Are you someone who is caught up in telling yourself what you “should” be doing or achieving? Someone once said, “Perfectionism is a trait that makes life an endless report card on accomplishments or looks.” If you or someone you know struggles with perfectionist behaviors or self-shoulding, this episode is for you.

In this episode of “Asking For A Friend," TalkDoc, Meredith and Teighlor identify three types of perfectionism and the danger of high expectations. They identify practical strategies for combating self-shoulding and forcing perfectionism on our children and those around us.   

Music by Epidemic sound.

SHOW NOTES:

EP 57 : Perfectionism - How to Stop Self Shoulding

Experts :   Hewitt and Flett (1991), Ruggeri (2018), Harvard Business Review (2018), Fry and Debats (2006), Bracket and Stern (2020),  Haimovitz and Dweck (2017)

Resources :

Tools : Three types of perfectionism : Hewitt and Flett (1991)

1. Self-oriented : adhere to strict standards while maintaining strong motivation to attain perfection and avoid failure; engage in stringent self-evaluation.

TC4G :  

“It’s the idea that you don’t have to be perfect to be lovable or to be loved.”

1. Find the root cause – which kind of perfectionism are you? (of the three)