Welcome back to Season 5 of The Relationship Recovery Podcast! After a much-needed break, we’re returning with clarity, intention, and deeper support for anyone feeling stuck in relationship limbo.

In this episode, we explore what it really means when love feels heavy and why finding clarity about whether to stay or go can feel impossible. We break down the trauma responses that keep you looping, the four patterns that show up when you're torn, and how to reconnect with your inner voice so you can make empowered decisions—without pressure or panic.

If you’ve been feeling confused, depleted, or unsure about your relationship, this episode is for you.

In this episode: 

• Why clarity often feels impossible during relationship overwhelm
• The four common patterns: the Guilt Keeper, Overthinker, Trauma Loyalist & Hope Holder
• How trauma cycles and emotional highs/lows keep you stuck
• Why limbo is exhausting—and how to step out of it
• How to return to yourself and rebuild self-trust
• Resources to help you find clarity:
  Take the the free quiz
  The Should I Stay or Should I Go? course
  1:1 coaching

Connect With The Relationship Recovery:

Website: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery

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Ready to build a stronger, more connected relationship? The Relationship Recovery offers coaching for individuals and couples. Book your discovery call today. Use code PODCAST for 50% off. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching.

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

Kierstyn and Tiffany discuss the real challenges and joys of blending families and navigating new relationship dynamics. They emphasize that while merging lives is complex, intentional work can create strong, loving connections. This episode introduces a practical "Non-Negotiables & Negotiables" exercise to help couples clarify individual and family needs, improve communication, and build a foundation where everyone feels love, safety, and belonging. Whether you're newly blending or looking to enhance an existing relationship, this framework offers a tangible starting point.

Key Points Covered:

• Realities of Blending Families: Addressing the complexities of merging different personalities, parenting styles, and individual traumas.

• The "Non-Negotiables & Negotiables" Exercise: A tool for couples to identify core needs (as individuals and parents) and areas for compromise.

• Importance of Clarity: Avoiding assumptions by being specific about what each partner needs and expects.

• Intentional Communication: Stressing that healthy relationships require ongoing, intentional effort.

• Practical Application: Steps to implement the exercise, even if one partner is initially hesitant.

Connect With The Relationship Recovery:

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Email: [email protected]

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Ready to build a stronger, more connected relationship? The Relationship Recovery offers coaching for individuals and couples. Book your discovery call today. Use code PODCAST for 50% off. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching.

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

In this episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany tackle a crucial, often overlooked aspect of healing after a breakup or divorce: having the energy to actually do the healing work. They discuss how emotional depletion can lead to setbacks (like reaching out to an ex or getting stuck) and emphasize the importance of simple, intentional morning routines to refuel your energy reserves. 

Using a marathon analogy, they explain why preparing for your day is vital for navigating the challenges of healing and offer practical, easy-to-implement ideas to boost energy and support your journey without adding pressure or overwhelm.

Key Points Covered:

The Energy Requirement for Healing: Understanding that healing isn't passive; it requires active energy, which is often depleted after relationship turmoil.

Avoiding Depletion & Setbacks: How low energy can lead to poor decisions, reaching back to unhealthy patterns, or feeling too overwhelmed to heal.

Focus on Simplicity & Consistency: Stressing that morning routines don't need to be complex, long, or "Instagram-worthy." Small, consistent actions are key.

Practical Morning Routine Ideas:

• Don't Grab Your Phone First
• Intentional Breathing
• Gratitude Practice
• Short Guided Meditation
• Ground Your Feet
• Hydrate
• Simple Movement
• Starting Small
• The Power of Intentionality

Connect With The Relationship Recovery:

Website: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery

Morning Routine Resource/PDF:  https://www.canva.com/design/DAE9JLvqzbA/eWiiLRD8YNlQs1DIiMyqcg/edit

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving, building the foundation and energy needed for deep healing. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

In this episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany delve into the complexities and difficulties of dating after experiencing an unhealthy or toxic relationship. They validate the common struggles listeners face, explaining why re-entering the dating world can feel incredibly hard and offering practical tools to navigate this journey with more safety and self-awareness. They emphasize that healing is possible and provide actionable steps to move from just surviving past hurts to thriving in future connections.

Key Points Covered:

Understanding Why Dating Feels Hard: Exploring the deep emotional layers and nervous system responses that complicate dating after relationship turmoil.

Lack of Self-Trust: the common issue of self-doubt and fear of repeating past mistakes after betrayal or manipulation.

Emotional Connection to the Past & Trauma Bonds: how lingering trauma bonds and emotional ties can draw you back to familiar (even unhealthy) patterns or make it hard to connect authentically. (References their episode on Trauma Bonds).

Tool: Creating Internal Safety: The importance of regulating your nervous system before dating through techniques like deep breathing and affirmations.

Tool: Shift from Performance to Observation: Moving focus from "Do they like me?" to "How do I feel around them?" to increase self-awareness and reduce people-pleasing.

Tool: Red & Green Flag Lists: Using lists based on past experiences and future desires to gain clarity and stay anchored to your needs and boundaries.

 Tool: Micro-Steps & Building Tolerance: Starting small with dating actions to gradually build comfort and avoid overwhelm.

The Importance of Support: Highlighting the role of a supportive community and safe connections in the healing process.

Challenge for the Week: Practical steps listeners can take immediately, including creating red/green flag lists, reconnecting to self-worth, and taking a small dating step if ready.

Connect With The Relationship Recovery:

Website: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Email: [email protected]

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Affirmation of The Week:

"Despite the hurt I've endured, I choose to keep my heart soft. I embrace letting my painful experiences teach and guide me, not harden me."

Ready to heal from past relationship trauma and confidently step back into dating? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we specialize in guiding individuals like you from the pain of toxic relationships to empowered, healthy connections—starting with the one you have with yourself. Book your discovery call today to explore how we can support your healing journey. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

In this episode Kierstyn and Tiffany discuss common triggers in relationships, emphasizing that everyone experiences triggers and offering insight to help listeners understand what they are experiencing. They stress the importance of not shaming yourself and highlight the significance of recognizing triggers, which often stem from past experiences and unresolved trauma. They share real-life examples and practical tools for navigating triggers to improve relationships.

Key Points Covered:

• Understanding Triggers
• Common Triggers (abandonment, criticism, control, rejection, trust, and betrayal)
• Recognizing Triggers in Yourself and your Partner
• Practical Ways to Regulate your Nervous System
• The Importance of Communication and Seeking Support

Connect With The Relationship Recovery:

Website: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Email: [email protected]
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymD

Affirmation of The Week: 

"Today I choose not to let the hurts of my past keep me from living fully in the present. I deserve warmth, joy, and peace."

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

Feeling stuck in limbo can be one of the hardest and most frustrating experiences. Whether you’re caught in a toxic relationship, struggling with self-doubt, or unsure of your next steps, that paralyzing sense of uncertainty can make even small decisions feel impossible.

We’ve been there. We know how heavy it feels when past choices haunt you, making it hard to trust yourself to make better ones. And if you’ve experienced the trauma of an abusive relationship, getting unstuck isn’t as simple as just "deciding" to move forward—it takes intentional work, self-awareness, and the right tools.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down what keeps you stuck and sharing a powerful technique to help you take the first step toward freedom. You’ll learn how to recognize your body’s warning signals, use small but effective strategies to shift your mindset, and start reclaiming your confidence—one step at a time.

Key Takeaways:

✔️ Understanding the Stuck Cycle – Why we sometimes choose to stay in limbo to protect ourselves from the unknown.
✔️ The Power of Awareness – How paying attention to your body's early warning signals can help break the cycle.
✔️ The 90-Second Distraction Rule – Simple, science-backed techniques to ground yourself before overwhelm takes over.
✔️ Why Baby Steps Matter – The importance of small, intentional actions in regaining control and confidence.

If you’re feeling trapped, know that you can break free. Tune in to learn how to take that first small, yet powerful, step toward clarity and healing.

Get the Support You Need:

📚 10 Books to Support Your Healing: www.therelationshiprecovery.com
💡 Should I Stay or Should I Go? : www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

Connect With Us:

🌐 Website: www.therelationshiprecovery.com
📩 Email: [email protected]
📲 Instagram: @therelationshiprecovery
 

You're not alone in this. If you're ready to break free from the cycle of feeling stuck and start creating the life you deserve, let’s take this first step together.

Are you questioning your relationship? Wondering if you should stay or walk away? This is one of the most common questions we receive at The Relationship Recovery. In today’s episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany are diving deep into how to assess your relationship with clarity, whether you’re noticing red flags, feeling stuck in a toxic cycle, or simply wanting to improve your connection.

They break down four key steps that will help you tune into your intuition, evaluate your relationship dynamics, and determine your next steps with confidence. Whether you’re still in the relationship or already out and seeking validation, this episode is packed with insights to guide your journey.

Key Points Covered:

✔️ Listening to Your Intuition: If something feels off, trust that feeling and start paying attention to your energy and emotions around your partner.
✔️ Journaling for Clarity: Write down your thoughts, patterns, and feelings—seeing it on paper can bring major insights.
✔️ Assessing Actions vs. Words: Is your partner following through? Are you making excuses for their behavior?
✔️ Tracking Relationship Patterns: Try marking your calendar with “good” and “bad” days to get a clear visual of your relationship trends.

If you’re feeling uncertain, this episode will help you gain clarity and take the first step toward healing—whether that means staying, setting boundaries, or preparing to leave.

Want more guidance?

➡️ Enroll in our Should I Stay or Should I Go Course for deeper insights: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

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Connect With The Relationship Recovery:

Website: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Email: [email protected]
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymD

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

In this episode of The Relationship Recovery, Kierstyn and Tiffany are diving into the warning signs you shouldn’t ignore in relationships. From emotional manipulation and insecurity to lack of communication and controlling behavior, we’re breaking down the biggest red flags that signal unhealthy dynamics. Whether you’re dating, in a long-term relationship, or reflecting on past experiences, this episode will help you recognize toxic patterns, trust your intuition, and set healthy boundaries to protect your peace.

Key Points Covered:

Understanding Red Flags in Relationships

Lack of Communication

Irresponsibility and Immaturity

Lack of Trust

Family and Friends' Opinions

Controlling Behavior

Insecurity in Relationships

Dark or Secretive Past

Abusive Behavior

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymD

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

In this episode Kierstyn and Tiffany tackle the difficult topic of finding your confidence after being cheated on. They acknowledge the hurt, confusion, and self-doubt that betrayal brings and offer practical steps to rebuild self-worth, set boundaries, and move toward healthier relationships.

Key Points Covered:

Emotional Impact of Infidelity
Untangling Identity
Refocusing on Yourself
Addressing Worth Issues
Setting Boundaries
Reframing "I'm Not Enough"
Rebuilding Trust in Yourself and Others

Listener Q&A:

How to start rebuilding confidence
How to stop comparing yourself to the person they cheated with
How to trust again

Affirmation of the Week: 

"I'm not responsible for the actions and behaviors of another person. I'm accountable for my own actions and behaviors and for my healing and for healing myself."

Special Offer: 50% off the Discovery call, use coupon code PODCAST at checkout.https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Connect With The Relationship Recovery:

Website: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Email: [email protected]
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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymD

Affirmation of The Week: "I embrace the opportunity to heal the relationship I have with myself so that I may have healthy relationships with others."

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

In this episode of The Relationship Recovery we discuss the ins and outs of coaching as a modality for healing from relationship trauma. We break down what coaching is, who it's for, the differences between coaching and therapy, and how you can work with us. 

Key Points Covered in this Episode: 

• What is Coaching?
• The Importance of Finding the Right Coach
• Coaching vs. Therapy
• Who Is Coaching For?
• Changing the relationships you have with yourself
• Trauma-Informed Coaching
• What is Coaching at The Relationship Recovery Like?
• Signs Coaching Might Be Right for You

Special Offer: 50% off the Discovery call, use coupon code PODCAST at checkout.https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Connect With The Relationship Recovery:

Website: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Email: [email protected]
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymD

Affirmation of The Week: "I embrace the opportunity to heal the relationship I have with myself so that I may have healthy relationships with others."

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.