Not that you won’t make mistakes now and again, but something I say often inside my programs is that your truth is your truth.  Your experience is your experience and nobody can take that away from you.

Other people’s ways of doing things don’t have to be the right way for you.  I’ve struggled with this in terms of my emotions and feelings and also with what I know to be true.  I hope that by sharing this today you can gain some clarity.

About a year ago I had a tense emotional family situation going on and I had to learn how to face my emotions.  I couldn’t numb them, and it wasn’t wrong to have them.  I was right to feel how I was feeling, because my emotions were valid.  It doesn’t matter if someone else makes you think you’re wrong to have those emotions.  You feel what you feel and that’s that.

The second part of this is that really, deep down you know what you want.  Before you got buried under stories and experiences, you always knew what you ultimately wanted out of life. It’s okay to hold onto what you know is true!  You don’t need validation or proof to stick to your truth. Sometimes, it really can be that simple.

I’d love to hear from you.  Like really, you!  You can text me at 848-257-5301 to say hi, let me know what you’d like to hear, and get a great conversation going.  You can tag me on Instagram @saradann_ about what your biggest takeaway from this episode was, or you can visit my website at sara-dann.com.

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Back in 2017 I was on a call with a mentor and she said to me, “discipline equals freedom.” Those 3 words changed a lot of things for me and because of the shifts I’ve been feeling lately, I thought it was time to revisit the topic.

Because really, it’s so much harder to overthink how to do something, or why something isn’t doing what you want, than it is to just do the thing.  I’m super guilty of this, and I bet you are sometimes too.  I’ve let some of my discipline slide in terms of time blocking, getting things done, and  I’ve realized that I’ve been rebelling against myself.  The kinder thing to do is to honor my commitments to myself rather than letting myself have the guilty pleasure of saying no.

If you’re rebelling against your own schedule, look at what past experiences or traumas are coming up and making you feel like you need to rebel.  Who do you want to be? Then be her. Stick to the decisions you’ve made for yourself because you deserve it.

Re-examine your relationship with the word “discipline” and seek how being more disciplined can create a whole lot of freedom for you.

I’d love to hear from you.  Like really, you!  You can text me at 848-257-5301 to say hi, let me know what you’d like to hear, and get a great conversation going.  You can tag me on Instagram @saradann_ about what your biggest takeaway from this episode was, or you can visit my website at sara-dann.com.

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I was scrolling through Pinterest the other day and this quote popped up. “When a pattern is finally coming to an end, especially one that’s been held in your body for a long time, that’s also when you’ll face the most fear and the most resistance because being set free actually feels incredibly uncomfortable and unsafe in relation to continuing to play out what you’ve always known.”  I couldn’t find an actual source for this, so if you know who I can credit this to let me know!

That statement kind of slapped me in the face, in a way.  I’ve told myself the same thing and experienced the truth of it many times before with relationship stuff, business stuff as I’ve discussed, body stuff, and before the uplevel often comes the breakdown.  And it’s definitely uncomfortable to let go of the familiar. It can even spark a little grief or sadness to let go of who you used to be, or thought you were in order to make room for better things.

Every single time I’ve had a big moment, it has been prefaced by this time of massive uncertainty, discomfort, and confusion.  Our businesses, our lives, are not straight lines.  There will be moments of struggle and uncertainty.  I’m being transparent about it now because I don’t believe that pretending to be perfect is the way to run your business.  I know that the discomfort that I’m feeling now is going to come to an uplevel and I’m choosing to embrace the ups and downs.

Those moments are crucial for your growth and they’re worth it.  But, you can make it easier on yourself by trying to be an impartial observer to the process rather than getting your emotions all tied up into the changes.  

I’d love to hear from you.  Like really, you!  You can text me at 848-257-5301 to say hi, let me know what you’d like to hear, and get a great conversation going.  You can tag me on Instagram @saradann_ about what your biggest takeaway from this episode was, or you can visit my website at sara-dann.com.

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I’ve been watching Sex Life on Netflix and the main character stands for so much of what I agree with, so I was inspired to bring the conversation to you.  Societal norms have this set path of school, college, marriage, babies, staying at home with the babies and being loyal to their spouse for the rest of their lives.  

What has come up in the show and what I want to discuss today is that it’s okay to admit that you want more out of your life.  There’s nothing wrong with that path if that’s what you want, but if that’s not what you want, or not all that you want, it’s okay to admit that you might want more than what you currently have.  And it’s okay to say that out loud.  It’s okay to acknowledge that you get to strive for everything you want.

In my opinion, granted that there are many different circumstances around cheating on a partner, in general it comes down to not being happy in their situation, wanting something more, and looking outside for something they think they want.  As a collective we’re not taught to express our desires in our relationships, business, life in general.

I want to remind you today that in every aspect of your life, it’s your job to say what you want, own what you want, know what you want, and expect what you want.  When you allow things to be subpar, little by little you lose yourself.  You may end up getting emotional and letting resentment get the best of you when the kindest thing to do is speak your desires so everyone is on the same page.

I want to challenge you in every aspect of your life to find where you can be happier, and fucking go after it.  You have permission to find a workaround for the things that are really important to you.  

I’d love to hear from you.  Like really, you!  You can text me at 848-257-5301 to say hi, let me know what you’d like to hear, and get a great conversation going.  You can tag me on Instagram @saradann_ about what your biggest takeaway from this episode was, or you can visit my website at sara-dann.com.

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My week got thrown for a loop and as I was sitting in the emergency vet, I ended up asking myself the same questions I asked you recently: What is the kindest thing I can do for myself right now?  What would I do right now if I had a billion dollars in my bank account? The answers were immediately clear.  I need a break!

We all deserve a break when we need one.  I’m not taking a week off entirely though.  I’m going to take a Wealth Week for myself to take my foot off the gas, clean up some back end in my business, get reoriented in my business, do some brainstorming, and make sure that everything is truly aligned, touch base with my team, things like that.  I don’t have an aversion to the word “hustle,” but I understand how it can start to feel like a hamster wheel.  You’re not doing yourself any favors by burning yourself out.

Taking a Wealth Week for myself allows me to get excited about my message and my offers again.  It’s proven over and over again that it really works to slow down so you can speed up.  You don’t have to stay on the hamster wheel!  Get yourself a Wealth Week!

I’d love to hear from you.  Like really, you!  You can text me at 848-257-5301 to say hi, let me know what you’d like to hear, and get a great conversation going.  You can tag me on Instagram @saradann_ about what your biggest takeaway from this episode was, or you can visit my website at sara-dann.com.

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Real talk here: a lot of us struggle with decision fatigue more than we even realize.  I’m proud of my ability to see things from different angles, but sometimes it turns into a ping-pong match in my head.  

Back when I was marketing a lot in my facebook group, we had this formula of 6 posts a day - 2 gives, 2 give-and-asks, and 2 asks.  It was never a “this formula will transform your business” thing, but when I put it together I was spending all my mental energy worrying about how many posts I had made, what else I should say, reinventing the wheel every day.  It saved me to set up a process for myself to just fill in the blanks and not have to make all those decisions every day.

That’s what systems can do for you too. When I decided to simplify and only sell Monday thru Friday and take weekends to recharge, I expected to make less money because I was working less.  What really happened was that we made more money and more sales because I was putting better energy into my marketing and I wasn’t exhausted by it!

There isn’t a magic bullet template for this, the point is just to make a decision and stick with it.  Give yourself the gift of making fewer decisions, by making more decisions rather than overthinking everything and wearing yourself out without doing any real action.

I’d love to hear from you.  Like really, you!  You can text me at 848-257-5301 to say hi, let me know what you’d like to hear, and get a great conversation going.  You can tag me on Instagram @saradann_ about what your biggest takeaway from this episode was, or you can visit my website at sara-dann.com.

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My sister, a friend, and I went to see one of our favorite cover bands recently and we were talking about relationships and how chance meetings turned into much more.  The common theme was that all of those people could have met earlier, but they didn’t really connect until the time was right.

Point being, your job is to put yourself out there and create openings.  The same thing happens with business.  Yes we need to work on our businesses, but we can’t force things to come together.  There is no one individual action that’ll get you all the results.  Do your best with each action, but you can trust that the right people will find you at the right time. You can try to control everything to rush your desired results, but sometimes the best things come in the most unexpected ways.

You can have faith that your consistent action will bring along what you’re meant for.  Stick with what you know in your heart is right, and the possibilities are always available to you.  

I’d love to hear from you.  Like really, you!  You can text me at 848-257-5301 to say hi, let me know what you’d like to hear, and get a great conversation going.  You can tag me on Instagram @saradann_ about what your biggest takeaway from this episode was, or you can visit my website at sara-dann.com.

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I can appreciate the sentiment when someone says “good vibes only,” but there’s a better way to deal with frustrations.  More realistically, we’re all striving for balance and the most positive way of being, but that’s not the same as toxic positivity.

In those moments when we feel like our best selves, we won’t be triggered by others because we’re so secure in our own being.  That’s what I mean by “neutral vibe.” When I’m feeling activated or uncomfortable, feeling non-neutral in a situation, it gives me a gauge of how far I need to go to get back to my unbothered state.  There’s no reason to get too emotional when shit hits the fan.  

Holding this neutral energy takes the pressure off.  When it comes to food, money, scheduling, decisions, it’s so easy to let the frustration fester.  It’s not easy to hold a neutral vibe, but it makes everything else easier because you are so calm, collected, and confident.

Of course it’s not realistic to hold this 24/7, but when you do get triggered or activated it’s easier to see what the problem actually is.  

I’d love to hear from you.  Like really, you!  You can text me at 848-257-5301 to say hi, let me know what you’d like to hear, and get a great conversation going.  You can tag me on Instagram @saradann_ about what your biggest takeaway from this episode was, or you can visit my website at sara-dann.com.

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Being supported, how to let go of control, and everything related.  I want you to understand how much you are probably stunting your growth by not allowing yourself to give up some control and be supported.  You do NOT have to do everything by yourself.

I hear about this struggle from my clients all the time.  The first point for this, and everything honestly, is you need to not only know what you want, but also own what you want.  There is nothing wrong with you checking in with your gut about how you want everything to go.  Acknowledging that humans are imperfect and mistakes will happen, it’s okay for you to aim for the ideal situation.  

Stop acting like the support you get in your life is completely out of your control.  I want you to command the scenario that’s going to align with your life and your business.  You are steering the ship and anyone you pay needs to be on board with you.  But women, you don’t have to be cold, calculating career bitch or the Stepford mom - you can be somewhere in the middle!  

Don’t be afraid to be clear.  The people that support you can’t read your mind.  They do want to do a good job for you, but you do need to be clear in your instructions so that frustrations can’t get in the way.  It’s not unkind to set expectations, but it can be unkind to let someone struggle trying to please you.

At the end of the day, it’s our job to steer the ship.  There’s a difference between being controlling and being in control.  There’s a sweet spot between holding the vision and intentionally hiring smart, capable people that have strengths and ideas.  You get to have people in your corner that you trust to open up to with vulnerability.

I want you to really acknowledge and admit to yourself that those things you’re doing on your own, aren’t really easier to do on your own.  Let’s be real - are you more comfortable doing things on your own, because it means keeping the control?  Are you using work as a way to numb yourself to the shit that’s going on in your life?  The cycle won’t stop until you choose to stop it. You have permission to acknowledge what’s going on and feel your feelings. Business success doesn't mean anything if you're not living the life you want to live.

I’d love to hear from you.  Like really, you!  You can text me at 848-257-5301 to say hi, let me know what you’d like to hear, and get a great conversation going.  You can tag me on Instagram @saradann_ about what your biggest takeaway from this episode was, or you can visit my website at sara-dann.com.

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I’m breaking down the most important parts I want you to understand about changing things in your business.  If you didn’t catch Part 1, go back an episode and listen there first!

Even though my business made money last year, it was still a really difficult year and I’ve learned a ton.  If it’ll save you some time to hear what I had to learn the hard way, it’s worth it!

Tip #5: Stop making declarative statements.  I’ve had a tendency to declare to the world how things are going to go in an attempt to keep accountable. Thing is, you don’t have to put the pressure on yourself if you change your mind later.  Allow yourself to go with the flow.  You’re the boss, remember?

Tip #6: When you make changes, calm down and zoom out, and look at what is actually a big deal and what is not.  Odds are, most of your audience won’t even notice.  Pay attention to where you’re making something heavier than it needs to be.  A shift doesn’t require a big production, and sometimes we can just let things go.

Tip #7: Sacrifice is not required.  Struggles do happen, losing momentum happens, but freaking out about is going to prolong the struggle.  If you just decide that you’re going to bounce back bigger than ever, then you absolutely can do it.  If you need to slow things down and take a break so that you can speed up, then that’s okay.

Tip #8: The truth is, when you go all in, you win.  I know that’s corny and it rhymes. When you make decisions, it’s important that you believe in those decisions and stick to them.  Changes can be scary, but when you decide to do something, don’t doubt that it’ll work because it won’t.  Second guessing and looking backwards doesn’t work either - the only way to go is forward.  When you’ve accepted defeat, the gamechanging ideas won’t come to you.  

Your most important job is to believe.  Believing that you can have the outcome that you want is going to dictate your actions and strategy.  If you show up not believing you can have what you want, you won’t get what you want and you won’t do what it takes to get it.

I’d love to hear from you.  Like really, you!  You can text me at 848-257-5301 to say hi, let me know what you’d like to hear, and get a great conversation going.  You can tag me on Instagram @saradann_ about what your biggest takeaway from this episode was, or you can visit my website at sara-dann.com.

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