What do you do when you feel stuck?

You’ve awakened to union. You’ve deconstructed beliefs that used to shape your life. You have clarity of thought… but not clarity of direction. And the weird part is: you don’t want to go back — you just don’t know how to move forward.

In this episode, we unpack 5 common reasons people get stuck after deconstruction (and why it’s not failure), plus real-life examples of what “stuckness” can look like when your beliefs have changed faster than your life knows how to hold it.

We also talk about:
Why being stuck isn’t laziness — it might be wisdom
The difference between deconstruction and formation
How losing a framework can feel like losing belonging
Why Sundays can feel “empty” (and how to reframe what Sundays are for)
Hypervigilance, certainty addiction, and scanning for what’s wrong
How stuckness often ends… when striving ends

And we close with a reframe that might change everything:
Maybe the question isn’t “How do I get unstuck?”
Maybe it’s “What is this season teaching me to release?”

00:00 - Welcome + Like/Subscribe
00:38 - IU Football Wins the National Championship
01:31 - Leadership Lessons From IU’s Turnaround
02:22 - 2026 Life + Union After Deconstruction
02:57 - Today’s Topic: What to Do When You Feel Stuck
03:45 - Stuckness Isn’t More Learning—It’s Living Differently
05:12 - Common “Stuck” Thoughts People Carry
06:15 - Reason #1: Awareness Grew Faster Than Wisdom
10:26 - Reason #2: Lost the Old Framework Before Building a New One
13:56 - Reason #3: Deconstruction Isn’t the Same as Formation
15:41 - Reason #4: Lost External Permission Before Internal Trust
17:14 - Reason #5: Afraid to Rebuild Anything That Resembles the Old Life
20:46 - Reassurance: Feeling Stuck Isn’t Failure
21:51 - “The Meantime Is a Time” + Unlearning the Rush
22:34 - Example #1: Not Arguing Anymore—Just Quieter
23:50 - Example #2: Less Reactive… But Feeling Less Passionate
24:46 - Example #3: Stopped Fixing People—Now What’s My Role?
25:47 - Example #4: Want Community Without the Old Rules
27:16 - Example #5: Waiting Isn’t Laziness—It’s Wisdom
28:48 - Better Question: What Is This Season Teaching Me?
30:16 - When Striving Ends, Stuckness Often Ends
30:43 - Map vs. Compass: Learning to Walk Without Certainty
31:12 - Grace, Patience, and Staying Open to the Spirit
32:02 - Next Episode: Staying Tender Without Becoming Cynical
32:50 - Closing: You’re Loved (Nothing You Can Do About It)