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In Episode #12, I explain why unhealthy skepticism will fuck you up… and how to be a healthy skeptic instead.
Transcript: Why Unhealthy Skepticism Will Derail Your Career
Hi guys. Welcome to Write Bites, an audio series where we discuss writing, marketing, and freelancing during one of my daily walks around the neighborhood.
In today’s episode, I want to talk about skepticism and why UN-healthy skepticism will fuck you up.
Now, there is absolutely such a thing as healthy skepticism, and as I’ve mentioned before, freelance writers are constantly at risk of being scammed. So, you 100% need a healthy dose of skepticism to be a freelance writer. So, I’m not talking about that.
Healthy skepticism, though, it’s not a passive thing, it’s an active thing. You have to do the work to do your due diligence and verify things. Skepticism without the work becomes unhealthy skepticism, and that’s what we’re going to address in this episode.
It ultimately manifests in two ways. Let’s use a pretty common scenario online:
So and so says, “Hey, I achieved this result and here is how I did it.”
There are two ways that skepticism comes into play here in a way that will really screw you up as a freelancer, a solo entrepreneur, anyone trying to build a business that’s achieving unusually good results.
The first one is, you look at the result and you just discount it:
* “Bullshit, the guy’s lying.”
* “Nah, that works for her, but it’ll never work for me.”
* “Oh, they just got that because they’re super talented, or they had super-good connections or they were already super rich, or this, that or the other.”
* “They got lucky.”
Whatever it is, you look at the result and it’s some variety of, “I can’t do that,” or, “That won’t work.”
And what you have to understand is this is your brain psychology at work. Your brain is seeing something that you have not achieved, and it’s feeling bad about that. Maybe it’s some sort of jealousy or envy, or it’s causing damage to your sense of self-worth in the sense like, “If they did that and I didn’t, unless I can come up with some sort of reason that feels better, I’m gonna interpret that as ‘I’m less talented,’ ‘I’m less ambitious,’” this, that, or the other.
Basically, you’re going to feel shitty if you can’t find a justification. And that’s an unhealthy way of looking at things. If you allow yourself to operate through that lens, your brain is going to provide that justification, which often takes the form of discounting the result.
I’m 100% in this boat, and honestly—to this day—it’s something I have to very actively suppress because I’m a very competitive person. When I see people achieving more than I’ve achieved, it hurts. If you’re someone who’s struggling to hit your first full-time income in freelance writing, you might look at me and think, “Oh hey, this guy is doing six figures. He’s doing better than pretty much everyone.”
In reality, I’m one of the most under-performing people in my network, or was for a long time, especially because I’m working in the marketing space. I’m working with a lot of entrepreneurs, and marketing heads and CEOs, most of whom are doing seven figures.
So, I deal with that exact same thing, it’s just kind of a maybe on a different scale. And it’s something I’ve had to learn…that if I allow myself to discount the result without doing the work,