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It's one thing to want to learn and grow and reach your goals. It's another thing to push through - harder and harder - until things start to fall apart.  But it's not always easy to know where that line is.  

Ambition  is important. It keeps us focused and helps us work hard.  But if you're feeling like you keep racing towards a finish line that keeps moving further and further away, or like you're starting to miss out on other things in life, if you're always wondering  'what's next' without ever feeling like you've arrived, this episode is for you. 

In today's episode as we unpack the myth of perpetual achievement and explore what happens when the thrill of the chase starts to wear off. It's a heart-to-heart on the true price of checking off all the boxes of success and how sometimes, the most significant growth comes from re-evaluating what you're chasing in the first place. 

What We Cover:

1. The Hidden Costs of Constantly Chasing
2. Redefining Success
3. The Myth of More
4. Stories That Inspire
5. Self Reflection 

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Feeling inspired? Curious? Challenged? Me too. Reach out to share your thoughts and stories  on instagram @livingxo or LinkedIn @rishma-walji or via the website livingxo.com/contact. I'd love to hear from you!

For a list of the self reflection questions, check out the blog at livingxo.com/pushing

To connect with guest Kristin Dainis, find her at https://kristindainis.com

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This episode takes you on an unexpected journey that began at a seemingly ordinary book club dinner and led to an extraordinary insight into life's purpose.

What You'll Discover:

• A Reunion That Reignites: After months of virtual connections, a simple dinner with friends unfolds into a night of profound revelations. Why this night was unlike any other, and how it changed our host's perspective on life, will inspire you to look at your reunions in a new light.
• The Book That Opened Eyes: "The Measure of My Powers" by Jackie Kai Ellis isn't just a story about finding oneself through the art of cooking; it's a catalyst for self-discovery that challenged our host in unexpected ways. Learn why sometimes the books we resist are the ones we need the most.
• Finding Purpose in the Everyday: Discover how a casual conversation about a book can lead to a deep reflection on personal purpose and joy. This episode invites you to consider what truly drives you, beyond the grandiose dreams and into the heart of daily living.
• Inspiration Through Vulnerability: Hear how sharing struggles and challenges can not only help us heal but also inspire those around us. Our host's journey is a testament to the power of vulnerability and the surprising ways it can connect and uplift others.
• Reflections That Propel Forward: This episode isn't just about looking back; it's about moving forward with intention and joy. Find out how simple questions and reflections can transform your approach to life and your impact on others.

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• Unlock deeper self-knowledge and decision-making clarity with the Free Guide: "5 Important Questions to Ask Yourself Before Making a Decision." Available now at livingxo.com/questions.

Teasers:

• "What if one evening could alter the way you see yourself and your place in the world?"
• "Why your purpose might be simpler and more powerful than you've ever imagined."

Don't Miss This Episode!

• Tune in to "The Night a Book Club Changed My Life" for an intimate exploration of friendship, the unexpected lessons we learn, and the quiet power of self-reflection. It's an episode that promises to leave you with more questions than answers, in the best possible way.

Thank you for joining us!

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https://livingxo.com/labels/ (The Labels We Give Ourselves and Why They Matter)

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3. Download my FREE handout 5 Must-Ask Questions before making a decision livingxo.com/questions
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We've all been there, at the edge of a life-changing decision - maybe it’s moving across the world for love, changing careers, or even starting a family.   These choices can be exciting, they can be for people we love, they can be for something wonderful.  But they're also choices that bring change, and loss of an old life, a previous identity, something familiar.  This episode is about embracing the full spectrum of those choices, acknowledging the bittersweet farewells as much as the exciting hellos.

You’ll be inspired by change, and also you'll get strategies to honour both the gains and losses on your path. 

This isn’t just about making decisions; it’s about making peace with them.

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Ever feel like your gratitude practice is just another thing on your never-ending to-do list? You're not alone. This week, your host, Dr. Rishma Walji, discusses the not-so-perfect journey of finding true gratitude amidst life's messes.

This episode isn't about the picture-perfect moments of thankfulness we see plastered on social media. It's about the gritty, real-life stuff. It's about turning "gratitude" from a buzzword into a lifeline, discovering joy in the mundane, and learning how to see the silver lining even when it feels like life is just a series of clouds.

Dr. Walji doesn't just share her story; she dives into the why and how, blending science with actionable tips that go beyond the journal. Think gratitude through laughter, tears, and those in-between moments. 

Why listen? Because life's too short for superficial gratitude. Join us for real talk, genuine stories, and science-backed insights that promise to breathe new life into your daily grind. Let's get messy, let's get real, and let's find joy together.

About Your Host: Dr. Rishma Walji is your guide on this journey of self-discovery and intentional living. With a background in naturopathy and a PhD, she's spent over 20 years helping people navigate the ups and downs of life with grace, empathy, and science. When she's not podcasting, you can find her globe-trotting, dancing, or sipping on a warm cup of chai, with a smile and an open heart.

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1. Take your first step towards an extraordinary life with our FREE resources. Check out our free quiz at livingxo.com/quiz and plot your current decision-making process. Discover actionable steps to move closer to your goals.
2. Grab my FREE gratitude challenge: livingxo.com/gratitude
3. Download my FREE handout 5 Must-Ask Questions before making a decision livingxo.com/questions
4. FREE workbook to help you figure out what you really want (not what you think you should want): livingxo.com/mygoals

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Whether you're a parent stretched thin by the demands of family life, a professional struggling to find work-life balance, or anyone in between, you'll find valuable lessons and relatable stories in this episode. 

We'll tackle the hard questions: 

- Why is setting boundaries so hard? 

- How can we do it without feeling selfish? 

- And what real-world steps can we take to make a lasting change?

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Follow our podcast for more insights, and leave us a review to let us know how setting boundaries has changed your life. 

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2. Grab my FREE gratitude challenge: livingxo.com/gratitude
3. Download my FREE handout 5 Must-Ask Questions before making a decision livingxo.com/questions
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Have you ever had that awkward moment  when you have something on your mind, you’re pouring out your heart to someone, and they say ALL the wrong things? 

 In this episode, we talk about steering conversations to get the advice you really need. Discover how to frame your talks, ask the right questions, and express your emotions for better understanding. 

Whether it's with family, friends, or colleagues, learn to communicate in a way that leaves you feeling heard and supported. Tune in and transform your day-to-day conversations into meaningful exchanges.
 

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Have you ever felt confined by a label, whether self-imposed or given by others? Do terms like 'introvert,' 'perfectionist,' or even 'successful' resonate with you, but also feel limiting at times? We dissect how these labels, while sometimes validating, can also create unnecessary boundaries that restrict our growth and potential.

Discover the impact of positive labeling and how embracing new identities can lead to significant life changes. We discuss the science behind labeling theory, the brain's remarkable ability to rewire itself, and how adopting empowering labels can alter our thought patterns and self-esteem. Learn how shifting from 'I have to' to 'I get to' can transform your daily routine from a chore to an eagerly anticipated activity.

This episode is full of personal journey as well as a thoughtful guide to understanding and harnessing the labels that define us. Whether you're looking to break free from stereotypes, seek motivation for a new endeavor, or simply gain insights into your own identity, this conversation is for you.

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Do you often find yourself following the crowd, making decisions based on what’s expected?

Have you ever wondered if there’s a more creative, intentional way to live your life?

Dr. Rishma Walji, a Naturopathic Doctor (retired) and PhD, shares a compelling story from her visit to Montreal that sparked a profound realization about life’s choices.

In today’s episode, Dr. Rishma discusses:

• The Montreal Story: A family trip experience that teaches us about challenging the status quo.
• Embracing Curiosity: Understanding how asking the right questions can lead to more fulfilling life choices.
• Redefining the Norm: Why actively participating in our decisions is crucial rather than just accepting societal expectations.
• Building Resilience: Strategies for adapting when plans don’t unfold as anticipated.

If you're looking to transform your decision-making process and step out of the average, join Dr. Rishma in her workshop on intentional decision-making. Discover how to navigate life’s challenges with creativity and intention.

For more details, visit: livingxo.com/workshop.

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Tune in to our next episode for more on personal growth and intentional living.

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In this episode, I share with you a story that’s close to my heart – a story about an accidental family heirloom that's much more than just a piece of jewelry.

Today is all about a special necklace that's woven through the generations of my family. A history that is interconnected with my own, and hopefully with future generations. It's a symbol of love, a bridge between past and present, and a reminder of the laughter, tears and love that binds us. 

This necklace isn’t just an accessory; it’s a storyteller, whispering tales of my family's love and strength and the bonds that have shaped who I am.

As you listen, think about the stories that live within your own family. Maybe it’s a recipe, a photograph, or an old letter. Like our necklace, these are more than objects; they’re the threads that connect us to our past and guide us into our future.

I hope this episode inspires you to explore the depths of your own family history and the beauty of living intentionally. It's about finding meaning in the little things and understanding how our roots influence our wings.

So grab a cozy spot and join me. Let's discover together how our families, in all their ups and downs, shape our paths and how we can honour their legacy in our daily lives. 

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2. Grab my FREE gratitude challenge: livingxo.com/gratitude
3. Download my FREE handout 5 Must-Ask Questions before making a decision livingxo.com/questions
4. FREE workbook to help you figure out what you really want (not what you think you should want): livingxo.com/mygoals

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How to do hard things: going from "I Can't" to "I'm Doing It"

Episode Description: Dive into this episode of the XO Conversations Podcast as Dr. Rishma Walji discusses the psychological and physical strategies behind conquering challenging endeavors. Whether it's tackling a new hobby, enhancing a skill, or mending a relationship, the techniques shared in this episode can guide you from fear and uncertainty to confidence and execution.

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