In this special episode, Tiffany and Kierstyn turn the tables and get interviewed by their friends Frankie and Jess. Join us as we delve into a powerful conversation exploring relationship trauma, triggers, and the path to healing. 

Key Points: 

Behind the Hiatus: Learn about the break from the podcast and social media and how it benefited their mental health.

Trauma & Triggers: Understand how past traumas manifest in relationships and learn strategies for managing triggers.

The “Let Them” Theory: why it’s critical to separate your reaction from other people’s choices.

Why boundaries are key to healthy relationships: How to establish and maintain healthy boundaries?

A big thank you to Frankie and Jess for having us on their show and being willing to share this episode with our Relationship Recovery audience!

Resources and Links:

Frankie and Jess Podcast: If you haven't listened to Frankie and Jess, subscribe to their podcast!

Book a Discovery Call: Begin your healing journey with personalized support from Tiffany and Kiersten: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Breakup Book of Affirmations: Use positive affirmations to support you: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations

4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294 and https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748)

"It's Okay Not to Be Okay" by Megan Devine (https://www.amazon.com/Its-Okay-Not-Be-Okay/dp/1622039076)

I Want to Trust You But I Don't by Lisa Turkurst (https://www.amazon.com/Want-Trust-You-But-Dont/dp/0718097972)

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233, https://www.thehotline.org/

Utah Domestic Violence Coalition: 1-800-897-LINK (5465), https://udvc.org/

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 This episode is going to be a little bit different and really special. We're giving you an exclusive sneak peek into our five hour on demand class called Finding Joy in a Difficult Season.

This episode is from Kirsten's talk that she did called Experiencing Joy Despite the Chaos. In this class, we focus on practical tools to help you not just survive but thrive even in challenging seasons. 

Get ready to reclaim the holidays and make them a time of joy and connection!

HELP THROUGH THE HOLIDAY SEASON

Finding Joy in a Difficult Season

Holiday Survival Guide

GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY CIRCLE!!

Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠
Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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In this episode, we’re diving into the unique challenges of navigating the holiday season while prioritizing your peace and well-being. For those recovering from toxic relationships or managing tricky family dynamics, the holidays can feel more stressful than joyful. We’re here to share actionable tips for setting and holding boundaries, helping you create a season filled with meaningful connection—on your terms.

Tune in to learn why boundaries are an act of self-love and how they can protect your emotional energy during this bustling time of year.

Key Points Covered: 

• The Power of Boundaries: Why they’re essential during the holidays, especially for those recovering from toxic relationships.
• The Yes/No Balance: How saying no strategically increases the value and authenticity of your yes.
• Setting a Holiday Intention: Start the season with a clear affirmation to prioritize your peace and well-being.
• Identifying Non-Negotiables: Reflect on what truly matters to you this holiday season to stay grounded.
• Actionable Strategies: Tips to handle nosy relatives, avoid overextending yourself, and protect your mental health.

Get ready to reclaim the holidays and make them a time of joy and connection!

HELP THROUGH THE HOLIDAY SEASON

Finding Joy in a Difficult Season

Holiday Survival Guide

GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY CIRCLE!!

Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠
Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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We’re diving into a topic that can add extra stress to an already busy time of year—Dealing with a Narcissist During The Holidays.  Whether it’s grandiose gestures meant to steal the spotlight or covert manipulation that drains your energy, navigating the holidays with someone exhibiting narcissistic tendencies can feel overwhelming.

In this episode we’ll explore the two key types of narcissistic behaviors—grandiose and covert—sharing insights, personal experiences, and practical strategies to help you preserve your peace and joy this holiday season.

Key Points Covered

• Holiday Narcissistic Dynamics
• Types of Narcissistic Behaviors:
• Grandiose Narcissism
• Vulnerable/Covert Narcissism
• How to Set Boundaries and Protect Your Energy 
• Detach with Love:
• Focus on Joy

HELP THROUGH THE HOLIDAY SEASON

Finding Joy in a Difficult Season

Holiday Survival Guide

GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY CIRCLE!!

Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠
Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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The holiday season can be magical, but for co-parents, it often comes with unique challenges. From missed moments with your kids to the emotional tug-of-war that holidays can bring, this time of year can feel overwhelming. In today’s episode, we’re sharing practical tips to help you create a meaningful holiday season—even if it looks different from what you envisioned—and navigate high-conflict co-parenting with grace and clarity.

Key Points Covered

• Reframing Holiday Traditions
• Holding Space for Emotions
• Communication in High-Conflict Co-Parenting
• Sticking to the Parenting Plan
• Focus on What You Can Control
• Blended Family Dynamics

HELP THROUGH THE HOLIDAY SEASON

Holiday Survival Guide

GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY CIRCLE!!

Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠
Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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Kids and Divorce. In this episode we dive into one of the most common fears parents face when navigating divorce: how it will affect their children. In this episode, we break it all down. From dispelling common myths about divorce and children, to understanding the impact of high-conflict environments versus peaceful separation, we explore how divorce doesn’t always mean a negative outcome for kids. 
We also touch on the healing process and provide practical strategies for supporting your children through this transition. Whether you’re currently navigating a divorce or helping someone who is, this episode offers a compassionate, research-backed approach to protecting your child’s emotional well-being.

Key Points Covered:

• Myths About Divorce and Kids
• The Impact of Conflict vs. Separation
• Supporting Your Child Emotionally
• Building a Strong Parent-Child Relationship
• The Healing Process for Parents and Kids
• Co-Parenting Tips for Future Episodes

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Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠
Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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Why do people go back to their exes, even in toxic or abusive relationships? In this episode we break it all down. From the science of trauma bonds, which can create addiction-like patterns in the brain, making it incredibly challenging to walk away to fear of being alone and more. This episode is a safe space to release shame, gain understanding, and provide support for listeners who may be grappling with the decision to leave. We also offer insights for friends and family on how to be supportive without judgment, creating a compassionate path forward for everyone involved.

Key Points Covered:

• Patterned Behavior and Generational Cycles
• Trauma Bonds and Toxic Relationships
• Personal Story of an Abusive Relationship
• Cultural and Generational Influence
• Cycle of Abuse and Difficulty in Leaving
• Breaking the Cycle of Trauma Bonds
• Strategies for Overcoming Toxic Relationship Patterns
• Living Beyond the Relationship

GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY CIRCLE!!

Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠
Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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Welcome back to the Relationship Recovery Podcast! In today’s episode, we’re diving into questions from our listeners on attachment styles and healing post-breakup. We explore the idea that sometimes, even in relationships, we can feel alone—and how taking time to truly be on our own can be a crucial step toward healing. If you’ve recently gone through a breakup or are curious about attachment styles and independence, this episode is for you. We discuss why time alone is not just okay—it’s actually a powerful part of recovery. So let’s get into your questions and uncover some strategies to find strength, peace, and growth after heartbreak. 

Key Points Covered:

• Understanding Attachment Styles: We’ll explore secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment styles and how they impact your relationships.
• Identifying Your Own Style: Practical tips to help you recognize your attachment style and understand how it shapes your feelings and actions.
• Managing Different Styles in Relationships: Tools for creating understanding and open communication when attachment styles differ.
• Working Toward a Secure Attachment: Strategies for building a more grounded and confident approach to relationships.
• Domestic Violence and Attachment: The impact of domestic violence on attachment and support resources, including the Dear Utah movement and Fight Against Domestic Violence.
• Moving Forward with Confidence: Encouragement and practical steps to help you create healthier, more fulfilling connections.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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Ever wonder why you’re drawn to certain relationship dynamics or how to move beyond patterns that just aren’t working? This episode is all about the powerful impact of attachment styles—your unique relationship blueprint that can shape everything from friendships to romantic connections. By understanding your attachment style, you can unlock insights to foster stronger, healthier bonds. Let’s explore this transformative path together!

Key Points Covered:

• Attachment Style Basics: We break down the four attachment styles—secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant—explaining how each one influences your approach to relationships.
• Why It Matters: Discover why these patterns often stem from early experiences and how they might be affecting your current relationships.
• Moving Toward Secure Attachment: We’ll share practical strategies to shift towards a more secure attachment style, building the foundation for deeper, more fulfilling connections.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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In this episode of The Relationship Recovery Podcast, Kierstyn and Tiffany delve into the subconscious patterns that often trap individuals in toxic relationships.

They identify four key patterns:

1.  Low self-esteem, where individuals may accept mistreatment due to undervaluing themselves
2. Unhealthy relationship dynamics learned in childhood, which make toxic behavior feel familiar
3. Hope and denial, where individuals hold on to the hope of change or deny the severity of the issues
4. Fear of being alone, which can prevent individuals from leaving harmful relationships.

By shedding light on these patterns, Kierstyn and Tiffany aim to empower listeners to break free from toxic relationships and foster healthier connections.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

Follow us:
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