This week, Gelb is joined by Heather Havrilesky - author, advice columnist, and wasteland warrior of the scrappy LA hills - to discuss the poisonous messages that our culture at large tries to tattoo onto the insides of our eyelids. You know the ones. You NEED: more money, a bigger house, a better mate, perfect hair, skin, and nails, genitals that smell like a rose garden, to lose/gain 10 lbs, to stop being sad, to look on the bright side, to really ENJOY cooking, to take up axe throwing, etc. Heather calls bullshit on the myth of constant self-improvement and and challenges us to accept ourselves as we are, in this very moment, inadequacies and all.

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