Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc

Join hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagle, and Teighlor Polendo in this episode of Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc. They delve into Chapter 9 of Brené Brown's “Atlas of the Heart” which explores the places we go when we search for connection. Covering topics such as belonging, fitting in, connection, disconnection, insecurity, invisibility, and loneliness, the hosts share personal insights and practical advice. 

Hear our conversation about the importance of vulnerability and authenticity in fostering meaningful relationships and discuss the challenges of balancing self-acceptance with the desire to connect with others. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion on creating deeper connections and understanding the complexities of human relationships.

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Brown, Clifton, Maslow

Brene Brown’s Book: Atlas of the Heart

https://brenebrown.com/book/atlas-of-the-heart/

Strengthsfinder 2.0

https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/254033/strengthsfinder.aspx

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs:

https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html

Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome to Asking for a Friend

00:19 Overview of Atlas of the Heart

00:42 Taylor's Personal Connection to Chapter Nine

01:27 Exploring Belonging and Fitting In

04:35 Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and Belonging

08:12 The Importance of Vulnerability in Relationships

17:21 Challenges of Connection and Perfectionism

25:39 Cultivating Deeper Connections

27:28 Conclusion and Podcast Information

In this episode, we welcome Melissa Beck, President of Anonymous, an organization specializing in philanthropic strategies for wealthy families. Melissa discusses the complexities of giving away money effectively, emphasizing the importance of identifying specific goals and passions. She highlights the personal nature of their process, which involves deep, empathetic listening and strategic planning to maximize impact and fulfillment.

Listen in to our conversation as we touch on the challenges and joys of philanthropy, the evolving landscape of generosity, and how even small acts of kindness can profoundly impact lives. Join us as we explore fresh perspectives on generosity, creativity in giving, and how to make a lasting difference.

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About Melissa:

https://www.anonymousllc.com/melissa-beck

About Anonymous Philanthropy:

https://www.anonymousllc.com/who-we-are

Melissa’s Favorite Reads: 

Measure What Matters by John Doerr

https://www.whatmatters.com/

The Power of Moments by Chip and Dan Heath

https://heathbrothers.com/books/the-power-of-moments/

Die with Zero by Bill Perkins

https://www.diewithzerobook.com/welcome

Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara

https://www.unreasonablehospitality.com/

In this episode, we explore the deep-seated impact of comparison on our creativity, happiness, and overall well-being, inspired by the insights of Brené Brown. We dive into Social Comparison Theory, breaking down the differences between upward and downward comparisons, and how each shapes our self-perception and emotional state. Through candid personal stories and actionable strategies—like the practice of gratitude—we reveal the often unnoticed harm that comparison brings to our lives. We'll also share tips on how to shift focus from external benchmarks to personal growth and joy. Join us as we unpack the nuances of comparison and discover ways to cultivate a more fulfilling, self-directed life.

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Dr. Brene Brown, Dr. Leon Festinger

Resources :  

“Comparison is the thief of Joy” - President Theodore Roosevelt

Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown

https://brenebrown.com/book/atlas-of-the-heart/

Overview of Social Comparison Theory:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/social-comparison-theory

In this insightful episode, hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser (TalkDoc), Meredith Edwards Nagle, and Teighlor Polendo dive into the phenomenon of negative sentiment override. Discover how negative experiences can overshadow positive ones in relationships and learn the importance of maintaining a healthy emotional balance. 

This episode offers practical strategies to manage and improve personal interactions, highlighting the psychological impact of negative sentiment override. Through real-life examples and expert advice, the hosts provide valuable insights on fostering better communication and enhancing positivity in the relationships we want to keep. 

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Dr. John Gottman, Gottman Institute

Resources : 

https://www.gottman.com/blog/blame-resentment-and-negative-sentiment-override/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happy-healthy-relationships/202209/is-your-relationship-in-negative-sentiment-override

https://www.emotionstherapycalgary.ca/blog-therapy-calgary-emotions-clinic/negative-sentiment-override#:~:text=A%20negative%20sentiment%20override%20occurs,in%20nurturing%20a%20healthy%20relationship

Join us as we sit down with licensed marriage and family therapist Christopher Faris, who shares his journey from traditional therapy to creating engaging YouTube content on his channel Mort's Garage. In this episode, we delve into imposter syndrome—what it is, where it comes from, and how it affects individuals, especially high achievers. Christopher offers insight into the intersection of anxiety and imposter syndrome and provides practical advice on how to manage and overcome these feelings through exposure to truth, specific praise, and meaningful communication.

Tune in for an informative and relatable discussion that will leave you pondering the depths of your own achievements and self-worth. Whether you're struggling with self-doubt or looking to better understand this pervasive issue, this episode is packed with valuable insights and strategies to help you recognize and combat imposter syndrome. Don't miss out on this opportunity to learn from an expert and take steps toward a more confident, authentic self.

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SHOW NOTES:

Resources : 

Brene Brown on compassion:

https://brenebrown.com/art/atlas-of-the-heart-comparison-is-the-crush-of-conformity-from-one-side-and-competition-from-the-other/

Attachment theory:

https://www.simplypsychology.org/attachment.html

Links :

Mort’s Garage YouTube Channel by Christopher Faris:

https://www.youtube.com/@MortsGarage

Healthy Gamer GG:

https://www.youtube.com/@HealthyGamerGG

In this episode, hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagle, and Teighlor Polendo revisit episode 59 featuring Christopher Faris and Carrie Johnson. The discussion delves into anger management, exploring the nature of anger, its physiological effects, and strategies for controlling emotional responses. Through insightful definitions and personal anecdotes, they emphasize the importance of understanding and managing anger to prevent negative consequences. The hosts also highlight the significance of being curious rather than condemning one's feelings, and the role of emotions in deriving meaning from experiences.

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Link: AFAF Episode #059 Anger Management! How to Tame Your Temper with Christopher Faris and Carrie Johnson

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/d3a4aa5fad6104f0aafc2a80e3cb04dc

In this episode of "Asking for a Friend,” join Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagle, and Teighlor Polendo dive deep into the nuances between direct and indirect communication styles. Through personal experiences, expert insights, and practical examples, they explore why individuals might prefer one method over the other and how these preferences are influenced by cultural backgrounds. The discussion includes an analysis of Cynthia Joyce's article on communication impact, interactive quizzes, and valuable tips for bridging the gap between different communicative approaches. Whether it's navigating breakups, professional settings, or everyday interactions, this episode offers a comprehensive guide to improving communication and relationships.

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Dr. Cynthia Joyce

Resources : 

Dr. Cynthia Joyce’s Chart:

https://conflictmanagement.org.uiowa.edu/sites/conflictmanagement.org.uiowa.edu/files/2020-01/Direct%20and%20Indirect%20Communication.pdf

Huffington Post Article: 

https://www.huffpost.com/archive/ca/entry/how-to-break-up-with-someone_ca_5cd50d35e4b07bc729744f20/amp

Breaking up:

https://news.byu.edu/news/delivering-bad-news-dont-beat-around-bush

Direct vs. Indirect Speech:

https://everydayspeech.com/sel-implementation/pros-and-cons-direct-communication-vs-indirect-communication/

Ending Relationships:

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/254376804_Strategies_for_ending_relationships_Two_studies

Links :

AFAF Episode #027: The Dance of Visibility (Part 1): How to Speak Up!

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/1980a02db6d55a72c46cfe659ca2cb03

AFAF Episode #028: The Dance of Visibility (Part 2): How to Stop Over Explaining!

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/7256cb9fd6ba3bb1893f130453818b47

AFAF Episode #027: The Dance of Visibility (Part 3): Strategic Alignment - How to be a Better Communicator!

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/51e031a91f4867fad1d39e7929d4247a

AFAF Episode #018: Beating Around the Bush - How to Choose Your Words

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/d5be7964f269f49c542b588e21652c8a

In this episode of "Asking for a Friend,” join Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagle, and Teighlor Polendo as they delve into the toxic dynamics of contempt in interpersonal relationships. Dubbed the "worst of the four horsemen" by renowned researcher John Gottman, contempt is a critical indicator of potential relationship demise.

Tune in as we unpack the verbal and non-verbal signs of contempt, its devastating effects on relationships, and its alarming impact on individual health, including heightened vulnerability to infectious diseases. Through engaging discussions, we highlight practical solutions and emphasize the importance of nurturing a culture of appreciation rather than criticism. Featuring real-life examples and personal stories, this episode offers listeners valuable insights into recognizing and addressing contempt in their relationships. Join the conversation and learn how to build healthier, more respectful connections. 

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In this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating world of deception, exaggeration, and confabulations in our everyday interactions. We start by unraveling the mechanics of intentional deception, where people consciously mislead others to alter beliefs or obscure the truth. Our discussion then transitions to exaggeration—a widespread yet often overlooked form of deception used for storytelling, emphasis, or humor. Through relatable anecdotes, we expose how even harmless exaggeration can erode trust over time.

Next, we explore the realm of confabulations, where individuals unknowingly fabricate false memories or beliefs. These 'honest lies' can have profound effects on relationships and communication. By examining both scientific research and personal experiences, we shed light on the subtle yet significant impact of these phenomena.

Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor as we uncover the delicate balance between truth and falsehood in our interactions, offering insights and reflections that will make you rethink the way you communicate and build trust with others.

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Brene Brown, Clifton, and Gottschall

Resources : 

Brene Brown’s Books: Dare to Lead and Rising Strong

https://brenebrown.com/

Clifton Strengths Finder 2.0

https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/254033/strengthsfinder.aspx

Jonathan Gottschall (2013) - The Story Telling Animal: How Stories Make Us Human

https://www.amazon.com/Storytelling-Animal-Stories-Make-Human/dp/0544002342

Strength Finder Tool: 

https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/252137/home.aspx

Links :

AFAF Episode 13 “The Stories We Make Up”

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/97368b3e753092d12a97c52d74b58cbf

Key and Peele Skit - Text Message Confusion:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=naleynXS7yo

Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor on the latest episode as we dive into understanding the intricacies of healthy relationships. In this episode, we revisit essential topics covered in our previous discussions on spotting red flags (Episode 80) and green flags (Episode 82). We take a retrospective look at episodes 80 through 83, exploring how past experiences and family backgrounds shape our ability to identify warning signs and the role of compassion in this process.

Highlights include a robust discussion on the significance of green flags, such as experiencing genuine happiness and self-assuredness in the presence of a partner. We emphasize the importance of personal growth and boundary setting, underlining how self-awareness contributes to building fulfilling relationships.

Tune in as we stress the educational aspect of our content, offering practical insights aimed at enhancing communication and fostering healthy relationships.

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Links :

AFAF Episode 80: How to Spot Red Flags in Relationships and Dating

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/04fba5aa22def91904d762e99f13460b

AFAF Episode 82: How to Spot Green Flags in Relationships and Dating

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/ee9c3bc999440ea80693b973303b7eeb