Love Each Other Better

30: Use Your Words: How to Speak Honestly, Stop the Guessing Games, and Get What You Need


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We tell kids to "use your words" — but the truth is, most adults still don't know how.

We hide our feelings, fear sounding "needy," and hope our partners will just know what we need — then feel hurt or resentful when they don't.

In this episode, I unpack why adult communication breaks down so often, how unmet needs and unspoken feelings quietly sabotage our relationships, and why using your words — with clarity, vulnerability, and skill — can be the most powerful thing you do to get closer, feel seen, and have your needs met.

You'll learn how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) helps you speak honestly without starting a fight, and how this one shift — using your words intentionally — can change everything in your relationship, from tension, frustration, and resentment to clarity, closeness, and care.

🎧 Whether you're feeling misunderstood, walking on eggshells, or just tired of the same old arguments — this one's for you.

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