If your ex’s attorney is loud, aggressive, or constantly stirring up drama, it’s easy to panic. Especially if your attorney is calm, measured, and quiet. You start wondering—am I losing?

In this episode, divorce coach Corey Shapiro breaks down the third divorce attorney style: The Boxer. Not flashy. Not chaotic. But steady, strategic, and ready to strike—only when it counts.

You’ll learn:

What a “Boxer” attorney looks like (and why they might seem disengaged)

Why tactical silence can be stronger than reactive noise

How to know if your attorney is playing defense—or building a quiet offense

What questions to ask if you’re unsure who’s really fighting for you

Power Line:
“You’re not losing. You’re lasting.”

Because lasting takes more strength than lashing out.

Next Steps:

Ask your attorney: Are we being tactical or just quiet?

Get clear on the plan. If they’re prepping depositions, trial outlines, or settlement proposals—they’re moving.

If they’re not? It might be time for a second opinion.

Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).

Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorced

Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.

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For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.