Learning how to have better communication with your husband begins with learning how to self-regulate and manage your own energy, so you don’t get hooked by his fear.

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1. The biggest problem with the way we communicate now is that we're not even aware that our energy is matching theirs

a. They go into fear

b. We drop into fear and find a story to match it

c. We both end up on the defense the whole time and no one gets anywhere

2. When we are able to stay in an authentic place, this energy of love and not fear, then we can truly listen to their needs and express ours

a. From a place of love I can hear the little boy inside who's scared

b. We can get to the real thing below the words you're saying

3. When someone comes at us with an "when you BLANK I feel BLANK" they're trying to make us responsible for their triggers, their emotions

a. Only from a place of empathy can we help them process the trigger or emotion beneath what they're saying

b. Most communication issues come down to wanting to be understood but not wanting to understand

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