Do you know this experience when you get to a new place with your body, yet you feel somewhat unsettled and almost need to wait for the rest of you to arrive as well?

Today I'm musing about a proverb saying that you shouldn't travel faster than by horse, and why it's okay to take some time to settle in.

You can find the links and the transcript of this episode at:

https://lisa-jara.com/en/blog/e18-dont-travel-faster-than-by-horse-so-your-soul-can-catch-up

What was your own first bleed experience like?

Menarche, the first bleed in the life of a menstruator, is a powerful Rite of Passage and should be marked as such.

Unfortunately, the experience is usually neutral at best, but much more often associated with fear or even shame.

This doesn’t exactly contribute to young girls and menstruators loving their bodies more ... promoting the disconnect and downright body hatred patriarchy wants us to get caught up in ... just saying...

So how about we don’t allow history to repeat itself and make sure that today’s teens have a different experience from the start?

In today's episode, my guest Liz Vivian and I talk about how you can support your tween through their own process of learning what it means to be a menstruator.

We cover:

00:54 Who Liz is and her peri-menopause journey

03:34 Liz’ journey of aha-moments that lead her to do the work of supporting mums be(come) confident in supporting their tweens through their first period

08:57 Why WHO you want to become is much more important than WHAT you want to do

11:35 How Liz prepared herself and her daughter for her first period

14:34 How you can set an example as a cycle-aware parent

17:13 The importance of stopping to be so secretive about our bleed, especially for our teenagers

21:31 The particular and powerful position of mums/birthing peoplse as support for their tweens and why mums have permission to receive support themselves

24:27 Why the first 13 periods are just as important as the special very first one and can foster the mother-daughter or parent-tween connection in a time where the tween craves independence

27:47 How mum’s have all the wisdom already within themselves, to lead their tweens through that meaningful time

33:03 Why it is so vitally important that girls and young menstruators have a healthy first bleed experience

36:38 How to connect with Liz and Raising Flora

37:32 Liz’ message to you

Bio:

Liz is a coach, a menstruality mentor and a mum. Through her business, Raising Flora, she helps moms feel confident, be prepared and show up with compassion for their tween's first period. Passionate about giving the tweens of today a healthy, positive start with their cycle, she knows moms are in a powerful position to lead the way toward a less shamey and more open and meaningful experience.

Liz and her husband are also raising a daughter, who is 11 and stretching toward independence. They are a tight knit family who love travel, outdoorsy adventures, and good food.

In 2022, Liz is celebrating her Year of Being 50 by walking – around her neighbourhood, across Spain, and in half marathons with family and friends.

Connect with her:

https://www.raisingflora.com

Or book your introductory call here:

https://www.raisingflora.com/book-now

You can find the links and the transcript of this episode at:

https://lisa-jara.com/en/blog/e17-a-fireside-chat-about-supporting-your-tween-through-their-first-period

Do you know these moments when you go back and forth, when no pro-con list can help because the reasons on both sides hold the balance? What do you do, what or who do you turn to, to help you decipher which way forward is actually in line with your deepest truth, your soul’s desire?

Especially in today’s world where we are bombarded with information and people claiming to have “the ONE, RIGHT answer” for you, it can be so confusing - do you trust your heart, do you trust your mind, is there a third option you’re unable to see?

Decision-fatigue, procrastination and second-guessing keep you stuck and simultaneously erode your self-trust.

What if you understood your innate, unique decision-making process and gave yourself permission to trust your body, your inner knowing, your unique set-up to lead you through these tricky situations?

This is what my guest Chelsea Fournier and I speak about in our recent conversation on how learning about your Human Design will help you make decisions true to you. After a brief introduction to Human Design, Chelsea explains how your Human Design authority will make your decision-making process so much easier and also support you in your relationships and parenting.

The book Chelsea mentioned: “Parenting the Child Within” by Aypril Porter

Learn more about Chelsea’s work and connect with her:

Website: https://www.intuitivebusinessbydesign.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/intuitivebusinessmentor

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@intuitivebusinessmentor

Podcast “Intuitive Business By Design”: https://podcast.intuitivebusinessbydesign.com

Run your chart: http://www.runyourchart.com

You can find the links and the transcript of this episode at:

https://lisa-jara.com/en/blog/e16-how-your-human-design-will-help-you-make-decisions-true-to-you

It's only the beginning of 2023 and already I see so many people (me myself included) pushing and wanting to make things happen. The important question, however, is not "what do I want to accomplish?", but more so "who do I want to become in the process?"

My oracle card for January comes with a "timely" message that I have all the time in the world to become that person and also, that person is already within me – I just have to peel away the layers to excavate her in me.

In this episode you'll learn:

-> why the transition from (inner) summer to (inner) autumn can be rocky

-> why "being behind" is a patriarchal concept that only increases our stress levels

-> the difference between chronos and kairos time

-> how to decolonise time

The articles and videos mentioned:

https://lisa-jara.com/en/blog/decolonising-time

https://lisa-jara.com/en/blog/you-can-never-be-behind

You can find the links and the transcript of this episode at:

https://lisa-jara.com/en/blog/e15-why-youre-always-right-on-time

In our patriarchal-colonialist society, many have learned to see the body as a wild animal that needs to be tamed and behave. A thing to be controlled and forced into a certain shape, usually according to the prevalent standard of beauty and health defined by a small group of people at the top... And if you don't get it to behave the way it's "supposed to", there's something wrong with YOU - which is of course total BS!

We're trying to control Nature and that is not only impossible, but moreover, it leaves us completely disconnected from our bodies – these beautiful living, breathing organisms that support us with unconditional love day in and day out!

Learn how to connect and communicate with your body through cycle awareness, which for me is a practice of decolonising our body and mind from these imposed structures and of trusting this animal body of ours to be wise in a way that doesn't make sense to our logical brain, but that will make us feel truly ALIVE!

Here are the links I mention:

How to chart your cycle (even beyond menopause): https://lisa-jara.com/en/cycle-charting

Soul Mail: https://lisa-jara.com/en/soul-mail-sign-up

If you want bespoke support in your cycle experience: https://lisa-jara.com/en/power-of-your-cycle

You can find the links and the transcript of this episode at:

https://lisa-jara.com/en/blog/e14-are-you-taking-care-of-your-body-or-are-you-having-a-relationship-with-her

Death in this western part of the world is a scary thing, it feels like the end of something, losing something. We are no longer connected to what was, the history, the happy memories, so it feels really brutal, a painful process.

Maybe our pain can be carried in a way that is infused with beauty, when we realise this is how nature, the universe, the cosmos works. It works in shapes that are circular, it works through cycles, it works through seasons.

And as we go through those seasons, we are able to experience a rebirth of something, of a pattern, of a relationship, and it gives so much room for new things, new growth, new perspectives.

And that is where the beauty is, whenever we let go of the old pattern, we’re actually making room for a new one, one that we hopefully get to consciously choose and create and design into our life.

In today’s Fireside Chat, my guest Yanaëlle Ntwa and I speak about:

01:58 Who Yanaëlle is and our cycle check-in

05:19 Yanaëlle’s perspective on the Beauty of Death as a necessary step in human evolution

09:05 The little deaths we die all the time, especially as women and/or people who bleed, and what we can learn from them about Life

12:33 Yanaëlle’s and my musings about what happens after the death of a body

16:55 Death is a transition and it’s less painful when we open to its teachings

21:06 Yanaëlle’s journey with anxiety around Death and what helped/helps her move through it

26:53 We are never truly as alone as we might think

29:56 Through writing/journaling, meditating or Nature walks we can connect back to this neutral observer within, drop the chatter of the mind and see the bigger picture

35:45 The cycles help us strengthen our truth and identity

38:29 How to connect with Yanaëlle and read some of her poetry

39:32 Yanaëlle’s message for us: Let it be. Let them be.

My podcast episode about forgiveness that I mentioned: https://lisa-jara.com/en/blog/e9-forgiveness-and-closure-in-december

Yanaëlle Ntwa is a writer and a brand poet. She teaches business owners how to hone their storytelling skills in their business and writes poetry for brands who want more soul in their copy.

Read her poetry and connect with her on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/na.elle.31

Winter Solstice (also known as Yule) is generally known as the longest night and shortest day of the year, usually taking place on December 21st in the Northern Hemisphere and June 21st in the Southern Hemisphere. It is one of the eight festivals in the Wheel of the Year, which in its entirety represents the Cycle of Life.

But what exactly do we celebrate and why?

In this episode, you'll find out the meaning and core themes of Winter Solstice, how it's connected to our life as well as my favourite rituals to honour this time of year.

Links mentioned:

The Twelve Holy Nights of Winter: https://lisa-jara.com/en/mystical-twelve-holy-nights

And the link to sign up for Soul Mail (weekly letters to listen to your body and lead your life powerfully from within): https://lisa-jara.com/en/soul-mail-sign-up

With the upcoming Winter Solstice, the darkest and lowest point we collectively get to in the Northern Hemisphere, I felt called to take a little dip into the four big wounds women and people socialised as women often experience in our society. Because this is the time to face our shadows, our wounds, to shine a light on them, so we can learn their lessons and allow them to heal.

Today, you'll learn about:

- The Mother/Daughter Wound

- The Sister Wound

- The Witch Wound and

- The Wound of the Masculine

Because recognition, understanding and acknowledgment create space for compassion and forgiveness and, subsequently, healing.

Often we move from recognition to beating ourselves up ...

But when we dare to sit with the pain of the recognition, care to truly understand our wound and what it might be here to tell us, acknowledge and validate our experience, we can develop more compassion for ourselves, for the wound, for other people and maybe even start forgiving (not forgetting).

This is not for the faint of heart. But it will bring you much peace of mind.

https://lisa-jara.com/en/blog/e11-four-big-wounds-women-and-people-socialised-as-women-experience-in-our-society

What are the Twelve Holy Nights?

Why are they even called “Twelve Holy Nights”?

What are the myths, traditions and rituals related to this magical-mystical time "in-between the years"?

Let me take you on a journey to explore my favourite time of year and walk you through the process of consciously closing the old year before inviting and dreaming in the new.

And if you want to be supported further, you can find all the information about my course here:

https://lisa-jara.com/en/mystical-twelve-holy-nights

You can find the links and the transcript of this episode at:

https://lisa-jara.com/en/blog/e10-mystical-twelve-holy-nights

December is the last month of the year and a beautiful time to look at what's in need of closure in our life, so we can release and let go, making room and preparing the soil for our dreams and longings to take root for next year.

In this episode I dive into the message I received for December, my recent journey with the Mother Wound, how forgiveness is always for yourself, not for the other...

... and my upcoming course Mystical Twelve Holy Nights and how it can support you connect deeper with yourself, your truth and your longings, closing the old year and inviting in the new in a feminine/Yin inspired way!

You can find all the information about the Twelve Holy Nights and the course here:

https://lisa-jara.com/en/mystical-twelve-holy-nights

You can find the links and the transcript of this episode at:

https://lisa-jara.com/en/blog/e9-forgiveness-and-closure-in-december