Life is a Blessing – Life is a Gift

This morning I reflect on all of the blessings I have. I would list how life is a blessing, but the list would be extremely long. I love life, and I’m grateful for the gift of life. Life is a blessing in so many ways if you allow it to be.

You could be struggling right now, but how are you going to choose to handle that struggle?

I know some people that no matter what, they are pessimistic. They could have the best marriage and still nitpick at the slightest issues that come up. They go to a restaurant and complain about everything. It doesn’t matter where they are at or what they are doing, complain, complain and more complaining. Seriously they could be on their ideal vacation and complain about it.

The ironic thing is the more they complain, the worse their health gets, which leads to more complaining. Can you see the vicious cycle?

In your life are you:

* Complaining or are you staying solution focused?

* Willing to put a smile on your face and find the positive in your circumstances?

* Looking for solutions to your challenges or throwing a pity party?

It’s your choice and nobody else’s. You need to stop blaming anyone or anything and take the responsibility you have for your situation. I don’t want you to take any more or any less than your responsibility but take ownership of your challenge.

When you take responsibility and focus on what you can do, you are engaging your rational and logical brain. You are telling yourself, “I’m going to find a solution. I will change this situation.”

Counting your blessings and staying in solution mode, instead of victim mode will help you maintain hope, purpose, and love of life. Life is a blessing. Life is a gift.

The truth is you are a gift to the world. The world needs you and your talents and skills.

Take charge of your life today by counting the blessings.

 

Tony Rhoton – Mentor, Coach, Speaker – American Fork, UT

5 Steps to Change Your Life

You have a story right now that is playing over and over. This story is holding you back, and you need to change it so you can change your life.

What are you struggling with right now? What’s the story with this struggle, describe it in detail, so you are aware of it and all of the nuances.? You need to know where you are at so you can identify where you want to go.

For example, let’s say you want to release of some of your weight.

Here’s the process you will go through:

Step 1 – Current Story

Write your thoughts and experiences about losing weight. Did you have success before? What happened? Why didn’t you keep it off? Detail your emotions around weight, be very specific. What patterns do you follow every day?

Step 2 – Shred Old Story

You’ve just discovered some harsh things, and it may be difficult to write them down. Did you find that you have a freezer full of ice cream, candy on the counters? Are you eating because you’re hungry or for comfort? Facing these realities is challenging because we recognize traits you may not like about yourself. Now shred it, tear it up, stomp on it and yell at the top of your lungs, this is my old story. I’m changing this story. I no longer want this story.

Step 3 – Burn or Throw it Away

After venting all of your frustration towards this story and emotions that were holding you back, throw it away. You need to burn or throw this shredded up old story away. While throwing it away, say to yourself, I’m changing my story.

Step 4 – Write Your New Story

Now you know where you are at, where do you want to go? How many pounds do you want to let go? Remember we don’t want to lose weight, let it go. Write your story as if it’s the end of the year, what happened? Where are you? How much do you weigh? Are you happy, healthy, fit and energetic? Describe in as much detail while this was the best year ever and how you were able to accomplish so much.

Step 5 – Read Your Story

Change your life by reading your story over and over. Record it on your phone and listen to it over and over, memorize this story and start choosing to live this story. You have the choice.

Use this pattern and principle I explained above of writing down the old story, shred, burn/throw it away, write the new story and read unanimously for helping with any struggle.

When you know where you are at, you can understand where we want to go to change your life.

Start to change your life today.

You’re amazing, believe it!

Tony Rhoton – Mentor, Coach, Speaker • American Fork, Utah

Took Action – Acted On a Prompting

Last night was a fantastic night because I moved on a prompting I received several months ago and took action. Yes, you read that right, several months ago. In February I received a thought that I should do online group coaching. I pushed it off for several reasons:

* I don’t have a way to accept payment.

* Nobody will join.

* I need to make sure I have all of the right tools.

* My videos need to be improved.

The list goes on and on about why I did not open a beta version of the online group coaching.

Fast forward to yesterday, I still had those same concerns, but I kept getting promptings. I went through an exercise of writing a letter to your Higher Power, for me, it’s a loving Heavenly Father.

I wrote the letter, and then after a day, I sat back down to receive the inspiration. One thing that hit me as I was writing down the thoughts that were coming to me is this,

“You need to take action on the things I have told you to do.”

What a punch in the gut, but a good one. I realized I had received a lot of inspired thoughts, but I was not taking action on any of them. How do I expect to receive continuous guidance and direction if I don’t take action?

Tonight I took action.

Look at the first video above, the video and quality are not the best, and neither is the content, but I took action. I did it and no longer waiting for the right moment!

What are you allowing to hold you back because you want it to be perfect? Are you preventing yourself from making progress because of the idea of perfection?

Faith is an action word, and you need to take action on your dreams. Don’t allow some false idea to hold you back from achieving your goals; take action today.

Learn more about the beta membership program I’m offering, here. I’m only allowing 25 members in this beta group, and it will never be offered this low again.

I look forward to helping you.

Tony Rhoton – Mentor, Coach and Speaker

Spring Brings Renewal – Design Your Life

What part of your life do you need to bring renewal: spiritual, social, emotional or physical? It’s so important to be happy for yourself and not relying on anyone else to make you happy. You can’t rely on any external resources to bring you happiness. Happiness is a state of being, you don’t arrive there. You decide that you want to be happy.

Look at where you’re at be grateful for the rain shine, be grateful for where you’re at; be grateful for who you are. Make a decision today to improve your life by designing it to be what you want it to be. It’s important to focus on designing your life and not just let life happen.

How many times do you react to life, without being aware or mindful of it? What did you do today to design your life? Where did you put some focus on making you and your life be who you want to be?

Don’t Take My Freedom of Choice Away!

Yesterday I received a notice from American Fork City that I had to get rid of 4 of my chickens. The joy my chickens bring to me is immense, I love my chickens. I have ten chickens because that’s what I need to support my family but they said I could only have 6, Grrrrrrrr!

I am not very happy. Matter-of-fact, I’m extremely upset about it. When something like this happens, I always try to look at the lesson’s I need to learn and if I’m doing anything that is similar.

Lesson Learned

Of course, once I start searching, I realize I am doing the same thing to my children. I’m getting rid of their choice. I recognized that I did not like the fact that I did not have a choice, the city is telling me I have to do this, Grrrrrrr!

Freedom is paramount for happiness, and I feel the city is taking mine away, and I’m not happy. This realization helped me to acknowledge that, at times, I have removed my children’s freedom of choice and they don’t like it. Hmmm, this freedom factor is for every person, no one wants their liberty taken away.

Kharma Bit Me in the Butt

What goes around comes around? This saying took on a whole new meaning as I have been processing the evil actions of the city, Grrrr. As I continue thinking about the entire thing, I have identified that I need to give my children choice. There’s a reaction to every action, but I still need to allow them to choose.

Challenge

Look at your life and search for areas where you are removing the freedom of choice from someone and start implementing changes today. Obviously, you need to be smart about this, you can’t have a baby make decisions, but you can begin to encourage your children, colleagues, friends, and family to make choices.

Action Steps:

* Where are you removing choices?

* How can you allow the persons that you’re removing choice from, have the freedom of choice?

* What areas of your life do you feel like you have no choice and identify how you feel about it?

 

Tony Rhoton – Speaker, Mentor, and Coach – 801.787.5765

Teach Others to Go, Do and Accomplish, NOT Stop!

The other day, I was watching my daughter’s softball game. The first three girls got up and struck out, no fouls, nothing, just swing, and miss. The other team was pretty good, and they had our pitcher timed, and they were smacking the ball.

The next inning, three up and three down, strike one, two, three. You could tell the girls were frustrated and down on themselves. Our pitcher was getting exhausted because she’s not getting the rest her arm needs. Several more runs from the opposing team and then we are up to bat again.

Hit or Sit

The coach pulled one of the girls aside and said,

“If you don’t hit the ball, I’m going to sit you.”

The poor young girl, already nervous, now has even more pressure. She gets up to the plate, strike one, strike two, strike three; you’re out. To make matters worse, the umpire was animated and would yell it while bringing his right hand and arm down in a slashing motion. I felt like he was cutting her apart. I know he wasn’t meaning to but nonetheless, that motion was like slicing her in half.

Obviously distraught, she goes into the dugout crying, and she did sit the next inning.

I was fuming that the coach would do this. The pain and pressure young women receive in life is hard enough, he doesn’t need to add to this pain.

I Held My Tongue

The next inning we are pitching and the ball is going high, low and all over the place, our pitcher’s arm is hurting.

The coach walks out and calls all of the girls in, and the umpire calls the game.

Game over, what?

There’s still 42 minutes left in the game. Not wanting to create a scene, I accept it, and I move forward. I pick up my daughter, and we are traveling home, and she told me about the coach saying, “You girls weren’t hitting the ball anyway, so I told them we were done.”

Fuming

I was fuming because of the message he is sending to the girls:

* When life is hard, give up.

* If you’re not performing your best, give up.

* When you’re down, give up.

The negative messages go on, and on that the girls received. In my frustration, I come home and compose a letter to the head coach. I expressed my disappointment and what he was teaching the girls, etc.

After composing the message, I went back and edited it, and did some more editing, and even more editing. Eventually I sent the email and felt good; however I started to think,

Grateful for Lesson Learned

“Am I doing this to my children? Am I telling or teaching them to give up or quit?”

Unfortunately, the answer was, yes!

Here I was lambasting the coach for his cruelty and the negative message he was sending to the girls when I was no better. I recognized many times when I would tell my son to stop doing this or that, instead of saying, make sure you clean up your mess. I would say, “Stop.”

I am now grateful to that coach because he helped me to realize I need to be mindful and aware of my thoughts and actions. I need to cease saying, “Stop,” unless it’s an emergency, harmful or dangerous.

The word, ‘Stop’ should only be used when your child is in danger, or doing something that could be harmful.

Challenge

Look at your life, what areas are you holding your children and loved ones back? What are you saying, ‘Stop’ to? How can you improve your communication to say go, do and accomplish greatness?

You’re amazing, believe it!

 

Tony Rhoton – Mentor,

Beginning Step on How You “Lose Weight”

It’s astounding how much we sabotage ourselves with our thoughts. There are so many times we allow our thoughts to go rogue on us. We don’t think about what we are saying. When it comes to losing weight, think about that word, lose or lost. Did you lose weight? Do you want it back? Are you missing it?

I was sitting with a client that I mentor, and she was expressing how she wants to lose weight. The more I thought about this phrase, I asked her, do you want it back? Do you want to lose the weight to find it again?

Thoughts Matter

I know this seems almost ridiculous but when you think about the power of the mind, our thoughts matter.

Throughout your life,  you’ve lost things like:

* Keys

* Purse

* Wallet

Our brain knows that if we lose something, we want to find it. We want to find it, to get whatever it is we lost back. When you say, I lost weight or I want to lose weight; we are also saying we want to find it.

Your weight has become a part of who you are. If you try to deny it, you’re just lying about your past, and your brain knows it. The process you need to go through is retraining the brain.

Step 1 – Acknowledge It

Acknowledge that you have your weight and it has served its purpose in helping you to cope with life’s challenges. Yes, literally thank it for helping you but now you are going to tell it, the weight, its purpose was served and you are letting it go now.

Step 2 – Letting Weight Go

Weight is going to want to stay around because you have had it as part of your life for years, don’t let it. You need to write your story about how weight served you and now how letting go of weight will serve you more.

It is critical to write the story you want. Why do you want to let go of weight? What is weight doing to you? After you identify the full story, create the new story. Start out this way:

Letting go of weight will help me by …

Step 3 – Declare

Declare to your mind, body, and emotions the new story and create a declaration to say/read to yourself every day. Your brain is used to weight being there as a coping mechanism and turning to food when things are tough. You are going to retrain your brain with this declaration.

Here’s an example of a declaration to read every time you want to grab additional food or dessert.

I am a powerful (insert gender) and I am no longer needing weight to help me cope with my challenges. I have new coping mechanisms by writing, walking, etc… that serve me better. Weight served it’s purpose but is no longer part of my future because I am a stronger person today than I was yesterday.

Create your own declaration but read it every day, morning and night. I recommend reading this, memorizing it so you can say it all the time. You may be used to eating, three, four or more cookies now just eat one or two. You’ve trained your brain that it’s okay to eat several bowls of ice cream, cereal, sweets, etc., now tell your brain that you only need one.

You are the author of your story, what do you want to write?

Weight is something you choose to let go or release but not lose because you don’t want to find it again.

You’re amazing, believe it!

Tony Rhoton – Mentor, Speaker, Coach 801.787.5765

Design Your Life – Get Mentally Unstuck – Get Rid of Negative Limiting Beliefs

Read the article, as I go step by step to get rid of limiting beliefs.

How to Get Rid of Negative or Limiting Beliefs

Today’s video podcast is about limiting beliefs. I recognized I had one that was holding me back, jealousy. The more I improve myself, the more I discover thoughts that are holding me back. In today’s post, I want to give you the six steps for getting rid of limiting, negative beliefs that are holding you back.

Step 1 – Recognize

The first step to any problem or challenge is to recognize it. You need to acknowledge it’s there, don’t try to ignore it or say it doesn’t exist because it does. If you try to ignore the negative thought, it will persist and just create more problems, anxiety, overwhelm, stress, depression and so much more.

Recognize it, acknowledge that you have it and now move to step 2.

Step 2 – Write

After you have recognized the limiting beliefs and acknowledged that you have this limiting belief, write it down. You want to take the time to write down everything you can that surrounds that belief. The more details you write down explaining how it makes you feel, etc., the better. Don’t hold back!

Again, if you try to hold back, you are missing an essential part of the healing process. Write it down and go wherever your brain takes you, just let it flow.

Now that you have recognized the negative thought or belief and written it down, go to step 3.

Step 3 – Rewrite

The story you just wrote is the story that your brain has created over the years. It’s time to rewrite the story to be what you want it to be.

* What’s the relationship you want to have with the limiting belief?

* Do you want it to continue to hold you back?

* Are you okay with what it’s doing to you?

* How would you like to handle this belief?

* What is the story you want, that’s going to serve you?

This rewrite is essential because you need to teach your brain what the new story is, the new story around your negative belief. Here’s an example I had of a limiting belief with fear:

Fear is holding me back. I hate fear, it drives me crazy. Why does it have such a grasp on me? I just hate it….

This negativity was a small part of my story around fear. As you can tell, nothing is serving me. In my original story about, ‘fear’ I am allowing/teaching it to:

* Hold me back.

* Hate.

* Drive me crazy.

* Grasp on to me.

* And more hate.

As I wrote about it, I understand the dangers of using such strong words, that are not enabling, encouraging or supporting my dreams or goals.

Here’s the rewrite that encourages and supports me.

Fear and I have come to a mutual understanding and it’s a great one. He shows up to help me realize I’m growing and building but has agreed not to hold me back. I use fear to encourage me because I want to be the best at what I’m doing and I want to help thousands and thousands of people. Fear helped me understand that without him, I would not realize that I was growing and how to grow next. I have increased my friendship with fear and acknowledge that he needs me and I need him and together, we are unstoppable.

In this rewrite, you can see that I have taken this limiting belief, which was holding me back, driving me crazy and had a grasp on me. I have changed it to:

* We have a mutual understanding.

* He helps me realize I’m growing and building.

* Fear has agreed not to hold me back.

* Fear is encouraging me.

* Helping me be the best and reach out to thousands of people.

* Increased my understanding of growth and how to grow.

* A friendship that together we are unstoppable.

Finding a Higher Power is a Journey

Finding your higher power may seem like a journey that will never end, at least that’s what some people feel like. You are on a journey to improve your life, finding your higher power is part of that journey because we must have a belief in something greater than yourself to receive guidance.

The journey could be a short trip but if you’re like most people, it could take awhile.

(I am rushing off to watch my daughters softball game I will finish this post later

Creating Happiness; Pursuit of Happiness

I have been going through a process trying to figure I am doing this. Why do I want to help teens, adults, and families find hope, happiness, and purpose of life? In this process, I did some journaling, and I would like to share some of it with you:

Q: Who is it that I want to help?

A: Teens, Adults, and Families

Q: Why do you want to help teens?

A: There are a lot of problems and challenges in the world. I see too many teens suffer from depression, anxiety and overwhelm. They need to know how to manage and process those feelings. The more they manage the negative emotions they have, the better they can find joy happiness, love, and purpose in life. The more they see joy and happiness, the more healing and purpose they will experience so that they can help others.

Q: Why do you want to help teens experience more happiness?

A: Joy and happiness come from creation, and as human beings, we are the ultimate creators. Creators find immense happiness, creating a vision, building their life. Establishing love, safety, which eliminates the pain, headache, and suffering. Yes, it’s possible to when we are in creation mode.

If a person can focus on creating even small successes in life, happiness, joy, and love abound.

Q: A lot of people would say you have a boring life, what is it that you do?

A: I love my life. It’s simple, but I love it. I don’t fancy traveling around the world right now. Right now I am enjoying taking care of my family, those I mentor and my chickens. I love teaching techniques and speaking about skills that can promote healing. However, most of all, I love watching each person I work with transform.

Q: Why do you like watching those you mentor go through a transformation?

A: It’s what life is all about, being the best we can be, helping others and enjoying the journey. When someone transforms, you see them change from who they were to someone different. It’s not like they become a different person, but they become a happier, healthier, more confident person. They become creators, and you see the light in their eyes shine brightly as they help others.

I’ve watched someone who was depressed, suicidal, feeling like there was no purpose to life completely change. She became a confident, empowering, encouraging individual and now she’s spreading it to her friends.

When you help one person, you help generations.

Summation

In summary, This process of trying to understand why I am doing what I am doing was a phenomenal experience. I recognized that an essential part of what I need to do is help you become a creator. I can help you become a creator by letting go of your past struggles and challenges and empower you for the future. If you discover how to utilize your past as a force to push you, doors of joy, hope, and healing open up all around you.

I hope you realize you’re amazing, believe it.

Please go out and create something today.

 

Tony Rhoton – Life Mentor, Coach and Speaker 801.787.5765