Am I Becoming Someone I Don’t Want to Be?

That’s the question Zane wrestles with in this deeply honest episode as he hits a major crossroads in his dating journey.

After seeing real progress from following advice from the The Unapologetic Man Podcast and reading No More Mr. Nice Guy, Zane starts questioning whether the “game” side of dating advice is helping him grow—or turning him into someone he doesn’t respect.

A conversation with his therapist sparks everything when the therapist suggests some dating tactics may feel manipulative or inauthentic. That forces Zane to confront a hard truth:

Is he learning confidence… or just learning how to perform?

This episode is about choosing between short-term tactics and long-term authenticity—and figuring out what kind of man you actually want to become.

Zane shares a brutally honest story about progress not always being linear.

After building confidence approaching women, he attended a singles mixer expecting things to go well… and completely bombed.

He approached attractive women with no hesitation—but quickly realized confidence wasn’t the issue anymore. His real problem? Interview mode.

Instead of flirting, joking, and creating attraction, he kept falling into boring conversations about jobs, routines, and surface-level questions that killed any chemistry.

In this episode, Zane breaks down:

* Why his latest singles mixer felt like a huge setback

* The harsh realization that confidence wasn’t his biggest issue anymore

* How “interview mode” ruins attraction

* Why talking too fast makes conversations worse

* His tendency to overperform and try too hard to impress women

* Why he’s shifting toward slower conversations and stronger flirting

* The mindset shift from “please like me” to “impress me”

* Why failure gives you the exact feedback you need to improve

This episode is all about learning from setbacks, identifying weaknesses, and continuing to improve—even when progress feels messy.

Sometimes the biggest breakthrough comes right after an embarrassing failure.

One rep at a time.

Zane shares a mindset shift that completely changed how he views dating: dating is a game—and that’s actually a good thing.

For years, he hated the idea of “playing games” with women. It felt fake, frustrating, and unfair. Why couldn’t people just be direct?

Then he realized the real reason he hated dating being a game: he didn’t know how to play it.

In this episode, Zane breaks down how dating is a lot like football, video games, school, or anything else that feels frustrating before you understand the rules. Once you learn the strategy, improve your skills, and put yourself in enough real-life reps—you can actually win.

If you’ve ever felt frustrated, behind, or confused when it comes to women—this episode is your reminder that dating is a skill game.

And skills can be learned.

One rep at a time.

Zane shares real proof that the work is paying off.

From approaching a girl at the gym without overthinking, to getting multiple phone numbers in just a few weeks, he breaks down how small, consistent actions are finally turning into real results.

This episode is all about momentum—what happens when you stop hesitating, start taking action, and shift your mindset from insecurity to confidence.

Zane covers:

* His latest gym approach (and what he learned from it)

* How he went from zero to multiple numbers in weeks

* Why “approach and eject” actually works

* The mindset shift that kills approach anxiety

* Why rejection isn’t about you

* A simple strategy that helped him stand out at speed dating

* What he’s still struggling with (and fixing next)

If you’re on the fence about improving with women, this is your sign: it works—but only if you actually do it.

Zane introduces a new mindset that changes everything: treating dating like a game—specifically, “Road to Glory” mode from NCAA 06.

Instead of expecting instant success, he breaks down how improving with women is really about reps, decisions, and steady progress over time. Just like leveling up in a game, you have to choose between growth… or distraction.

In this episode, Zane talks about:

* Why dating is a long-term progression, not instant results

* The difference between “practice mode” and real-life reps

* How small daily decisions shape your success with women

* Letting go of past resentment and rebuilding confidence

* Why he lost his natural edge—and how he’s getting it back

* The balance between self-improvement and real-world action

If you’ve ever felt stuck, frustrated, or behind with women—this episode reframes the entire process.

👉 Stop waiting for results. Start stacking reps.

After returning from a trip to Germany, Zane dives into a major mindset shift sparked by reading No More Mr. Nice Guy.

In this episode, he breaks down how childhood experiences shaped his “nice guy” tendencies—and how those patterns are still affecting his confidence, dating life, and relationships with women today.

Zane gets real about:

* Why constantly seeking approval is holding him back

* How being “too nice” can kill attraction

* The hidden downside of always putting others first

* Why he struggles to express his true personality and desires

* The importance of male role models and mentorship

* What it actually means to stop being a “nice guy” (without becoming a jerk)

This episode is a turning point: less people-pleasing, more authenticity, and learning to put his own needs first—one rep at a time.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding back who you really are… this one will hit.

In this episode, I officially rebrand the podcast and lean fully into the journey: getting better with women—one rep at a time.

I talk about where I started, why dating apps and events weren’t working, and how I’m now forcing myself to meet women in real life. Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve seen real progress—getting phone numbers, holding better conversations, and learning what actually works (and what kills attraction).

I break down:

* Moving from “approach and eject” to real conversations

* How being too analytical ruins interactions

* The shift from interview mode → playful/flirty energy

* A real-life date that fell apart—and why it was still a win

* My first true direct approach (and how it felt)

This episode is about momentum, facing fear, and leveling up socially through real reps—not theory.

If you’ve ever struggled with approaching women or relied too much on apps, this is a real-time look at what it actually takes to improve.

In this follow-up episode, I give a real update on my decision to quit porn and what’s actually happened since.

Six weeks in, I break down what’s changed—mentally, physically, and in my day-to-day life. From increased confidence and focus to a completely different mindset around women, I’m starting to see how much this habit was affecting me without realizing it.

I also talk about:

• What the first few weeks were really like

• The one relapse and what I learned from it

• How my confidence and energy have improved

• Changes in my mindset toward dating and sex

• Why quitting porn shifted the direction of this podcast

• Practical strategies that actually helped me stick with it

This isn’t a perfect success story—it’s a real-time update on what happens when you actually follow through on a decision to change.

If you’ve ever wondered whether habits like this are holding you back, this episode might give you some clarity.

In this episode, I break down a major realization I’ve had about why I’ve struggled with women for so long: weak frame and people-pleasing.

I share a real story where I completely folded under pressure—changing myself to impress women instead of standing on my own beliefs—and how that mindset has been showing up in almost every interaction I’ve had.

Now I’m starting to understand what actually creates attraction: confidence, playfulness, and not needing approval.

I’m not teaching this—I’m learning it in real time. And I’m starting to see how big of a shift this could be.

This is a follow-up on belief systems—but this time, I’m getting real about how the wrong mindset kept me stuck in a relationship I should’ve walked away from.

I break down how I put a woman on a pedestal, ignored red flags, and convinced myself she was “the best I could do”—all because of a belief that I wasn’t worthy of anything better.

Looking back, the reality was the opposite.

This episode is about how powerful (and dangerous) your beliefs can be—especially when it comes to dating, self-worth, and the standards you accept.

This is what happens when your beliefs are off—and how everything starts to change when you fix them.