A 29-year-old writes in about the man she loves, the daughter they share, and the family quietly bleeding him dry. He's stable, he's kind, he's husband material. His parents, on both sides, treat him like a personal cashpoint — and when she gently suggested he stop, they disowned him, called her the problem, and called their baby something much worse. Now there's a grandmother in ICU and the pressure is back on.

Caroline and Daryl get into why "supportive" can quietly turn into "exploited," what actual boundaries look like when a whole family is invested in not having them, and the hard limits she needs to set before she signs a marriage certificate. Plus a tangent about wedding chaos, divorce parties, and the time someone's paperwork went absolutely sideways.

Should she marry him? Listen and find out.

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Timestamps:

• 00:00 — Therapist voices, Andrew Tate, and a blood orange tangent
• 05:00 — The letter
• 23:46 — The advice: boundaries, hard limits, and one big decision
• 31:29 — Wedding stories and divorce party chaos
• 41:49 — Final advice and resources
• 48:15 — Outro

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A 43-year-old counsellor writes in with a confession: she grew up poor, earns good money now, doesn't have debt — and has just bought a second chest freezer, a year's supply of olive oil, and accidentally hoarded fourteen bottles of conditioner she didn't know she had. The fuel crisis news has flipped a switch she can't switch back. And the truly humiliating part? She knows exactly what she's doing. She explained the model to a client this week. It didn't help.

Caroline and Daryl get into why knowing isn't enough, why scarcity wounds don't care about your bank balance, and what actually shifts this — including a salary structure that changes everything for self-employed people and a savings account trick that quietly does the heavy lifting. Plus: the builder who accidentally became a marriage counsellor, and the marriage counsellor whose own marriage is held together with string.

To find more out about Caroline Cranshaw & Daryl Gove https://nzhypnotherapy.co.nz/ https://www.darylgove.com/#/ https://www.youtube.com/@HypnosisTraining/ To find out about training in hypnotherapy with us, check out: https://www.integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com Write to us if you have a question or want us to tell your story at [email protected] Check out our Alcohol Reduction Course https://www.ohhellohypnosis.com/offers/LAiJuAJ9/checkout

Timestamps:

• 00:00 — Therapists who need therapists (and a builder who became one)
• 06:31 — The letter
• 10:02 — Why knowing isn't enough
• 15:14 — The fixes: salary, savings, and the deeper work
• 22:19 — Practical anti-shopping moves
• 23:58 — Recommendations and outro

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We start with swearing in Spanish and Paris trip plans, then dive into a Reddit story that genuinely floored us.

A 27-year-old guy comes home and finds his fiancée in bed with his own father. He records it, punches his dad, and threatens to send the video round. From there it spirals: he tells his mum, who at first believes the lie that he was the abusive one, until he sends her the proof. He cuts off the whole family, moves out, starts therapy, gets his STD tests back clean, and rebuilds his life in a refurbished cabin. Then the updates keep coming. His mum leaves his dad, and his ex turns up pregnant, with nobody sure if the father is him or his father.

Caroline and Daryl thrash out the big question: can you forgive a betrayal this deep, and should he? Plus a few of our own wild family scandal stories, modern prenatal DNA testing, and the TikTok baby-daddy drama doing the rounds.

We wrap with our recommendations and the usual chaos.

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Listener Amanda has carried this for twenty years. At nineteen she fainted at the feet of the new guy in town, Weston, who pulled a homemade spirit board out of his backpack, letters written in blood. The giggling stopped when it spelled out HELL, HELP, HELL, HELP on its own, and a tall shadow appeared in the chair beside her. Add a wrong videotape, an Exorcist that played itself, and two decades of cold, dark nightmares. Amanda wants to know if something followed her home, and whatever happened to Weston.

Caroline explains why she begs people to leave Ouija boards alone, shares her park ranger dream, the priest who fixed it, the nine grapefruit story, and how to cut cords and call in your angels. Daryl shares his zombie dream breakthrough. Plus dick-pic dating disasters, the prison planet theory, and why hell might be cold, not fiery.

They wrap with show picks (Widow's Bay, Vikings, Mrs. Maisel) and a Pizzagate tease.

And Weston, if you're out there, Amanda has questions.

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Three short letters, three very intimate problems, two hypnotherapists who have heard worse. A 24-year-old worried her hookup stole her energy.

A divorced 42-year-old who can't get there with his new partner. A 31-year-old who has been faking it for three years and can't take it anymore. Caroline and Daryl get into chakras, freezer spells, why your medication might be the actual problem, and why a vibrator in bed is not the criticism your boyfriend thinks it is.

Plus: homemade mayo, the smoothie that will change your life, and a warning about creatine that nobody else is telling you.

To find more out about Caroline Cranshaw & Daryl Gove https://nzhypnotherapy.co.nz/ https://www.darylgove.com/#/ https://www.youtube.com/@HypnosisTraining/

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• 00:00 — Tinfoil hats and a dog in a cone
• 03:42 — Letter one: soul ties and the hookup that lingered
• 14:22 — Letter two: the divorcé who can't finish
• 22:35 — Letter three: fake it till you make it
• 30:26 — Recommendations: mayo, smoothies, and the creatine warning
• 38:31 — Outro

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Filth warning: this one's a doozy. Not for the easily scandalised, but you knew that...

A married dad writes in with a problem that started with one sneaky kitchen wank and escalated into something that's about to get him fired, arrested, or both. Caroline and Daryl read the letter, try to keep straight faces (mixed results), and then deliver some genuinely serious advice underneath the chaos, because this is an addiction, not just a punchline.

Then Daryl unveils his Danger Wank Hall of Fame: six famous men, six very public mistakes, six cautionary tales. Plus: Daryl prods a dead possum with a stick for noble reasons, and a brief history of hedgehog rehab.

It's stupid. It's also weirdly useful. Classic WTF.

To find more out about Caroline Cranshaw & Daryl Gove

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Timestamps:

• 00:00 — Cold open: possums, hedgehogs, and Daryl's big heart
• 03:16 — Welcome to WTF and the letter
• 16:58 — Advice time: why this is serious, actually
• 24:42 — The Danger Wank Hall of Fame
• 39:55 — Get help, you'll be fine, wrap up

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⚠️ Trigger warning: this episode discusses harm to an animal. If that's not for you, skip this one and we'll see you next time.

A listener writes in about her brother's golden retriever, his new fiancée who never warmed to the dog, and the day everything went very, very wrong. Caroline and Daryl read the letter, try to work out if the family's suspicions are warranted (spoiler: they think so), and dig into the red flags everyone missed. Plus: dodgy neighbours, hypnosis for the chronically noise-tortured, and Caroline's daughter staging an intervention about her mum's screen time. Also some recommendations and a mild rant about American reality TV.

Filth level: standard WTF. Sense of justice: unfulfilled.

To find more out about Caroline Cranshaw & Daryl Gove https://nzhypnotherapy.co.nz/ https://www.darylgove.com/#/ https://www.youtube.com/@HypnosisTraining/ To find out about training in hypnotherapy with us, check out: https://integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com Write to us if you have a question or want us to tell your story at [email protected] Check out our Alcohol Reduction Course https://www.integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com/offers/LAiJuAJ9/checkout

Timestamps:

• 00:00 — Cold open chaos and biceps as a love language
• 05:14 — Welcome to WTF and trigger warning
• 07:53 — The letter
• 15:31 — Did she do it? We discuss
• 18:08 — Caroline's neighbour from hell story
• 24:34 — Back to the letter
• 25:34 — What we're watching: Project Hail Mary, Your Friends and Neighbours, Last One Laughing
• 32:56 — Why American reality TV is somehow worse then Aussie and the UK
• 34:43 — Nervous system regulation (no, not with cocaine)
• 36:53 — Outro and one piece of practical advice

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In 1990, 17-year-old María Soledad Morales left a spring festival in Argentina and never came home. What followed wasn't just a murder investigation — it was a masterclass in how power protects itself, and what happens when ordinary people decide they've had enough. A nun named Sister Martha helped lead weekly Silent Marches of students and townspeople that grew into a national movement, forced federal intervention, and eventually shook a political dynasty to its core. Caroline and Daryl break down the case, the cover-up, the extraordinary protests that changed Argentina, and what it actually takes to hold powerful people accountable. Plus: media recommendations, a few wild tangents, and the usual chaos.

Learn more about the case in Netflix's Breaking the Silence

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Timestamps:

• 00:00 — Intro banter and meet the hosts
• 02:47 — The María Soledad case: who she was and what happened
• 07:05 — The cover-up and the powerful names behind it
• 08:22 — The Silent March movement begins
• 11:17 — Trials, witnesses, and the political fallout
• 14:46 — Legacy: femicide, justice, and what actually changed
• 16:48 — Cover-ups in pop culture: Netflix picks and recommendations
• 23:26 — The empathy question: how do people switch it off?
• 34:36 — Protests, boycotts, and how ordinary people fight back
• 38:15 — What we're watching and reading
• 43:21 — Outro

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We start where all great podcasts start — glamping, punctured air mattresses (thanks, cat), and a heated debate about what exactly Daryl means when he talks about "reading your ring."

From there we somehow end up deep in geopolitics, oil supply crises, and the kind of predictions that make you want to quietly stockpile pasta and rethink your entire life plan. Just a normal Tuesday.

In this episode:

We talk about the YouTube rabbit hole that has consumed Caroline's soul: Professor Jiang (technically Xueqin, technically a high school teacher, universally called Professor because he's just that good). His channel Predictive History uses game theory, structural historical analysis, and something borrowed from Isaac Asimov called psychohistory to model where geopolitics is actually heading — not based on what leaders say, but what the incentives force them to do.

His three big predictions: Trump wins the election ✅, US goes to war with Iran ✅, US loses that war 👀

We get into The Iron Trap — his argument that the US has structurally locked itself into conflict with Iran regardless of who's in the White House. We also talk about the Peloponnesian War, the fall of empires (spoiler: they always overextend), and why America at 250 years old is basically just following the script every empire before it has followed.

Then we get into the part that's actually affecting us right now: oil supply, the Strait of Hormuz, and what a diesel shortage actually means. Hint: it's not just expensive petrol. It's food not moving, ambulances not moving, farms stopping. We break down what's actually in the tanks, what's on the water, and what happens when the ships stop coming

Practical things we actually recommend:

• Stock up on basics — rice, canned food, olive oil, powdered milk, oats
• Get your medications in bulk if you can
• Back up your files — don't rely entirely on Google
• Look into Starlink if internet resilience matters to you
• Get an electric bike. Daryl got one. He's very pleased with himself.
• Follow Suzanne Peet (@thesuzannepeet on TikTok) for genuinely sane food security advice that doesn't involve becoming a full survivalist weirdo
• Check out Armstrong Economics and Martin Armstrong's Socrates system if you want more predictive modelling rabbit holes

And yes, we do also recommend regulating your nervous system, growing microgreens on your windowsill, talking to your neighbours, and remembering that humans are actually mostly good and community is the real prep.

We're not saying panic. We're saying: know what's coming, make some sensible moves, and maybe don't wait until the shelves are empty to buy rice.

Helpful links:

• 📺 Predictive History on YouTube
• 🌐 Armstrong Economics
• 🛢️ NZ Fuel Watch: FuelWatch.nz
• 📱 @thesuzannepeet on TikTok
• 📧 [email protected] — send us your tips, your stories, and your best rice recipes

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Timestamps:

• 00:00 Glamping, punctured mattresses, and cat chaos
• 01:12 Dayvigo vs melatonin — the deep sleep data war
• 02:22 The ring joke that got completely out of hand
• 03:29 Welcome to WTF Stories and Advice
• 04:47 Things therapists probably shouldn't talk about (we do anyway)
• 05:42 Meet Professor Jiang — China's Nostradamus
• 07:15 The three predictions and what comes next
• 09:56 Who actually is this guy?
• 15:53 Game theory, psychohistory, and predictive history explained
• 19:16 The Iron Trap — why the Iran war was always going to happen
• 21:47 Every empire overextends. Every single one.
• 26:51 The Strait of Hormuz and what it actually means for us down here
• 29:01 How fuel prices really work (and why it's worse than you think)
• 30:05 How many days of diesel does NZ actually have?
• 31:57 What happens when the supply chain stops
• 32:56 The bigger geopolitical picture — who has the oil now
• 35:17 Practical prep: what to actually do
• 40:24 Suzanne Peet and the food security mindset shift
• 47:06 Getting around without petrol (Daryl's electric bike era begins)
• 48:40 Managing the anxiety — meditation, gardening, don't doom scroll
• 49:44 The Age of Aquarius, old structures collapsing, and why that might actually be okay
• 55:40 Wrapping up with a laugh — go watch Red Nose Day Little Britain

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In this episode of WTF Stories and Advice, hosts Daryl Gove and Caroline Cranshaw dive into a Reddit AITAH post from a 27-year-old woman whose boyfriend is demanding full access to her online banking claiming that "no secrets is how adults do it." Is this financial transparency, or a massive red flag?

Daryl and Caroline break down why handing over your banking login is actually illegal (yes, really Daryl used to work at a bank), why a narcissist's accusation is often a confession, and how controlling behaviour tends to creep in one small demand at a time. They also share why having your own money and your own privacy isn't a trust issue, it's just good sense.

Timestamps:

• 0:00 — Intro banter (Cards Against Humanity and gym stories)
• 5:00 — Welcome + a note on making fun of people (five stars though, please)
• 7:00 — WTF moment: new students who emigrated to NZ on the same flight 26 years ago
• 10:30 — Reddit story: AITAH for refusing to give my boyfriend my banking login?
• 15:00 — Discussion: why sharing your login is actually illegal + red flag central
• 18:00 — Gaslighting, coercive control, and "a narcissist's accusation is a confession"
• 22:00 — Wild tangent: YouTuber invited to a very wrong party
• 26:00 — The Epstein files and scat tables (you've been warned)
• 29:00 — Black Mirror Season 7 recommendation + wrap up

Recommendations this episode: Black Mirror, Season 7 (Episode 2 in particular — you'll know the one)

To find out more about Caroline Cranshaw & Daryl Gove or book an appointment:

🔗 https://nzhypnotherapy.co.nz/

🔗 https://www.darylgove.com/#/

🔗 https://www.youtube.com/@HypnosisTraining/

To find out about training in hypnotherapy with us, check out: 🔗 https://integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com

Write to us if you have a question or want us to tell your story: ✉️ [email protected]

Check out our Alcohol Reduction Course: 🔗 https://www.integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com/offers/LAiJuAJ9/checkout

Check out Daryl's Course — Brave Beyond Size: Self Esteem For Men: 🔗 https://app.coursespace.io/creator/daryl.gove/course/449

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