healing. There are tears shed as I speak the truth of my inner divine feminine and her sadness at being cut-off, numbed out, ignored and disconnected.

This is a conversation that all women need to hear. Please tune in, listen with love, compassion and respect. And share it along to your mama friends.

Show notes:

I mention the work of Christine Kent - The Whole Woman.

http://wholewoman.com

I also share the core technique - Hypopressive - https://coresetfitness.com/hypopressive-fitness/

And here is where I did my Hypopressive workshop in Sydney.

https://www.coretone.com.au

I also purchased and occasionally use this Pelvic Floor trainer - KGoal

http://www.kgoal.com.au

I did the Mutu System program for deep core healing and re-activation

www.mutusystem.com

I also highly recommend you visit a holistically minded pelvic floor physiotherapist and do so regularly during pregnancy and post partum

Visit https://www.claireobeid.com/ommamalove/ to get my Om Mama Love Meditation Bundle - 12 Meditation Track and 12 Affirmation Cards - $49

And click here: https://www.claireobeid.com/alchemy-of-emotional-freedom to join The Alchemy of Emotional Freedom Online EFT Masterclass LIVE Round commencing November 11th

Love + light, Claire

One Woke Mama – Episode 028 - Mama Guilt and Shame

It’s hard to avoid guilt and judgment as mamas – we experience it and we dish it out too. Truthfully, we all know it does no good. It bears down on us, heavy and suffocating and grips our heart when we find ourselves passing judgment.In this podcast with Emma Seibold we explore the importance of choosing love instead.

We explore ways to invite more love in and in doing so let go of guilt and judgment. It all comes down to love. How much do you LOVE yourself? Or at least, how often can you say “I choose love over fear” in this moment. Guilt and Judgment have no place, or strong foot-hold when we slather on compassion, understanding, acceptance… L.O.V.E.

I am not going to pretend that guilt and judgment no longer show up in my life. They are there daily. But I can feel, through my body, when they are weaving their way and snaking through my mind leaving a trail of destruction. My chest feels tighter. My breathing shallow. I find myself distracted, disengaged. A lot more focused on the external. Frustrated at EVERYTHING.These are my sign-posts. What are yours? Don’t know them yet? Well GOOD, start tuning in. P

ay attention to how you react to conversations, moments with your child(ren), when you’re ‘mumming’… start to notice what triggers you and sends you spiralling into guilt and/or judgment.

I journal through realisations when they come to me – moments of clarity around what has sent me into guilt-zone. Or where I’m in judgment. That creates awareness and from that awareness I can’t hide from the ugliness of those emotions.

I HAVE to look at it. I must deal with it. So when it happens, in real time I then CHOOSE to breathe through it. To pause, just long enough to not react and over-react.

CHOOSE TO COME BACK TO YOUR TRUTH – WHAT ARE ENOUGH, MORE THAN ENOUGH. YOU ARE A MAMA, JUST DOING HER BEST. AND THAT IS ENOUGH.

The thing is, we are never going to be protected from the onslaught of guilt and judgment – the kind we generate from within ourselves and the kind we get slapped in the face with from friends, family and even random strangers.So we MUST learn how to nurture ourselves – come back to our centre, to regroup, to find trust in what we are doing and who we are being as women, as a mamas, as partners, colleagues, friends, sisters, daughters.

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Emma Seibold is an inspiration to me. She is not only an incredible entrepreneur, wellness advocate, teacher and business owner but the way she leads with love as a mama AND treats herself with the respect she so deserves – well, that encourages me to be a better mama and woman too. Our conversation is going to light you up – plenty of golden nuggets to treasure and learn from.Hang out with Emma on Instagram - www.instagram.com/emmabarrebody

Visit Barre Body Online - www.barrebody.com.au

One Woke Mama – Episode 027 - Resourcing Yourself And Stretching Your Window Of Tolerance

A comment from a friend got me thinking about why some women, some mothers, need more space, time and tools to refuel and re-centre and why others don't? I explore how we are each hardwired a little differently - how the base line state of our nervous system affects how we process and handle experiences in life - such as the relentless and sometimes exhausting days within motherhood.Motherhood forces us to stretch and grow.

Some of us find this stretching process to be a gentle one. Perhaps we are don't find daily life so taxing, others like me can find it really depleting.In this episode I explore WHY we might be different - embodiment, the state of our nervous system, history of trauma affecting our individual window of tolerance and our own stories, beliefs and patterns that shape our being within the world.I also share how we can stretch ourselves to cope and to be in a more resilient, grounded, centred and peaceful state. Using resources, wellness practices, tools and Somatic exercises we can 'arm' ourselves up to expand our bandwith, to spend more time in the Optimal Arousal Zone - the space that is centered between the extremes of our nervous system.

Show notes:

Get my Om Mama Love Meditation Bundle HERE - www.claireobeid.com/ommamalove

12 Meditation Track and 12 Affirmation Cards - $49

Join The Alchemy of Emotional Freedom Online EFT Masterclass LIVE Round commencing November 11th - www.claireobeid.com/alchemy-of-emotional-freedom

In today's episode I read you a meme that has been circling on Instagram and one that I deeply resonate with.Exploring the powerful, uncomfortable yet truth-filled notion that Motherhood both pulls you apart, and pulls you away from who you were only to slowly, sometimes painfully rebuilding you into the woman, mother and human being you are meant to be.An initiation by fire. A rite of passage. A transition. The space in between. That place where we are dismantling the old self before recreating the new self -filled with discomfort, confusion, questions, stagnancy, as well as presence, surrender, willingness, beauty, joy.I feel alot of big feelings, there is a pouring out of emotions as I share that space of transition and experience of being pulled away and pulled apart. Sharing this with you is BIG and I do so in the hope that I can bring some gratitude and love into your heart for this powerful journey of matresence, change, transition.

SHOW NOTES:

Om Mama Love Meditation Bundle HERE -

12 Meditation Track and 12 Affirmation Cards

www.claireobeid.com/ommamalove

Join The Alchemy of Emotional Freedom Online EFT Masterclass LIVE Round commencing November 11th

www.claireobeid.com/alchemy-of-emotional-freedom

The way we connect with our children - through our eye contact, voice, body language - can have a huge impact on how they learn to regulate their own nervous system. They are plugged into OUR energy field, our nervous system. And a chemical reaction ensures that their own PHYSICAL body responds to future experiences and challenges based on how we connect with our children, how we personally show up to experiences and challenges and how regulated we are in our nervous system.

In today's episode I dive into a mixed bag - looking at the power of connection, that oxytocin exchange and how it does more than just make us FEEL GOOD, the way we teach our children how to regulate their nervous system and therefore how we do the same for ourselves. I share examples and personal stories before diving a little further into childhood trauma and wounding - and how WHAT we learn as children about being in the world, showing up with our own regulated or dysregulated nervous affects how we COPE with experiences, challenges and difficult situations.

This is an important conversation for us mamas because it shows that we can simply create a supportive and empowered container to hold our children through the inevitable challenges of life, and in learning to do this for our children we learn to heal our own wounds and traumas.

Show notes:

Om Mama Love Meditation Album: 12 Meditation Track and 12 Affirmation Cards - $49

www.claireobeid.com/ommamalove/

The Alchemy of Emotional Freedom: Online EFT Masterclass commencing LIVE Round November 11th

www.claireobeid.com/alchemy-of-emotional-freedom

Episode 024 dives into how we often parent differently to our partners, and how that might just be ok. In fact, perfect. Perhaps your partner, in his/her opposite parenting isn't wrong, but actually offers something that you cannot offer to your child/children.

I’ve been aware of working on my judgements of my husband doing parenting differently to me. And all the ways that shows up. Including how I sometimes try and “teach” him my way - on a bad day this can look like me making suggestions of other things he could do or say to my daughter particularly.

What is this born from?

It’s fascinating when I sit back and review it objectively. And when I feel into my body, during the very moments when I’m reacting and attempting to parent him, I can see that I am in a state of control.

I am controlling his parenting because on some level I don’t trust his parenting.

I don’t trust his parenting because we come to believe that our way is the only way, is the right way. That only WE could possibly know what’s right for our child. After all we are their mother, right?

And the fascinating thing about not trusting someone else and how they parent is that underlying that lack of trust is a deep fear - a fear of not doing the best for our child. a fear of completely fucking them up. A fear of seeing them hurt, damaged, broken. Or in some way unfulfilled in their potentially, emotionally abused.

But the truth is, we can’t avoid the hurts and challenges they will face, whether at our own hand (we are human and learning on the job) or at the hands of others, or simply life it self.

We can however equip them to cope, to manage, to show up, to feel, to process, to learn and grow from it all.

Listen in to learn how I have come to a place of peace with the differences in my partner's parenting.

Show notes:

Get your Om Mama Love Meditation Bundle HERE : www.claireobeid.com/ommamalove

Visit Claire here: www.claireobeid.com

and on Instagram: www.instagram.com/claireowellness

Episode 023 - The Journey of Becoming A Working Mama with Lorraine Murphy 

Welcome to the latest episode of One Woke Mama with Lorraine Murphy. I’m lucky enough to chat to Lorraine Murphy, who some of you might remember from the first iteration of my podcast - The Wellness Project - where we explored all things business and baby.

If you aren’t sure of who Lorraine is let me share a bit about her - Lorraine is an award winning entrepreneur, best selling author or three books now, speaker and mentor.Her NEW book, Baby, You’re Remarkable inspired today’s conversation designed to support you to calm the chaos, to get and stay organised and how to blend running a biz or working alongside being a mama.

This is the book that Lorraine had wished for when first toying with the idea of starting a family alongside running her own multi-million dollar business.How to thrive with both babies - business and her real baby.

Her book is candid. Real - full of truths and stories that will inspire and support you.It’s not a book of tips and specific guidance but it is a book full of insights, life hacks and ideas designed to be “cherry picked” based on you and your unique family and circumstance.

Lorraine and I dive into some big stuff:

Preparing for the arrival of a new baby and becoming a working mum.

The challenges and struggles she faced and what she learned from that journey.

The stress and pressure she felt in planning to have a family when things didn’t go to plan.

What she has learned about combing work with motherhood and so much more.

This is definitely one for you if you are a working mama, considering returning to work, starting or running your own business or even not yet a mama and wondering how the heck you are going to do it all.

I highly recommend going back to episode #17 in my previous podcast (still available in iTunes just scroll down!) or go here: www.claireobeid.com/episode17

Show notes:

Visit Lorraine here: www.lorrainemurphy.com.au

Get her new book here: https://lorrainemurphy.com.au/baby-youre-remarkable/

Say hi to Lorraine on instagram here: www.instagram.com/lorraineremarks

and connect with me on insta too: www.instagram.com/claireowellness

It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama - join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us.

Love + light,

Claire

I’m so thrilled to share this conversation with you. Rachel MacDonald, Blog Coach, Creative, Entrepreneur, Mama and beautiful soul sister of mine opens up and shares her personal experience with the inner-worrier mind.

She offers some super powerful yet simple ways to move through. I hope you love this chat as much as I do and soak up the wisdom, the story-telling and guidance with an open heart and mind.

Together Rachel and I explore the inner voice of fear and worry that seems to be part and parcel with motherhood.

It’s normal mamas, but we do need to create space and clear out the obsessive thoughts and rebalance that worrier mind into a more calm, trusting and peace-filled state.

As mamas one of the challenges we face is the intensity of worry, anxiety and over-analysing.

But there is a way through it. Rachel and I dive into this important topic and find out way through the chains of that inner critic!

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And check out the new meditation bundle here: https://claireobeid.com/ommamalove