This part of the Mini Series on Developing Secure Attachment is all about Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment. 

I will unpack this attachment style and break it down into how it develops and why, then move toward what this looks like in the research that's been done, and translate it to what it can look like in adulthood. 

Then, I'll discuss what research has taught us about interactions in these cases. In other words, if we are met with a possible solution, does it sooth us? Why or why not? 

Next, we'll look at considerations for regulating and solutions when dealing with these challenges. We'll pay particular attention to ways in which we can regulate the nervous system, and connect inward in order to develop a strong sense of self (essential part of security). 

Lastly, I will spend some talk talking about what happens we are dealing with difficult personalities or toxic dynamics, and get activated in this anxious way. I wanted to make this a separate point, because it is especially important to stay rooted in ourselves in these cases. Furthermore, it is really helpful if we can practice cultivating this sense of security inside us that will allow us to feel safe rather than protective in these situations. 

This might look like no longer feeling the need to justify ourselves or over explain. We may also no longer feel affected by the opinions and judgments of others. 

I hope you enjoy this episode!

Happy listening!

With love,

G 🌸

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