Better Husband

045|The Cycle That’s Destroying Your Marriage: The Stance–Stance–Dance


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In this episode, we’re breaking down the Stance Stance Dance, the cycle of her push and your withdrawal that keeps you stuck in the same fight over and over. You’ll learn why this pattern is so destructive, how it shows up in daily life, and the practical steps you can take to interrupt it.

Whether you tend to shut down, defend yourself, or wait for the storm to pass, you’ll walk away knowing exactly how to change your stance and by doing so, change the dance.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ What the Stance Stance Dance looks like in real life
✅ Why her push feels like control and your withdrawal feels like abandonment
✅ How each move reinforces the cycle and keeps you both stuck
✅ What relational leadership looks like in the middle of conflict
✅ The four steps you can use this week to start shifting the dance

💡 Key Takeaway:
The cycle is not just hers, and it is not just yours. It is both of you locked into a dance. But the good news is this: it only takes one person to change the rhythm. When you change your stance, the whole dance begins to shift.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1️⃣ Map the last argument. Write out what she did, what you did, and repeat until you see the loop. Focus on the pattern, not the topic.
2️⃣ Choose one interruption point. Circle the moment where you could have done something different.
3️⃣ Practice a new response. Stay steady one beat longer, ask a curious question, or name your urge to withdraw without acting on it.
4️⃣ Reflect afterward. Did you change your stance? Did anything shift in the dance? That is progress.

🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ When she pushes, what is my default move: defend, withdraw, or something else?
❓ What do I imagine she feels when I pull back or shut down?
❓ Where in our last argument could I have made a different move, even a small one?
❓ How might changing my stance change the dance between us?

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Questions?
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