The Inherent Identity Podcast

159. Breaking Free from Shame: The Hidden Dangers of High Standards


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Episode Summary:

In this episode, we dive into the pitfalls of setting high standards and the potential for shame that can accompany them. We explore how religious and self-improvement standards, such as those found in "The Family: A Proclamation to the World," can inadvertently lead to feelings of inadequacy and shame if approached from a place of "not-enoughness." By contrast, integrating grace and a deeper connection with Christ into our lives can transform these standards into powerful tools for growth.


Key Takeaways:

  • Higher Standards = Higher Shame Potential: Raising standards without grace can lead to self-judgment and feelings of inadequacy.
  • The Role of Religious Documents: Documents like "The Family: A Proclamation to the World" are intended to inspire, but when viewed through a lens of shame, they can be damaging.
  • Connecting with God: Reframing our approach by seeking God's perspective can shift our relationship with these standards, moving from shame to grace.
  • Practical Application: Using standards as a way to connect deeper with who we really are, rather than as tools for self-criticism, can lead to significant personal growth.
  • Higher Standards + Higher Grace = Higher Growth Potential: Balancing high standards with abundant grace creates the optimal environment for personal and spiritual growth.

  • Action Steps:

    1. Reevaluate Your Standards: Consider how your current standards impact your sense of self-worth. Are they leading to shame or growth?
    2. Seek God's Perspective: Take time to pray and connect with God about the standards you follow. What is He truly asking of you?
    3. Commit to Grace: When setting high standards, also commit to giving yourself grace when you fall short. Use each experience as an opportunity to reconnect with Christ.
    4. Connect for Deeper Help: If you're ready to transform your life and deepen your connection with Christ, reach out to discuss 1:1 coaching opportunities.

    5. Contact Information:

      For more information or to inquire about 1:1 coaching, email Tyson at [email protected].


      Resources Mentioned:

      • "The Family: A Proclamation to the World"

      • Closing Thoughts:

        Remember, God cares more about your relationship with Him than any standard you might follow. By integrating grace into your life, you can transform even the highest standards into a pathway for exponential growth.

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