Better Husband

022|Why “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Working — And the 4 Steps to Real Repair


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You apologized. You meant it. But for some reason, she still seems distant—and nothing feels resolved.

If you’ve ever wondered why your “I’m sorry” doesn’t seem to work, this episode is for you. Most of us were never taught how to truly repair after a rupture in our relationship. We were taught to say the right words and move on. But real repair is deeper—and it changes everything.

In this episode, I’ll show you the 4 steps that make an apology actually count—and help rebuild the trust, safety, and connection your marriage needs.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why quick apologies often make things worse
✅ The 4 essential steps of a real repair process
✅ How to shift from relieving your shame to restoring her safety
✅ What a real apology actually sounds like
✅ The difference between saying sorry and showing change

Key Takeaways:

💡 If your apology doesn’t lead to change, it’s not repair—it’s relief.
💡 Most men apologize for themselves, not for her.
💡 Real repair is a skill—and you can practice it.

Practical Action Steps:

1️⃣ Do an “apology audit” using the 3 reflection questions shared in the episode.
2️⃣ Practice the 4 steps: Ownership, Empathy, Accountability, and Change.
3️⃣ Try the “Five Minute Follow-Up” to deepen your next repair.
4️⃣ Reflect on a past apology—what would you do differently today?
5️⃣ Show your commitment with action, not just words.

Reflection Questions:

❓ Did your last apology focus on her pain—or your discomfort?
❓ How often do your words actually lead to change?
❓ What kind of partner do you want to be in those hard moments?

Ready to Take Action?
🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop → BetterHusbandSecrets.com

Questions?
📩 Email Me[email protected]

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