You, Me and the Family Tree - A Family Constellation Podcast

Episode 7: When Love Carries More Than Two People with Bertold Ulsamer

Part two of a special five-part series with Bertold Ulsamer, author, teacher, and elder in the field of Family Constellations, and a direct student of Bert Hellinger.

In this episode, we talk about couples and relationships—what we carry from our original families, what matters when working with couples, the role of timing, different pacing between partners, relationships today and a beautiful short meditation at the end.

I hope you’ll find this conversation meaningful and beneficial.

Guest: Bertold Ulsamer

Host: Iris Shaham

🔗 Links & Resources

Bertold Ulsamer

Website: https://www.ulsamer.com/startseite/

Email: [email protected]

2026 International Seminar (Bucharest)Men and Women – Love and Struggle https://bertold-ulsamer.ro/

Digital Course Integrated Trauma Therapy (facilitated by Bertold Ulsamer)Special January discount available

https://iris-savir.systeme.io/integrated-truma-therapy

Book The Art and Practice of Family Constellations:Leading Family Constellations as Developed by Bert Hellingerhttps://a.co/d/fy5GLRV

Host – Iris Shaham

Podcast & Website: https://www.irisconstellations.com/podcasts

Email: [email protected]

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Episode 6: This episode opens a special 5-part series with Bertold Ulsamer — author, teacher, and elder in the field of Family Constellations. A direct student of Bert Hellinger, Bertold is a world-renowned scholar and practitioner whose work has helped shape the field internationally.

In this opening episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Bertold for an open conversation about stations of his life journey and how he was found by constellation work, as he himself describes it.

We speak about the experiences through which the work entered his life, how it began to guide him, and what has continued to orient his path over the years.

I truly hope you’ll find this conversation meaningful and beneficial.

Contact & Resources

Bertold Ulsamer Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.ulsamer.com/startseite/

2026 International Seminar (Bucharest)Men and Women – Love and Struggle: https://bertold-ulsamer.ro/

Digital Course: Integrated Trauma Therapy (facilitated by Bertold Ulsamer): https://iris-savir.systeme.io/integrated-truma-therapy

Book The Art and Practice of Family Constellations:Leading Family Constellations as Developed by Bert Hellinger: https://a.co/d/fy5GLRV

Host: Iris Shaham

Website: https://www.irisconstellations.com/

Email: [email protected]

© 2025 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.

Episode 5: HOME with Suzi Tucker.

Welcome to the fifth episode of our special 5-part series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and one of the most influential voices in the world of Family Constellations.

In our fifth and final conversation for this round, we explore the theme of home — not just as a place, but as a deep sense of belonging. What does it mean to come home to ourselves, to others, and to life itself?

Enjoy listening — I would love to hear from you, what is home for you, where do you feel at home, and anything else you would like to share.

Connect with Suzi Tucker:https://www.suzitucker.com

Connect with Iris Shaham:https://www.irisconstellations.com

© 2025 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.

Welcome to the fourth episode of our special 5-part series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and one of the most influential voices in the world of Family Constellations. Today we dive into the profound role of language — how we speak, how we listen, and how our words shape what unfolds in the constellation field.

This episode is especially valuable for:

• Family Constellation facilitators

• Therapists and counselors

• Group leaders of any kind

• Anyone curious about deepening their presence and clarity.

Suzi shares practical insights on:Hosting groups and working without judgment You’ll also hear a lovely short story about Suzi’s contribution to one of Bert Hellinger’s books.

Enjoy listening — and I’d love for you to share your own family phrase — that special saying or line that’s unique to your family.

Connect with Suzi Tucker:https://www.suzitucker.com

Messengers of Healing book: https://www.amazon.com/Messengers-Hea...

Connect with Iris Shaham:https://www.irisconstellations.com

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This is a special 5 episodes' series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and a true pioneer in Family Constellations.

In this third episode, I sit down with Suzi to explore the five elements that appear in our lives.This is one of my favorite episodes — we explore the elements, core fears, and I share a personal story from growing up in a kibbutz.

This episode is an invitation to reflect on your own life story and notice what resonates with you.

Feel welcomed to share.Don’t forget to watch Episodes 1 and 2 if you missed them.

Contact Suzi Tucker:

⁠Suzi Website⁠

⁠Contact Iris Shaham:

⁠Iris Website

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This is a special 5-episode series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and a true pioneer in Family Constellations.

In this second episode, we explore what it truly means to acknowledge what is — not to fix, not to escape, but to meet reality exactly as it is. This is one of the more challenging conversations in our series, a profound dialogue that invites you to slow down, breathe, and listen fully.

Before diving into the heart of the topic, Suzi shares the story of how she met Bert Hellinger, founder of Family Constellations.

A gentle exploration of mindfulness, awareness, and the quiet strength of seeing things as they are. This episode is deep and thought-provoking, best listened to when you have time to sit with it fully.

Enjoy!

© 2025 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.

Contact Suzi Tucker:

⁠Suzi Website

⁠The Gather Enough Fireflies Book

Contact Iris Shaham:

⁠Iris Website

This is a special 5 episodes' series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and a true pioneer in Family Constellations.

In this opening episode, I sit down with Suzi to explore the intricate process of decision making through the lens of family systems.

Together, we reflect on how our choices are often shaped by unseen loyalties, inherited patterns, and the deep connections that bind us to our family stories.

This conversation is an invitation to pause and ask yourself:

What part of your decision-making truly belongs to you — and what might you be carrying for someone else?

I truly hope you’ll find it meaningful and beneficial!

© 2025 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.

Contact Suzi Tucker:

Suzi Website

The Gather Enough Fireflies Book

I recommend you to hear this beautiful exercise with Suzi: Finding Context for Your Issue

Contact Iris Shaham:

Iris Website