Church is a place where people come together not only for worship but also a place to feel connected. However, for some singles, divorced and widowed folks the church can be a very lonely place. Do we need a new and different church to meet these needs?

We all agree, the year 2020 came with plenty of challenges. However, the new year is starting with a lot of "first" for me, many of those "first" I try to view as positives. In this podcast I talk about change and how we all can learn to adapt, even when it seems impossible.

As I enter the second year of my journey without my lifelong partner Pam, I'm learning the value of family and friends in the healing process. In this episode I talk about my cross country move and reconnecting with family and friends.

As we all know, the holidays can be a challenging time for everyone. But, for those that have experienced loss the temptation is to simply forget and skip the holidays. However, that's generally not a good idea. So how can we keep moving forward during the holiday period? In this episode I talk about what works for me and keeps me moving forward.

Often times when we experience significant loss we often want to get away, start over and try to forget the past. However, from first hand experience I can tell you it is wise to take your time before making a move too quickly. In my case I waited 15 months before I finally did decide it was time for a fresh start. In this episode I talk about how moving from the Pacific Northwest back to near my roots in Tennessee has provided a better than expected return in the first weekend alone. For questions or comments be sure and contact me at; [email protected]

Following loss we can often get trapped in memories. Yes, memories are good but we also need to work at building new memories as part of the healing process.

Experiencing great loss can trigger a number of emotions. One of the most common is the feeling of needing to move away from where you may have experienced the loss. Most experts agree you should wait at least one year before making a major decision like relocation. In my case, I wanted to leave the first week after losing my wife. However, I decided to wait 14 months and I'm glad I did. Why? Well, listen and find out what I discovered by waiting.

One question I've been asked more than once regards when you lose your husband or wife, how long do you keep their cell phone. For those that have experienced loss you know how difficult this simple task can become. In today's podcast I answer the question and the answer may surprise you.

Every day I pulled into our garage and saw a pair of beach chairs hanging from the wall. Those were mine and Pam's beach chairs. But now, there is no Pam...just me. So, I decided it was time for the beach chairs to go. Turns out it was bit more emotional than I anticipated. Maybe you've had a similar experience. Question or comments should be sent to: [email protected]

This espisode is in response to an email from a listerner asking about how death can change a person. In my case after the loss of my wife the changes have been profound. And for the most part for the better with some surprising  results.