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In this episode, Angelo unpacks one of the most common emotional swings men experience in marriage—the shift from control to collapse. That moment when you go from “I’ve got this” to “forget it, I’m done.” You’ll hear why it happens, what it reveals about leadership under pressure, and how to find the steady middle ground that keeps your marriage calm, connected, and collaborative.

You’ll learn how to recognize the internal parts driving your reactions, what the “control–collapse–check out” cycle really looks like, and what real leadership feels like when it’s rooted in partnership instead of pressure.

🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why men swing between controlling and checking out under stress
✅ The hidden “collapse” moment that drains your leadership energy
✅ The four internal parts driving your reactions—care, skill, responsibility, and survival
✅ How pressure triggers the survival part that takes over and derails connection
✅ What steady, collaborative leadership actually looks and feels like
✅ How to build new patterns that help your wife feel safe, supported, and seen

💡 Key Takeaway:

Real leadership isn’t about controlling outcomes or disappearing when things go sideways—it’s about staying steady. The more you recognize when your survival patterns take over and bring the loving, skilled, responsible parts of you back to the wheel, the more trust and ease return to your marriage.

🔨 Action Steps This Week:

1⃣ Identify your pattern.
Think back to a recent situation where you swung from control to collapse. Name what triggered it and what you felt in your body before you lost your footing.

2⃣ Spot your survival part.
Notice when that reactive version of you takes the wheel. Don’t judge it—just see it. Awareness is what lets you choose a different response.

3⃣ Check in before the chaos.
Before a stressful moment hits—travel day, morning rush, family gathering—take 60 seconds with your wife to align on expectations. Ask what matters to her, share what matters to you, and decide how you’ll support each other.

4⃣ Practice steadiness.
When things start to slip, breathe once before reacting. Say less. Move slower. Let your presence lead instead of your pressure. That’s where real leadership starts.

Small moments of awareness and collaboration prevent the collapse before it begins—and create the kind of home both of you can breathe in.

🧠 Reflection Questions:

❓ Where does your control–collapse pattern show up most often in your life?
❓ How do you imagine your wife experiences you in those moments?
❓ Which part of you (loving, skilled, responsible, or survival) tends to take over first?
❓ What would change if you led with steadiness instead of urgency the next time pressure hits?

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