Your Intended Message

Episode 234 ( Stacey is based in New Jersey)

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About our guest, Stacey Chazin:

She holds a master's in organizational development and leadership, degrees in marketing and communication, and a certification in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Assessment.

Stacey is a proud introvert who grappled for decades with societal expectations that favored extroversion.

Instead of conforming to societal pressures, she embraced her introverted qualities, turning them into powerful assets that allowed her to thrive, both professionally and personally. She now coaches other introverts to do the same.

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Excerpts from this conversation with Stacey Chazin:

A common misconception is that introverts are shy or incapable of leading. As Stacey explains, “Introversion is not about shyness; it’s about how we get our energy.” While extroverts thrive in group settings, introverts recharge by having time alone or engaging in deep, focused thought.

So, how can introverts succeed in meetings, where speaking up is often equated with competence?

Stacey highlights a three-step approach for introverts to shine:

Before the Meeting: Preparation is key. Request the agenda in advance and develop talking points. As Stacey advises, “Having data or narrative examples ready helps you feel confident.”

During the Meeting: Don’t pressure yourself to speak first. Set a goal of sharing two or three points and check them off as you go. If asked to respond on the spot, Stacey suggests saying, “I’d love to give this some thought and follow up later.”

After the Meeting: Follow up with a well-crafted email. Stacey notes, “Introverts often excel at writing, which allows time to process thoughts.”

Introverts also bring unique leadership strengths. Stacey points out that deep listening, empathy, and calmness in conflict are powerful assets. “These qualities help you understand your team and guide them effectively,” she says.

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Your host is George Torok

George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.

Connect with George

www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/

https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills

https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Episode 233 (Sonya is based in Australia)

In this conversation, we explore:

The Importance of Systems and Processes in Business

Effective Communication as the Foundation for Success

Gaining Objectivity Through External Business Assessments

Managing Ego and Embracing Change for Growth

Preparation and Mindset: Doing Your Future Self a Favor

Building Genuine Connections Through Energetic Interactions

Listening to Team Members on the Front Lines

The Psychological Benefits of Organization and Planning

Navigating the Unique Challenges of Family Businesses

Accepting Feedback and Turning Challenges into Opportunities

Join us as we delve into these topics with Sonya Corkery, who shares her expertise on cleaning up businesses, enhancing communication, and setting yourself up for future success.

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About our guest, Sonya Corkery:

Sonya had an extensive corporate career in finance. That includes time as a financial planner, bank manager and commercial lender.

She and her husband owned and operated a successful multimillion-dollar electrical contracting business for 16 years.

Learn more about Sonya and how she might help your business at

https://clearplanconsulting.com.au/

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Excerpts from this conversation with Sonya Corkery:

Get ready to transform your business with actionable insights! In this episode of Your Intended Message, we sat down with Sonya Corkery, a seasoned consultant helping businesses clean up their operations, streamline processes, and achieve sustainable growth. Here’s a sneak peek into the conversation:

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Your host is George Torok

George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.

Connect with George

www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/

https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills

https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Episode 232 (Jackson is based in San Antonio, Texas)

In this conversation with Jackson Calame we explore the keys to building a first-class business and the foundational principles for entrepreneurial success."

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About our guest, Jackson Calame:

Jackson teaches visionary entrepreneurs how to unlock sustainable revenue growth and expand their legacy by becoming a Power Brand in their market. 96% of businesses fail within the first 10 years. Jackson teaches businesses, not only how to avoid failure, but how to win, by becoming a true leader in their market.

You are invited to attend the Power Launch Webinar.

https://go.firstclassbusiness.io/power-launch-webinar

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Excerpts from this conversation with Jackson Calame:

Jackson, let's talk about what first class business does for entrepreneurs that entrepreneurs fail to do for themselves. Where do you start? Absolutely.

Well, come out hitting hard and heavy. So our tagline on our website may make a lot of you laugh in a good and appreciative way.

It says, Hey, Batman, let us be your Alfred, right? And what does that mean? That means one, we want to work with superheroes, people who are contenders in the market, not pretenders.

We also want to come in and provide all of that back end infrastructure that often gets overlooked, maintaining the house, maintaining the balance, making sure that the schedules are operating efficiently, making sure Batman doesn't go out there and die when I was just trying to save the world.

There's so many things that need to be done in order to truly help somebody scale and have a proper balance and serve their market and be there for the family and the whole it's a lot so many entrepreneurs either take that for granted on one side, and we've got to stop doing that if we really want to build.

Or on the other side, if you're the Batman listening into that right now and you're like, oh my gosh, I need that act on it, you know, start looking for who is going to help you build that really unsexy, boring thing that almost no podcasts talk about, called infrastructure, truly that simple infrastructure

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In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.

Your host is George Torok

George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.

Connect with George

www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/

https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills

https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Episode 231 (Chad is based in Alaska)

In this conversation with Chad Hufford we explore:

About our guest, Chad Hufford:

Chad owns a boutique financial planning firm, Vertitas Wealth Management. He partners with Dave Ramsey as one of his SmartVestor Pros. He is the author of Forging Financial Freedom. He is born and raised in Anchorage, Alaska.

You can get your copy of his book along with the free bonuses here

www.forgingfinancialfreedom.com

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Excerpts from this conversation with Chad Hufford:

Delighted to be talking with you and I somehow I just think just living and growing up in Alaska is got to give you a different view of the world. Do you agree with that?

Well, quite literally, it gives me a different view of the world. We're so high up on latitude that, yeah, every everything's different up here. But, you know, I think it's been actually really powerful for me.

You know, one of the things we talked about in previous conversations is, you know, when we try to have an intended message come across, sometimes we do have to change somebody's perspective in order to see it clearly.

And I think, coming from Alaska, we do automatically have such a different perspective. It just It lends itself to the reframing or reshaping of somebody's paradigm or perspective, and it's just, it's a wonderful place to live. It's not always easy 35 degrees this morning on my drive into the office.

But you know what? It's beautiful, and it's home- and that's 35 degrees Fahrenheit.

I guess we just started the fall, ended this summer? Yeah, summer here ended a few weeks ago, I think, if we're being honest. But yeah, 35 degrees Fahrenheit.

So like one, one degree, two degrees Celsius, it's, it's, it's crisp out there. But you know what we had? We had a huge black bear come through our yard. The other day.

We had a lynx outside. And where we live in Anchorage. it's 300,000 people. It's a normal town. We're now out in the boonies, but we live on the very edge of Anchorage, so we get wildlife in our backyard all the time. And it's such a blessing.

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In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.

Your host is George Torok

George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.

Connect with George

www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/

https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills

https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Episode 230 (Kim is based in San Francisco)

In this conversation we explore:

• The Connection Between Emotions and Sensory Experiences

About our guest, Kim Korte:

Kim Korte hosts the Flavors of Emotions podcast and is the author of Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions.

She offers a process to help us make sense of our feelings through the lens of a chef understanding flavors in a recipe.

This unique approach to emotion management blends culinary metaphors with emotional education in a digestible format, making the complex world of feelings accessible and actionable.

As a Sensory Perception and Emotion Management Strategist, she aims to help people develop creative action around how they experience the world and their emotions.

Learn more about Kim and and her book https://www.kimkorte.com/

Listen to her podcast "Flavors of Emotions: https://www.flavorsofemotions.com/

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Excerpts from this conversation with Kim Korte:

In your book, you compare emotions to food and and sensation. Food sensations and flavors. How did you come up with that connection?

And I got this idea after reading how emotions are made, The Secret Life of the Brain, by Lisa Feldman Barrett.

It was an eye popping book, and it got me to think about how if emotions are created from perceptions, then our whole world is like giving us ingredients that we use, and the recipes are everything that we've experienced previously.

So we're always living today in the past, unless we're more conscious of what's going on in our current experience.

That level of consciousness is what helps us to examine and change the quote, unquote recipe if it's not the right one, or if it's not working for us and the process of flavor, it's not a sense sensory system, like everything that we taste, everything we see, all of these things, these are sensory systems.

And taste is a combination of sensory systems you taste with your nose, you taste with your mouth. They even have shown that what you see and what you hear like, if it's crunchy, you think it's fresh, but even music going on around you, you might think, Oh, this music isn't impacting me, but it really can impact the flavor and your experience of food, and the same is true of our emotions.

Everything that we experience is a our emotions, rather are a combination of our sensory experiences. That's what influences us. So this is where I got these food metaphors and cooking metaphors.

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Think of it like a pepper. There's different kinds of peppers, there's bell peppers, and there's jalapenos, and there's habaneros.

And yet, we don't attribute hot spiciness to every single pepper out there, right? Because we've learned to distinguish the differences situationally and. Experientially of different peppers.

And so the same can be true with our fears, because we tend to have this like one size fits all approach to a lot of emotions, and we we feel one emotion more than others, and we haven't allowed ourselves to recognize that fear can be like a pepper, even love can be like a pepper, and have different gradations of it, different levels of quote, unquote, heat.

And with that, you are able to break down that fear into seeing it in its different states. It could be irked, could be nervous. It could be irate, you know? It could be, you know, I need to run for the door, panic. Same with love....

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In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.

Your host is George Torok

George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.

Connect with George

www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/

https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills

https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Episode 229 (Aaron is based in Australia)

In this conversation with Aaron we explore:

• The value of publishing video to build trust

About our guest, Aaron Witnish:

He started marketing online in 2008 and launched his first agency in 2010.

You can download the free "30 Days in 90 Minutes Content Creation System"

https://contentonly.au/

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Excerpts from this conversation with Aaron Witnish:

It's very fitting that the show is called your intended message, because that ties in beautifully with content creation. The challenge is it has so many moving parts.

Where do you post it? What format do you create? Where do you get the ideas, what tech that you use? And that paralyzes most people into inaction, or there's a fear about being on camera. You're quite vulnerable. When you put yourself online, people can make comments and say things. 

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How do we know which questions to answer for our audience?

Took me 14 years to to find this, and now that I know it's kind of slapped me in the face, but what you do is you take any topic that you might cover with your intended message or in your business, and you just put that keyword or that search into Google.

So let's use a generic example, and we'll say weight loss. So if you put weight loss, type it into Google. Press Enter. All you need to do is scroll down the search a little bit, and there's a section that says people also ask, and that'll have the questions and queries that people are typing in and asking online.

So what you can do is look at the questions that you can add value to and answer, save them to the side, and then you click the down arrow, it'll give you more questions.

You click the down arrow, it'll give you more questions. Then you just take the next topic. So it could be dieting, it could be workouts, it could be nutrition, and then you just keep getting a list of questions that people are asking.

So that way you know what people are searching for online, and you can solve those problems with your content and never. Run out of content ideas with this strategy

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In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.

Your host is George Torok

George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.

Connect with George

www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/

https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills

https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Episode 228 (Maia is based in Chicago)

In this conversation with Maia Rosenfeld we explore:

• How do other judge you based on your photograph?

About our guest, Maia Rosenfeld:

Maia has been a headshot photographer in Chicago, Los Angeles and New York for 28 years.

Some of her corporate clients include BMW, J.P. Morgan Chase, Salesforce, GE Healthcare and The Make-A-Wish Foundation.

She's never met a stranger.

Learn more about her photography services at

MRPCreative.com

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Excerpts from this conversation with Maia Rosenfeld:

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I'm not particularly interested in taking photographs of what you look like. Lucky for me, you already look like what you look like. Thank you very much. I'm interested in taking photos of who you are.

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I've come up with a game that they do, which is I throw a word out at them, and they just repeat that word inside their brain. They just have to think it.

So if I say to you, just with your eyes, say the word power, if you literally just think the word power, you're done. You don't have to give me what you think a powerful look is.

You don't have to define power. You don't have to think of a ton you once felt powerful. Literally, I say power. You say power. I say cat, you say cat. And why does it work?

It works because it keeps George inside the building. That is George, where people tend to derail themselves in photos, any photo, family photo, picture, it out with your friends.

Is the second the camera comes up. Everyone tends to leave the building, right? We're in a big group of people. We say cheese. We don't know how long it's taking. We don't know how many they're taking.

Our faces kind of freeze. We don't know it's, oh, it's the other camera. Are they using a flash? We get that photo back, and we hate how we look, right? You're not in that photo.

You left at least 15 seconds ago, right? So that is one of the places that we derail ourselves and we don't we start to hate how we look.

Now we live in a world, in this selfie culture, where you can watch yourself in the photo, right? Which is almost even worse of a problem. It makes it even more self conscious, right? 

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In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.

Your host is George Torok

George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.

Connect with George

www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/

https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills

https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Episode 227 (Mara is based in Virginia, USA)

In this conversation with Mara Benner we explore:

• How to better connect with our own body, mind and spirit

About our guest, Mara Benner:

Mara worked for 25 years in corporate and nonprofit leadership roles. At one time she worked for the CEO of a $2 billion healthcare company.

She has learned how various cultures have combined health, wellness and the min-body-spirit connection.

She studied Qigong in China with the masters.

You can arrange for a 30 minute, no-charge, no-obligation consultation with Mara at https://truenorthexecutivecoaching.com/

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Excerpts from this conversation with Mara Benner:

Your body is a team player with you. And when I say that to leaders, there's a pause. There's that ache that I've been having, that pain that I've been having. I didn't think of as the body being a team player with me, but it is, and you can get to optimal performance, mind, body and spirit when you work on all these different aspects.

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And I'll say one other thing that I think is fascinating about this is those leaders who have done an amazing job of working on the mind, body and spirit, also tap into the ability to create at a whole new level, for innovation and for new approaches, and with time speeding up on how quickly companies have to move and engage in new, innovative approaches for products or services, that ability as a leader, to tap into that creative aspect for the vision of the company and the organization is more important than ever.

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But we come back to a state of homeostasis, which is our natural place to be. And when we're balanced, when our mind and body and spirit are all in a balanced state, the body is able to optimally heal and be at optimal performance, which helps a leader out.

And so again, whether it's yoga or Qigong, or any of these approaches meditation, but it could be also, and this is what I think is really interesting, is for every leader, it's very different as to how they best come back into the state of homeostasis.

So for some it might be going for a run that helps them come back to that state of true balance. When I was in China to go to your point, what I realized is this concept that has always been there of what we call whole person care, which is we are not separated.

Our bodies aren't separated from our mind. Aren't separated from our spirit. It's all one in the same. And we get used to in our healthcare culture right now, we get used to thinking that things are separated out, that one does not impact the other, and that's actually not true.

They're all completely part of the whole so when a doctor says to a patient, this is this illness is stress related, often that person walks out of the doctor's office and may not know what to do with that, like, what? So now do I do if it's stress related? What does that look like?

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In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.

Your host is George Torok

George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.

Connect with George

www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/

https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills

https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Episode 226 (Steve is based in Chicago)

In this conversation with Steve Multer we explore:

• The challenge of an American speaking to international audiences

About our guest, Steve Multer:

Steve had delivered presentations to executive teams for over 125 brands in 38 states and 25 countries.

He is the author of "Nothing Gets Sold Until the Story Gets Told" Corporate Storytelling for Career Success and Value-Driven Marketing.

Learn more about Steve's services and his book at

https://corporatestorytelling.com/

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Excerpts from this conversation with Steve Multer:

You walk into a room, you need to know how to read that space and do it in real time. In order to create a winning communication environment. You have to enter on their terms. You have to enter in a space that they feel comfortable and confident with. Because if you don't, you lose every time.

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They're investing in you, like you're investing in them, right? I think that is such a strong concept.

I frequently say to people when they're not sure they're being properly compensated for business. I always say, think about it this way. You are not having to pay for a master's degree in whatever it is that you're working on.

There are many, many ways to get paid. When you talk about the three levels of value, right? When we talk about fiscal value, we talk about psychological value, and we talk about calendar value, the three things that we can invest in, a person, in an idea, in a human to human engagement.

Again, this is whether we're giving a presentation to an arena full of 10,000 people, or speaking one on one with a colleague, a team member, a executive leader, a customer.

There are three things that we can invest in them. We can invest our time in them. Are they or are they not worthy of our time? We can invest our money in them. Is this or is this not worth paying for out of my wallet?

Or we can invest our psychology in them. Is my time and money worth what I will gain from the nature of the engagement, from the message that I'm about to give and the message hopefully I'm about to receive from the person that I'm with.

All three of those investments have extraordinary value.

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In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.

Your host is George Torok

George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.

Connect with George

www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/

https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills

https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Episode 225 (Mitch is based in Oakville, Canada)

In this conversation with Mitch Fairrais we explore:

• Understanding our frame of reference and how it was formed

About our guest, Mitch Fairrais:

Mitch works with senior leadership teams to help them develop their communication and leadership skills.

He holds a high level of skepticism about many aspects of conventional corporate wisdom.

He is a founder of Socks for Souls Canada, a non-profit that provides unhoused people with warmth, comfort, dignity, mobility and health through new socks.

You can learn more about his training and coaching programs at:

https://www.onthemark.ca/

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Excerpts from this conversation with Mitch Fairrais:

You and I, and every leader on the planet lives with some level of being very much caught in their own frame of reference.

Our own upbringing, our own algorithms that have caused us success. How we've dealt with things, our own beliefs, our own values. There are a number of things that each of us comes to any circumstance with and any interaction with, and it's our frame of reference that we cling to, because it's all we know.

And it's very difficult for most human beings to actually step into the frame of reference of others, which, if you ask me, is the single most important skill that any leader could possess, beyond basic language skills or some math skills, some basic skills like that.

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Anyone who says to me, "I know how you feel" if I am 1000 human beings out of 1000 human beings being pulled I'm saying I doubt it. I don't think you do.

And for anyone to even suggest that they get how someone else views the world is almost ludicrous, because our frames of reference are so different that odds are, if I'm wise,

I should go in assuming that your frame of reference is going to be wildly different than mine, because you've grown up differently, you know, maybe have come from a different family background, maybe different part of the world than I know, many different things.

And I should assume as a starting point I have no idea what your frame of reference is, unless we've got lots of history. Even then, I want to on any given circumstance, on any given issue, explore what your views are, how you feel about how you're looking at anything that we are talking about in any given moment, even if I've known you for the last 20 years.

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In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.

Your host is George Torok

George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.

Connect with George

www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/

https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills

https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/