Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo delve into the dynamics of introducing a new partner to your family during the holidays. From deciding if your relationship is ready to tackling family traditions and expectations, this episode covers the practical steps and research-backed strategies to ensure the introduction goes smoothly. Learn how to prepare both your partner and your family, manage emotional climates, and debrief effectively post-visit to strengthen your relationship. Grab your cocoa and fluffy socks and tune in for essential tips on creating a supportive and harmonious holiday season.

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Brene Brown

Resources : 

Plamondon, A., & Lachance‐Grzela, M. (2018). What if they are right? Network approval, expectations, and relationship maintenance behaviors. Personal Relationships, 25(2), 190–204.

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2018-18967-001

DePaulo, B. (2022, December 23). The thrill of going to holiday parties alone. Psychology Today.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/202212/the-thrill-of-going-to-holiday-parties-alone

Psychology Today: Should You Meet Your Partner’s Family?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201312/should-you-meet-your-partners-family

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the holiday pressures of gift-giving. They share insights on finding meaningful and thoughtful gifts, the impact of mismatched gifts, and how to avoid financial stress during the holidays. The conversation explores the importance of communication and relationships, practical gift ideas, and the benefits of generosity for both the giver and the receiver. Tune in for tips on how to make your holiday gifting more thoughtful and less stressful.

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SHOW NOTES:

Resources : 

Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer

https://milkweed.org/book/braiding-sweetgrass

The Psychology of Gifting

https://www.reachdesk.com/blog/the-psychology-of-gifting-how-giving-drives-stronger-business-relationships

The Psychology of Giving: Money and Generosity

https://team.monetagroup.com/the-psychology-of-giving-money-and-generosity/

Dr Orna - Interview Clip - why talking about money is difficult (1:22)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKgB41pMf-s

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo explore the profound impact of appearance on personal and professional relationships. From the concept of “pretty privilege” to the influence of grooming and scent, they delve into how your look can shape perceptions and opportunities. The discussion includes insights on confidence, the balance between natural beauty and grooming, and the societal biases tied to physical attributes. Listen in as they share practical advice on controlling aspects of your appearance to make positive first impressions and achieve your goals.

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SHOW NOTES:

Resources : 

Beauty and the Labor Market: Accounting for the Additional Effects of Personality and Grooming (Robins, Homer & French, 2011)

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-9914.2010.00511.x

Links :

AFAF Episode #95: Can't Touch This! The Power of Nonverbal Touch

https://youtu.be/4uMLVaXXDQg

AFAF Episode #99: I Don't Like Your Tone! The Power of Nonverbal Paralanguage

https://youtu.be/Bpyaqgug-XQ

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the importance of editing our speech and the adage, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." They explore the impact of words on relationships and communication, providing insights into when silence is more beneficial than speaking. The conversation touches on practical tools for better communication, the power of curiosity and creativity in speech, and the need to avoid judgmental tendencies. Tune in for practical advice on managing the power of words and improving your relationships.

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Dr. Newberg, Dr. Waldman, Dr. Puff, Dr. Segal

Resources : 

Newberg and Waldman’s Book: Words Can Change Your Brain

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/309487/words-can-change-your-brain-by-andrew-newberg-md-and-mark-robert-waldman/

Dr. Puff’s Article: The Power of Our Words

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meditation-for-modern-life/202301/the-power-of-our-words

Dr. Segal’s Article: What We Say Matters

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-empathy/201810/what-we-say-matters

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo explore practical ways to enhance communication and strengthen relationships among adult siblings. They discuss common challenges such as dealing with aging parents, inheritance conflicts, feeling left out, and more. The hosts emphasize the importance of employing softer startups, repair attempts, and collaborative efforts. They reveal strategies to break old patterns and foster healthier interactions, focusing on curiosity, clear communication, and setting boundaries. Tune in for valuable tips on navigating complex sibling dynamics in your adult life. 

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Dr. Karl Pillemer, Stockner et al., Dr. John Gottman, Jeffrey Kluger

Resources : 

Journal of Family Psychology Article by Stockner, et al. 

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7012710/

Dr. Karl Pillemer’s Book - Fault Lines

https://www.karlpillemer.com/

Dr. John Gottman

https://www.gottman.com/

Jeffrey Kluger from his TED Talk on the Sibling Bond

https://ed.ted.com/lessons/jLvoMSWT

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo dive deep into the complexities of adult sibling relationships. This episode responds to previous discussions about relationships with aging parents and transitions into exploring the significance of sibling relationships in adulthood. Topics include the causes of strain, communication patterns, and the importance of these non-voluntary relationships. The hosts also share personal stories and research insights, setting the stage for the next episode, which will provide practical tools for managing and improving sibling dynamics. Tune in for real, honest, and practical advice to better your relationships! 

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Dr. Karl Pillemer, Stockner et al., Dr. John Gottman, Jeffrey Kluger

Resources : 

Journal of Family Psychology Article by Stockner, et al. 

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7012710/

Dr. Karl Pillemer’s Book - Fault Lines

https://www.karlpillemer.com/

Dr. John Gottman

https://www.gottman.com/

Jeffrey Kluger from his TED Talk on the Sibling Bond

“Our parents leave us too early, our spouses and children come along too late. Our siblings are the only ones who are with us for the entire ride". (Kluger)

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo are joined by Jason Harper, a professional mediator specializing in employment and special education. Jason shares his journey into mediation, the challenges of being a special education mediator, and the strategies he employs to manage difficult conversations involving parents and schools. The discussion also delves into how parents can model healthy conflict resolution for their children, manage their own emotions during conflicts, and foster better communication skills in their kids through role-playing and guided interventions. Dr. Pamela Kreiser and her co-hosts provide additional insights on remaining a safe space for children to discuss conflicts and emphasize the importance of staying engaged in conversations about their interests.

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SHOW NOTES:

Resources : 

Mediator Jason Harper

https://www.hcrservices.com

Links to Episode #30: AFAF with Jason Harper on How to Resolve Conflict

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/YWZhZnBvZGNhc3QucG9kYmVhbi5jb20vOTYxMWNiZDQtNzJiNC0zODYwLWEzNjQtNGUxMjczOWZmZTAw

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo explore the challenges of adulting as both you and your parents age. The hosts explore practical strategies for setting boundaries, handling unsolicited advice, and maintaining healthy communication with older parents. Through humor and insightful discussions, they address common scenarios like unannounced visits and over-involvement, emphasizing the importance of mutual respect and evolving relationships. Tune in for a light-hearted yet informative quiz, expert advice, and real-life examples to improve your relationship dynamics as an adult child.

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Dr. John Gottman

Resource : 

Gottman Institute   https://www.gottman.com/

Links :

#020: Myths of Boundaries

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/c6b431c4b18335a1759db7588986fd0d

#021: Boundaries 101 - How to Say No!

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/8dc8625be3a918b62f8c9d16a1f888f9

#022: Managing Boundaries: How to Manage Difficult People

https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/04a05256443fa4baabf2b3dcbfcc32d9

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the impact of assumptions on relationships and provide practical tools to replace these assumptions with clarity. Through real-life examples, they explore how silent assumptions can fuel misunderstandings and share strategies for fostering open communication and trust. Learn how to avoid common pitfalls like judging intentions, predicting behavior based on past actions, and failing to communicate expectations. Discover the importance of asking clarifying questions and using Brene Brown's technique,”the story I'm telling myself,” to improve your relationships. 

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Dr. Brene Brown, Esther Perel

Resources : 

Dare to Lead by Dr. Brene Brown

https://brenebrown.com/hubs/dare-to-lead/

Esther Perel

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo explore the art of giving feedback. Reflecting on the discomfort of receiving harsh feedback, they present two effective strategies for providing constructive criticism without triggering defensive reactions— the Positive Feedback Sandwich and the Situation-Behavior-Impact (SBI) technique. Alongside discussing research insights from Gottman and the Harvard Business Review, the hosts offer practical examples and scenarios to illustrate these strategies in action, aiming to improve communication and relationships. 

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SHOW NOTES:

Experts :  Dr. John Gottman

Resources : Harvard Business Review

Tools : 

Positive Feedback Sandwich (Mary Kay Ash)

3-part formula:

SBI Tool - Situation, Behavior, Impact (Center for Creative Leadership)