Feeling stuck, powerless, and like your needs don't matter? This episode is for you.

A listener wrote: "I feel like you only talk about what the low-libido partner needs. What about me?" He's right—I needed to address this more directly.

In this episode, I break down the "power imbalance" myth, clarify what you can reasonably expect in a monogamous relationship, and talk over the 5 real options when your partner refuses to work on your desire discrepancy.

Your needs matter. You're not powerless. You have choices—they're just hard choices.

We also cover what you can do RIGHT NOW to reclaim your agency.

Topics: desire discrepancy, mismatched libido, sexless marriage, higher libido partner, relationship help

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