Better Husband

017|Defensiveness Is Ruining Your Marriage—Here’s How to Fix It


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Ever feel like every conversation with your wife turns into a debate? Like no matter what you say, you’re under attack—and your first instinct is to defend yourself?

Defensiveness is one of the biggest communication killers in marriage. It shuts down connection, escalates conflict, and pushes your wife further away. The good news? You can learn to respond differently—and completely change the dynamic of your relationship.

In today’s episode, I’ll show you exactly how to break free from defensiveness so you can communicate with confidence, listen without reacting, and build a stronger connection with your wife.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why defensiveness is a natural reaction—and why it’s keeping you stuck.
✅ The hidden triggers that make men feel attacked (even when their wife isn’t trying to).
✅ A 4-step strategy to respond without shutting down or fighting back.
✅ How to handle conflict in a way that makes your wife feel heard and respected.
✅ What to do when it’s your wife who gets defensive.

Key Takeaways:

💡 Defensiveness might feel like self-protection, but it actually creates more conflict.
💡 Your reaction is your responsibility—you don’t have to defend yourself every time.
💡 Slowing down, validating, and staying present leads to better outcomes.

Practical Action Steps:

1️⃣ Recognize the Pattern – Catch yourself in the moment before you react defensively.
2️⃣ Pause & Breathe – Give yourself space to respond instead of react.
3️⃣ Validate, Don’t Explain – Acknowledge your wife’s feelings without needing to prove your point.
4️⃣ Stay Present & Curious – Shift from self-defense to real connection.
5️⃣ Practice This Daily – The more you do this, the easier it becomes.

Reflection Questions:

❓ When was the last time you got defensive in a conversation with your wife?
❓ What triggers make you feel like you need to defend yourself?
❓ How would your marriage change if you responded with curiosity instead of defensiveness?

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